I am a nice guy, sorta handsome and funny...but here is the kicker, I am paralyzed from waist down. Meeting women online is cool but it seems once they find this out they treat me cold and or run. I don't want to be alone forever. I feel they are not even giving me a chance. I guess their loss but I'm getting sick of it. Oh, I got this way from a car accident two years ago and haven't dated since.
2007-02-27 09:00:26 · 11 answers · asked by dontcallmecrippled 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Definitely time to get out there! I don't know how old you are, but if you're an adult, take a non-credit class at a community college. Cooking, woodworking, etc. Then don't be afraid to make the first move and really talk to people. They'll know right off the bat that you use a wheelchair, and then it will be up to you to show them who you really are. Volunteering is another great way. There are places other than the City Mission where you can donate your time - just surf the net for opportunities in your area. Also, if you enjoy reading (and you do sound pretty literate :O) ) then find (or start) a book club. Church is the other thing if you are religious. Good luck to you!
2007-02-27 09:07:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might just be the shock of hearing this that sends them running. You need to get out and meet people face to face. Show them all the things you are very capable of, instead of leaving them to guess what you are incapable of. I'm sure that you are capable of having fun right?? So, get out there!! Go to a club, go to a community dance, or whatever social event you like. When people see you having fun and hear how fun you are to be around, they will come to you, instead of you looking for them. Try to go with some friends. This way, anyone who might be shy about the idea of a person who is paralyzed, can see there is nothing to scared about. I think the thing that probably scares off most girls is the fear of the unknown. Be patient with people and willing to answer questions, and when they see it doesn't stop you, it won't stop them either.
Good luck.
2007-02-27 09:14:38 · answer #2 · answered by jessnbethsmom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being paralyzed does tend to scare girls away, but that's just the shallow girls. There is someone out there for you. My advice, try meeting a girl in person instead of online, then right away they know you are paralyzed. Smile, be polite, and start up an exciting convorsation. Your personality will hide your issue. Some girl is going to love you. Do not get discourage. Best of luck to you and your happy ending...
--Bowski--
2007-02-27 09:08:21 · answer #3 · answered by Bowski 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The Internet is prob. not the best way to go. I mean who knows who you are talking to on the other end. Do you seriously want someone that shallow anyway. The right person will come along until then do stuff you enjoy. If you do stuff you enjoy you will meet more people with your interests. This broadens the field quite a bit.
2007-02-27 09:07:45 · answer #4 · answered by danielle_renee119 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't get your hopes down. The right one will come along that will accept you as you are. You never know where you will meet that special someone. Who knows it may even be in the grocery store. I think the saying is mostly true that you find that certain someone when you least expect it and not even looking...Good luck and I wish you the best.
2007-02-27 09:04:23 · answer #5 · answered by jlynna10 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's going to harder than it was before, can't lie about that.
Can't lie to yourself about that either, but at the same time you have to make sure that you're not still hung up on it. If you're uncomfortable about your new situation, women will smell it on you a mile away.
Beyond that you just have to make sure your putting yourself out there at least twice as hard as before. Paralyzed or not, the number one "sexy" that women find in men, is their confidence level. How confidient you are in yourself and about yourself is directly linked to how "powerful" or "attractive" you seem.
2007-02-27 09:18:06 · answer #6 · answered by arjo_reich 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
meeting women online is not working for you. try finding singles meetings, singles/dating associations. sounds like you've been talking to the shallow ones out there.
2016-03-29 03:33:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok just go to a club and pop a wheely and dance with it.. just playing, but seriously stop being on the internet dating, go out to clubs partys make people laugh as soon as you get in, after a while you will have no problem finding someone.
2007-02-27 09:06:06 · answer #8 · answered by el_mex_vato 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well what you can do is that you can ask a doctor to find a girl who is just like you or you can still do the online dating and if they run or don't want to talk to you then they probably don't know what there missing because people should judge a book by its cover!
2007-02-27 09:05:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
First always think positive and remember there is someone for everyone, but most importantly be upfront about yourself before your date sees you, and that is only being fair.
2007-02-27 09:04:34 · answer #10 · answered by sweetladytease 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋