Why do some stay at home mothers loudly and as often-as-possible knock families that have two working parents and have their children in daycare during the day? I know that some at home mothers believe that some people see them as being lazy...and I don't think that is right at all either. It just seems like there are many questions on here from stay at home moms asking working parents how they could possibly put their kids in daycare. I see fewer questions on here from working parents reflecting the other negative stereotype that about at home mothers that I mentioned before.
Hey, if you are financially secure with your situation and can stay home...I think that is great. Some parents don't have a secure financial situation and need to plan for retirement and the kid's college. We don't have it all.
Kids are going to need to go to school at some point...age 6 months or age 5 years. What is wrong with starting the education process earlier?
2007-02-27 08:24:35 · 9 answers · asked by BAM 7 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I am a stay at home mom and I just answered a question asking why parents let strangers raise their children. My friends that work seem to spend more quality time with their children. That's what's important. The quality time, not the amount of time. There are days where it seems all I am doing is cooking, cleaning, or washing. I will actually have to stop so I can play and interact with my children. People that say "Parents that work let strangers raise their kids" are just ignorant.
By the way, if my children EVER needed anything I sure as hell would get a job and let one of those "strangers" watch my kids. If we needed to move into a bigger house, better neighborhood, or better school then I would be the first to step up. Also, when my kids do start school, I am going to start working so they will have college money. I don't want them stuck with student loans and stuff because I thought I was being the hero by staying at home.
2007-02-27 09:13:26 · answer #1 · answered by TRUE PATRIOT 6 · 5⤊ 1⤋
I am a single working mom and I am one of those parents that do not have a choice but to work. I have to put food in my childs mouth and clothes on his back. It really irritates me when SAHM's get all up in arms and say that if you can't stay at home with your kids than you shouldn't have kids or that I am letting strangers raise my kids. Its unfair and very judgmental. I love my son more than anything on this planet and would sacrifice everything for him. Just because I have to put him in daycare its going to hinder his development or screw him up for the rest of his life.
I don't knock SAHM's, I know that it is a very difficult job to be at home all day and take care of the house with kids running around, I just wish that some SAHM's would extend the same courtesy to those of us who don't have a choice in the matter.
2007-02-27 08:46:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a stay at home mom by choice, just because we can afford for me to be here and because I can't stand leaving my kids somewhere. However parents sometimes have to work and I think day care is great to help them learn and be a part of a group of kids to interact with. So no, I don't knock daycares and parents who leave their children there. I was thinking of leaving my kids a few days a week just so they can be with other children.
2007-02-27 08:51:13 · answer #3 · answered by momofthreemiracles 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you. Nobody should knock another person's choice or decision on how they run their family. That being said. Stay at home moms can really make me mad sometimes because I think they're big whiners. They get to sit home all day and take care of their kids and their houses. They have all day to get done what working moms have to get done in their "downtime" after working all day or all week. Working moms have their outside work to do and then come home to their home work to do. And spend quality time with their kids and husbands on top of it all. Stay at home moms act like they have such a hard job when in fact they do 1/2 of what working moms do.
2007-02-27 08:33:04 · answer #4 · answered by Rairia 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm a stay at home mom, and I think daycare is a good thing. My whole thing is affordability. I want to work, but it's hard when you're just getting started. Maybe that's why some women knock it. They want to be able to work, but can't, so they complain about people who can? If that makes sense
2007-02-27 08:34:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How many kids are you going to have? If you drop out of the work force until your child is 4 or 5, that isn't going to affect your retirement fund or college fund. I had my oldest kids in daycare, and I had one place for 2 weeks where I discovered my daughter was stuck in a highchair for 2 hours every day. In another place, she would come home and fall right asleep--did she spend her day screaming? Someone else suggested they were drugging my daughter. How would I know what was going on?
Yeah, you really are having strangers watch your kids, and you don't know what is going on, either. And your kids are competing with other kids for attentioin. Very young kids can survive all kinds of situaitons, but why put them in it? They do better home with a parent.
I especially regret one of my kids being in daycare. The director of the day care center told me she thought this child would be better off at home. My daughter was very needy and always giving people hugs.
I got to stay home with my last 2. We have a closer bond than I do with their older siblings, and I know it is becasue I got very close to them when they were young. I was always rushing with the older kids to get to work and drop them off and pick them up and get home to get dinner ready. Didn't make for very strong bonding, and we are not as close today either.
2007-02-27 09:03:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I run my own business even though financially I don't need to work, and we had a "stranger" (aka a wonderful nanny) for my son while I worked out of my home. What my husband and I decided to do was our business and no one else's.
2007-02-27 09:29:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont knock it, and I m stay home mom.
I actually envy it, my guy doesnt want me working.
2007-02-27 08:29:10 · answer #8 · answered by Bitsy B 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
depends on experience ... if they havent found a good daycare or caretaker in the past for their kids then their opinion wont be the same as someone who has been blessed by someone who cares for the child wholeheartedly.
2007-02-27 08:27:50 · answer #9 · answered by tryinthis2 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋