I have a friend I would like to include in the wedding party, but unfortunately there is just no room (physically!) at the altar to add another person. I would still like her to be in the wedding, so I was thinking about asking her to be an honorary bridesmaid (I've seen this done at another wedding). She would still be invited to all events, would walk down the aisle before the bridesmaids, but would wear a different dress and would sit with the family instead of standing at the altar. What do you guys think of this practice?
2007-02-27 08:48:01 · 12 answers · asked by duritzgirl4 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I think it is fine, my sister had the same dilemma but she had her friend be her "assistant" she got to take place in everything and was in the program. You do what you feel is right.
2007-02-27 09:42:26 · answer #1 · answered by Shawna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm going to be honest with you, if my friend asked this of me I would be kind of insulted. Especially if I was expected to buy a nice dress, walk down the aisle then be expected to sit down and not even stand with you at the altar. I would decline this invitation.
Either she is a bridesmaid or shes not. She can still attend all the prewedding fun stuff, like showers and bachelorette without being in the wedding party. I dont think asking her to be an "honorary" bridesmaid is a good idea at all.
2007-02-27 17:06:40 · answer #2 · answered by kateqd30 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
We had my niece do something similar. My friends were my bridesmaids, and our 4 years old niece and nephew were the ring bearer/flower girl. We had nothing for my 10 yr old niece to do. She became the "junior bridesmaid." She got to be included at the parties, wore a pretty dress, then walked down the aisle and sat with her mom. Although there is an obvious age difference in our situations, it was a perfect solution!
2007-02-27 16:54:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If she is really your friend, I would move mountains to squeeze her in at the altar. I was an honorary bridesmaid at my brother's wedding, but that was because I was pregnant and due the same month as my brother's wedding. But in your case, I'm sure you can somehow work one more in.
2007-02-27 16:52:56 · answer #4 · answered by Mrs.Blessed 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you aren't understanding the importance of the positions up there at the altar with you if you don't have room for any more people. Seriously, that must mean you already have enough people up there that those positions don't even mean much. How much less will it mean when she won't even get to stand up there with you and the rest of the wedding party?? Get it together and narrow it down to just a few people for each of you!!
2007-02-27 16:53:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I too am having this problem more so with the flower girl and ring bearer but I think that I may keep the front row clear for Honorary people so I don't have to leave anyone out!!
2007-02-27 16:58:43 · answer #6 · answered by ♥Ta Loca♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask her to do a reading at the ceremony instead. if all the other bridesmaids are up at the altar except her, I would be peeved if I were her. is she young enough to be a junior bridesmaid? technically IMHO she's not a bridesmaid if there's not a corresponding usher/groomsman to walk with her.
2007-02-27 18:45:25 · answer #7 · answered by Danielle 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Rather than having your bridesmaids stand right next to each other in a line, stagger them and you will have room for one more bridesmaid.
2007-02-27 17:00:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lovely!
2007-02-27 16:56:51 · answer #9 · answered by abc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, that's just silly. Have her be at the guest book, or help in another way. Maybe she could do a reading at the ceremony.
2007-02-27 21:37:54 · answer #10 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋