How did your parents affect you as a teen?

Question

What about your parents made you rebel? Did they pay too much attention? Too little? Did they influence your sexual activity? Did you experience more because of what they told you or didnt tell you? I know this is kind of personal but I need honest answers for a article I'm doing.

Answer 1

I wasn't a rebel as a teenager.

My parents payed attention to me... not too much, not too little. They knew I was responsible and had morals. I did my best in my classes and everything to get a scholarship for college (which I did). They helped me in everything I did and were ALWAYS there for me. Their rules were very reasonable... never strict. I did what they told me to (most of the time lol).

I dated some in high school. I was not sexual at all. I'm still not. I'm in my early 20s now. (I have an amazing boyfriend of a year that is willing to wait for me till marriage). I didn't even have my first kiss till I was 18. I wasn't an easy girl and that's something I'm proud of. : }

My parents helped me through things by sharing their experiences. But I think I learned more from experiencing things myself. I think that is the case for EVERYONE. We tend to learn from doing things ourselves... experiencing things ourselves. And I sure learned A LOT when I was a teenager. And I feel very blessed.

Answer 2

My dad past away when I was 8 (i am not 26). I have to say, as a teen my mom kinda let my sister and I do what we wanted. I think she felt she "did her time" and felt we were ok on our own. As a teen I thought I was the coolest, no time to be home, do what I wanted when I wanted, come home when I wanted. It was fun until...I became a mother at 16. Now as an adult, I love my mom, but have realized that I dont think she really cared that much about me. At first, it was cool, but looking back, I sometimes wish that she would of cared a bit more. I know now that I will not do the same to my children. My best friend had parents who where on her all the time, had to be home by 9pm, couldn't go out unless they knew where she was going, etc...Now she is very successful, single woman who just bought her first home (no kids yet). So that is just an example on how I feel your parents effect you life as a teen and as an adult. I hope this helps. Good luck on your article.

Answer 3

I was raised in an extremely strict and religious home and I think it totally influenced the choices I've made. Growing up I went to church three times a week and more.I attended a christian school that was extremely small. Girls were not allowed to wear pants, no touching of the opposite sex till marriage, no smoking, no alcohol, no swearing, all in all very strict.
I am now 24 and unmarried with two kids, smoke, drink, and wear pants.
I think that if you smother your kids and never let them have any freedom when they finally get out of the house they go wild. They have never had to set any boundaries before and it takes time and sometimes mistakes to get it right.

Answer 4

I was raised by my mom. Dad was not around. He is now however. Another story. My mom raised 3 of us. She did a great job. She instilled in me the value of church. And that reflects in my adulthood. She was very open and honest with me. We had our fights like normal families. I was the teen that skipped school and sat in detention almost all the time.She made sure i graduated from high school. she did not care that i did not have straight a's or anything. She talked me through school and now i go to school everyday and i am the first one there. I Now can say i love school. I see the kids grow from year to year and it is great.
So my mom had great influence on me. She listened, she cared, she was their everytime i had something going on. Now she is like that with the grandkids.
MOMS are great

Answer 5

Mother taught me to respect women to be patient and caring,father taught me to be strong,to fight for what you believe in to take a hit and give one back if you have to.He taught me to be a fighter and always carried himself with a strong dignified air,my mother was the wisest most compassionate woman imaginable,and they gave me the best traits and knowledge either could offer.

Answer 6

right now im still there but they r very nosie and when i had a G/F she ****** it up baby pics came out bad days came up and 1 that i hate the most is that they sit there and listen to ur confersation when ur on the 4one

Answer 7

My home was a war zone. My dad is bipolar and has some personality disorder issues as well. He and my mom used to have horrific, verbally abusive screaming fights night after night after night. My dad treated me like trash and only wanted to be left alone. He was verbally and emotionally abusive to me.

By the time I was 12, I knew that more than anything in the whole world, I wanted to get out and live by myself.

My mom had no job skills and no resources she could turn to to get away from my dad. Observation of the marriage she was in led me to decide that I never, ever, ever, ever wanted to be in a situation where I could not just pack up and walk away if things were abusive or unhappy.

When I saw my friends getting involved with boyfriends at the expense of their grades in school, I thought they were stark raving crazy. Some of them wanted to leave home almost as bad as I did, and they seemed to think that having a boyfriend and trying to get him to marry them was the ticket out. I thought that was the dumbest thing I'd ever seen-- all they were doing was trading one boss (their parents) for another (their boyfriend/husband). If they didn't have the skills to get a job, all they would be doing was asking their husband/boyfriend every time they wanted something, and having to do what he said, instead of their parents.

I worked hard at school and graduated from high school at age 16, second in my graduating class. I got scholarships and took out loans to go to college, and I graduated from college at age 19 and immediately got a job. I'd moved out of my home to go to college when I was 16 and I never went back.

I didn't date at all all through high school and college, because I wanted to get the skills and resources I needed to take care of myself. I never wanted to have to be in a relationship with someone where I had no choice.

After I got my first job, I started dating, and you better believe that I was choosy and that I didn't let any man call the shots. I paid my own way on dates-- insisted on it-- because my friends had told me (and I'd observed) that a lot of guys seemed to think that if they paid for a girl's dinner, that entitled them to her body. I didn't want to be involved with anyone who thought that way.

That's how I met my husband. I took him out to dinner on our first date, then we went "dutch" (each paid our own way) for a few more until we got to know and trust each other. Two years after we met, we married and have been married now for 29 years.

By making my home life hell on earth, my parents gave me the inspiration to get the skills to earn a living and to put dating and sex on the back-burner. This has been to my benefit, and for that I'm grateful. I've often wondered what my life might have been like if my homelife hadn't been so unhappy. I really believe that the unhappiness my parents caused was what set me up to have a happy family life of my own.