My son whines over everything. It does not matter if you are trying to help him or asking him if he would like to bring some toys into the living room to play. He whines at the drop of a hat. I can't make him stop. This started about 1 1/2 years ago and has only gotten worse. He has not had a father figure in his life until the past year when I met the most wonderful man who tries his best to be patient with him. But even he is starting to lose his cool. I am afraid that he, knowing that my children are not his, will get tired of the constant whining in the house and leave. He loves my children very much and would do anything for them. (I have two daughters - ages 5 and 7 as well) My son has been surrounded by females his entire life and he needs to toughen up. He doesn't play like most boys his age. I can't take the whining anymore. I have tried removing him from activities, putting him in time out, talking with him about whining, and I have even whined back at him. Nothing works!HELP
2007-02-27 08:51:02 · 13 answers · asked by alisha9679 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Hmmm. Since he's only 2 1/2 he's not going to respond as easily as an older child. Check out this article...kind of interesting from your son's perspective:
http://www.handinhandparenting.org/csArticles/articles/000000/000032.htm
2007-02-27 08:57:15 · answer #1 · answered by shannonscorpio 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a two year old and I'm starting to experience this as well. I do not react. If she wants a Spongebob snack and is just whining to get it I ignore her. She gets fustrated and starts to cry and eventually gives up. I ask her later, after she's calmed down if she would like a spongebob snack and she'll say yeah and I tell her to say please and she does. I don't know how this will work in the long run like, if it will stop the whining but, I'm hoping that it will teach her that whining is getting her nowhere.
Good luck!
2007-02-27 09:02:43 · answer #2 · answered by Lissy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
2 yr olds usually whine because they want attention or because they haven't gotten their way. You need to figure out why he's whining. When it's for attention, only respond when he's not whining ("l'll get your drink when you ask nicely"). You need to teach him the way you want him to ask. A punishment won't help because you aren't teaching an alternative to the whining. If he's whining because he hasn't gotten his way, go through the options (you can get another toy, wait your turn, or play in the other room, etc.). Best of luck - it will end:)
2007-02-27 09:02:28 · answer #3 · answered by bibliobethica 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A toddler's brain is physiologically wired to be selfish. There's nothing you can do about it. As far as he's concerned it is all about him and nothing matters but him. I'm not sure if it applies to whining but when children throw fits over every little thing (like my girlfriends 4 year old) it's best to completely ignore it so that they learn that they are going to gain nothing by it. Don't forget - kids want attention and even bad attention is still attention.
2007-02-27 09:10:22 · answer #4 · answered by whatever_3645 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When he wines, just look at him, tell him to talk like a big boy. If he continues, look away from him and go about doing whatever it is you're doing. It sounds like he wants the attention. When he doesn't whine, reward him. Maybe an extra snack(Healthy or not), maybe a extra bedtime story. Make play dates with boys for him.
2007-02-27 08:56:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to boy him up a bit, maybe your wonderful man will get more involved taking on outings etc. My husband and my 5 year old son do many things together on their own. Sometimes it is so much better to let a boy have a man's view on things. My husband is teaching him how to be a strong, confident person without having this sense of entitlement that kids today seem to have.
2007-02-27 08:56:22 · answer #6 · answered by chelebeee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't pay attention to him until he changes his voice, Tell him that Mommy cant hear him when he talks like that. Then the hard part is to ignore him when he does whine. When he changes his voice make sure that you give him positive reinforcement and pay attention to him and help him immediately.
2007-02-27 08:58:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wear earplugs
2007-02-27 08:54:21 · answer #8 · answered by AL IS ON VACATION AND HAS NO PIC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just say to him that you will not talk to him unless he can use a nice voice. And then you have to ignore him until he stops. Then when he does use a nice voice, praise praise and more praise.
2007-02-27 10:50:27 · answer #9 · answered by disneychick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is only 2. Just going through terrible 2's nothing you can do about it!
2007-02-27 08:56:01 · answer #10 · answered by ncc742 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋