I broke up with my boyfriend because he ignored me for a long period of time, I would call him, he wouldnt asnwer, then he would make excuses for why he didnt answer. Then he would say his life is so busy that he just has to put me aside for a while. Then when I tried to talk to him about feeling unappreciated he would get upset and yell at me. Then he told me he would see me one night but instead went to some party and didnt reply to my text messages.
After we broke up I talked to him about trying to settle our differences and he wouldnt even try, he just kept trying to make me feel guilty for breaking up with him. So I didn't talk to him for 2 weeks. Then last night he calls me and tells me he's thinking about me and that he's really sick and he cant stop crying. But when I asked him why he called me he'd just say 'i duno'.
I'm so confused. I really need some closure on this, I dont know what to do. Should I talk to him again so I can get closure?
2007-02-27 09:01:41 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
...move on away from this fella sweetie. He has emotional as well as some anxiety type driven behavioral problems obsessively. He's not treating you respectfully at all...and no one deserves that kinda crap seriously. Let the dust settle for awhile hun. If he can't pull himself together in a couple of weeks...he probably never will unfortunately. Life is difficult for some individuals darling. Don't let it be difficult for you though.
2007-02-27 09:08:46 · answer #1 · answered by scott s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This exboyfriend appears to be immature and self-focused. Lacking in any kind of empathy and consideration, he has, in the past, ignored you; refused to respond; has been aggressive and nasty when you wanted to approach him to discuss your relationship. Now he is trying a new tactic and that is to attempt to make you feel "guilty". His attempt to control your emotions now has him telling you that he can't stop crying and that he is really sick. When you ask him to explain...he responds by saying..."I dunno".
Now tell me; realistically, what are the chances here for a relationship of equals? His attempts to control through anger and manipulation raise red flags. He is immature and selfish and inconsiderate to say the least. I would advise you to stay away from this person and if you need to do so, get professional advice from a relationship counsellor. You may have some problems with self esteem. You can do much better. Don't accept this kind of treatment. Walk away!
2007-02-27 17:11:20 · answer #2 · answered by Jo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They guy sounds like he was just bored and has nobody in his life at the moment and was only using you for somebody to chat with. Some guys are such morons who don't have a clue how to treat people. I would move on from such a loser. You deserve better. Anybody that ignores your calls is no gentlemen. He should at least have the kindness and consideration to confront you and be a man. He unfortunately doesn't have those qualities.
Trust me, he will get his...they always do. It's called Karma.
2007-02-27 17:08:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should talk to him, and find out what he want from you, and tell him what you want from him and make sure he understand what you want. It is not all about him it is about you to, and your needs; if he can not respect you he is no good for you.
Men do not know what they got until they lose it, they try to find someone better or the same and when they can not they come running back, saying how much they need them. when they see you have move on with your life then they now that they made a mistake.
2007-02-27 17:12:51 · answer #4 · answered by lucky13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you need closure if you broke up with him? Just leave him alone, he'll get over it. Sounds like he's the one that really needs the closure , but if you mattered that much to him, he wouldn't have done what he did while you were together.
2007-02-27 17:05:49 · answer #5 · answered by ßαßε 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he's just a boyfriend, move on and get another. Dont tie yourself down with a loser, there is no life lesson learned by doing that, you would be better off learning how to find a decent guy than trying to make a relationship work that isnt.
2007-02-27 17:05:48 · answer #6 · answered by tomhale138 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No u only get closure by solving the problem and moving on
2007-02-27 17:08:29 · answer #7 · answered by Renea 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are just waisting your time. Move on. For what you are saying this guy doesn´t deserve you. He just want to have you available for when he feels like. Most of the time girls don´t want to let it go because we are afraid of being alone, we like the guy...So we end up making excuses to ourselves for our boyfriends behavior. Before you see it you spend a lot of time suffering for someone who didn´t care as much as you deserved. Believe me, I know.
2007-02-27 17:08:40 · answer #8 · answered by Friend 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he really missing you or were you guys sexual active? That's what you should be asking yourself. Because if he's just missing you for the sex, tell him to use his hand or someone else cause you are done giving it up for him. Change your numbers, delete his and go have a wild girls night to forget him.
2007-02-27 17:06:29 · answer #9 · answered by mj16140 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't call him again. He sounds like a player to me. I think he was flirting with other women all along. May be yesterday he couldn't find a girl so he called you. Don't be so cheap. Dump him for good. Good luck!
2007-02-27 17:06:10 · answer #10 · answered by Princess of Egypt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋