My little brother is 15 years old and he became a problem child at age 11. My mom has tried to reach out to the judicial system to get help with him but nobody will help her. Im afraid that after awhile she is going to give up on him and let him go into the streets. She is a single mother and I understand where she is coming from because there is only so much a mother can do. HE wont go to school, he smokes, and got a really bad negative attitude. I have tried numerous times to talk to him and gives him guidance but he snaps at me until it causes a fight and causes my mother more stress that causes her weight to drop. I tried to help her and find him a boot camp but it costs and im tryna do something about it before it gets too late. We tried mentors, psychiatrist, doctors and even the police but he still wont act right. ANy suggestions, boot camps, guidance or anything that will help?
2007-02-27 08:33:29 · 17 answers · asked by Tonio W 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Ok I know you dont want to hear this but its never too late for DISCIPLINE! When you say he "wont" go to school, dont give him a choice. Call the school and say come get his butt. They will do that here if your child wont go to school. For every negative thing he does there needs to be an equal and negative consequence for his actions. If he smokes, find his cigarettes and tear them up and throw them away. He has to see that there are consequences for his actions otherwise he will continue on the same path and only get worse. Hes young enough to still be grounded and if he tries to leave the house anyway call the police, they will bring his butt home. My friends mom did that to him when he was around that age.
2007-02-27 08:41:00 · answer #1 · answered by ♥♫♥ Crystal ♥♫♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes you might not have the answer and your just so sick and tired of dealing with the same problem. So if nothing has helped by now maybe he needs to face reality. The real world isn't a joke and he would run out of money so fast, he'll come running home.Hopefully he would get the point and learn to be respectful to your mom and learn some guidance.
2007-02-27 16:49:38 · answer #2 · answered by Shanee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is tough when it is a family member. Unless he gets a clue, there is nothing you can do for him. It sounds like he already seems to think he knows all the answers, and wants to make his own decisions. Sometimes all you can do is let them learn at the school of hard knocks, and then later, look for his letters on here wondering why he can never catch a break in life. The trouble with making your own decisions is that you can be a victim of them.
2007-02-27 16:40:40 · answer #3 · answered by Lord L 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried speaking to someone at social services? They may be able to point you in the right direction. Because he his a minor they may be able to help your mother come up with an affordable solution, as they do not want to see children end up in the streets, no matter what the reason would be. Good for you for trying to help your mother in what sounds like a frustrating situation. Good luck to you all.
2007-02-27 16:39:04 · answer #4 · answered by lady.luck10379 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know where you live, but: Take him on a trip to a country where he doesn't speak the language and let him see true poverty and watch other kids his age just trying to hustle up enough cash just to eat...let him go out on his own and try and leave him to his own devices as often as possible during the trip. You could even take him to a major city in your country of origin and let him try his game on the locals; see how he fares. If he's really a bad azz, let him go his own way. Experience isn't the best teacher; it's the ONLY teacher!
2007-02-27 16:40:02 · answer #5 · answered by wetdreamdiver 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes tough love is the answer. Your mom needs to set strick ground rules and adhere to them. He might only be 15, but if he gets into trouble now and learns from it, he can still have a later shot, as opposed to getting into trouble at 18 which will follow him around for the rest of his life. You might have to let him go to get him back.
2007-02-27 16:38:29 · answer #6 · answered by chelebeee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't know the finacal situtation but a milatary school may be good for him or take the tough love way and next time you see him smoking call the cops literally he will go to juvie untill his court hearing and you mom could ask the judge to keep him there so he gets a taste of what it will be like if he doesn't change his ways. i really hoped i helped! much love ,Kiara!
2007-02-27 16:43:02 · answer #7 · answered by kiara_marie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boot camp would be ideal, but it does cost money...If everything has failed, you've been a good brother and son...let the chips fall where they may, as they say, he'll learn one way or another..he's not a baby!!!
2007-02-27 16:38:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good for you for being concerned and wanting to help your family, have you tried NAACP, Urban League? What about his school counselors???
And of course there is also Dr. Phil! You can email his show and see if he will take your brother on.
Good luck and God Bless!!!
2007-02-27 16:42:48 · answer #9 · answered by purplejadedragon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF YOU FIND A GOOD ANSWER LET ME KNOW. WE ARE GOING THRU IT WITH MY NIECE. NO MATTER HOW HARD WE TRY TO HELP HER NOTHING WORKS. WE HAVE HAD TO JUST LET HER DO HER THING AND LEARN HER LESSONS THE HARD WAY. IT DOES NOT MEAN THAT WE HAVE GIVEN UP WE STILL HAVE HOPE AND DO WHAT SHE WILL LET US WHEN WE CAN. SHE JUST WON'T LET US MOST OF THE TIME. THE ONLY GOOD NEWS WITH IT IS SHE PLANS TO JOIN THE NAVY WHEN SHE GRADUATES IN MAY (IF SHE GRADUATES)
2007-02-27 16:41:57 · answer #10 · answered by nbatch2006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋