im still with my girlfriend of 2 1/2 years, shes a good person but ive discovered that we have absolutely nothing in common. its difficult to carry on even the most basic of conversations, and we can't relate on anything. we're that couple at the restaurant who aren't talking, but just staring at our food. i just feel like im old when im with her and have nothing else to look forward to in life. recently ive met this other girl (in a career oriented place) who im finding that i have a lot in common with. im the kind of guy who will NOT go out with another girl when im a relationship if i am interested in the other. so im just taking every rare opportunity to enjoy the time i have getting to know this new girl.
so just talk to my girlfriend and break it off? not that easy. we live together and she is financially hard-off and could not make it on her own without someone to split expenses with, and i can't with a good conscious put her out on the street. any ideas of what to do?
2007-02-27
09:00:20
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my girlfriend is extremely into the idea of us as a couple and believes i am the greatest thing to ever happen to her, so i know ending the relationship would devastate her, but i don't know how much longer i can deal with being in a relationship i'm just not happy in.
2007-02-27
09:02:31 ·
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I have been in the same situation as this, but you really do have to put your own happiness first, or you will end up resenting her for it. You cant make guilt stop you from going your own way. Especially if you want to be with this new girl you need to break it off with your girlfriend fast or you might miss your chance. Trust me on this life is too short to stick around with someone you love but arent in love with anymore, it only gets worse! good luck and go for it :)
2007-02-27 09:05:13
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answered by Anonymous
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Your name isn't Jared is it? Just kidding thats my boyfriends name and we are in the same kind of predicament. If you really feel that way you need to talk to your girlfriend and let her know. Tell her that you feel like the relationship is at a hault. Try something to spice up the relationship. Think about all the things that attracted you to her in the beginning and bring back the qualities that attracted her to you. Do something together that you have never done before. Just the two of you. Now if things dont seem to be going anywhere even after that... suggest to her that you will be roommates for a little while and try not being together for a while and see how that works out. Whatever you do, don't be bitter with her... if you keep on going with her and you dont tell her anything you two will have a hate towards each other for the rest of your lives. As for the other girl.. kinda put her on hold until you figure out what you are going to do with your girlfriend.
Its funny that you added the last part... If your girlfriend really cares about you then she will understand and she will only want you to be truly happy. she will hurt and she will cry, but if she loves you, she will let you go.
2007-02-27 09:09:37
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answered by lilmama1822 2
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I WAS your girlfriend in this situation. What I mean by that is I was with someone for 9 years and married to him. He felt exactly as you do. Instead of talking to me about it he just cheated and then left me.
If you really care about your girlfriend, you need to tell her what's going on. As much as it may hurt her now, at least she can move on now instead of stringing her along for weeks, months, years. If she can't make it on her own, give her a time frame- I'll be leaving in x amount of days, or weeks and give her some time to find another living situation.
Please don't remain in a relationship that you do not want to be in. Be honest about how you're feeling and move on. You don't want her to think things are ok and then just pull the rug out from under her one day way down the road. That's what happened to me and I was devastated.
My point is...with time she WILL get over it...I have. You just need to do the right thing here, and that is tell her, and end it....
2007-02-27 09:29:26
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answered by NikkiWy 2
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Well! It seems you've got yourself into a tight situation here. Well my advice, as a girl, is to call up your girl and ask her how she feels about your relationship. If she thinks it's not working out, tell how you feel and maybe suggest you guys could still be friends and you can still help her out with her bills and things like that until she finds another man, or she can support herself on her own. If she still likes you, tell her you do too, but you don't think you are connecting as well as you used to and you need some space. Then tell the other girl about your situation, and if she has a good heart, she will let you work things out with your girlfriend, and after that you can get to know eachother better. My best of luck to you and I will keep you in my prayers!
2007-02-27 09:09:46
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answered by Trisha 4
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chances are, you are only thinking this because you think the other girl is so much better. if you would just think about it, you'd see that 2 1/2 years is not due to coincidence. if she loves you, chances are there's something you feel for her too. my bf and i have absolutely nothing in common, but we make it work by learning new and interesting things together, and i wouldn't have it any other way. just find something to do with your girlfriend that you'd both enjoy and get to know eachother all over again
2007-02-27 09:05:45
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answered by *autumn*rustle* 3
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have u informed ur g/f approximately the different woman? u ought to discern its out on my own no begging for others forgiveness for ur movements if u saved it in ur pants u n ur g/f may well be residing in comparable abode ACTON'S CREATE REACTIONS my as quickly as love has taught me lacking him plenty yet shifting on
2016-11-26 19:26:03
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answered by ? 4
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