am i doing the right thing?

Question

I am 23 years old and i depend on my mom.She treats me like i´m 14.She won´t let me stay with my boyfriend of 6 years of relationship.And if she finds out that i´m still comunicating with my boyfriend,she will kill me.I´m so afraid of her because she is a strong person.I can´t continue living like this.She´s always threatning me.Saying that if i continue seeing my boyfriend ,she will kill me.She had already told me about this.She´s not that type of mom that you sit and talk to.I´m turning 24 this March,and my goals are to collect money and then run away but before i riun away,i will write her a letter.Do you think that i am doing the right thing?because i can´t talk to her about this,and she is very mean to me.She treats me like trash.

Answer 1

Why are you almost 24 years old and still living under your mothers roof? Don't you have a job, friends you could room with? As long as you are under her roof, it is her rules, no matter how senseless they may be. Its time for you to pack up and move out! Can't you stay with your boyfriend? After six years the relationship should be ready for something more serious.

Answer 2

Death threats are illegal.

You have long since reached the age of legal majority. Your mother does not have the legal right to direct your life. She may feel she can tell you what to do/not do, but you are under no obligation to obey.

I agree with the other writers who state that at 24 you do not "run away". You leave a dangerous situation to assert your basic human rights.

If you do not personally have the courage to "stand up" to your mother and leave, surround yourself with a supportive group of people who will help you to do what you feel you need to do.

Answer 3

I don't believe you are 24 years old in the first place. A 24 year old woman wouldn't have to write a letter to her mother and run away. A grown woman would walk away.

Answer 4

uhhhhhhhh... move out!