i seperated with my ex....it will be 1 month this friday. She just called me and she is seeing someone else. I can't describe how i feel right now. it's very numbing. So i have come to the realization it is finally over. This pain is amazing, i'm at work i just want to go home. Wow.....i can't even think.
2007-02-27 08:01:31 · 25 answers · asked by aphotic nostrum 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
we were together for 4 years
2007-02-27 08:16:30 · update #1
...God I know the feeling too! Keep busy dude,...and try to be a better man for yourself right now seriously. You can't do much right now about other peoples feelings,...(ex girlfriend) so go out and service your own. Tensions are high right now for you both...but I can assure you that they will calm down with you in time. Anxiety and stress over this stuff is in a critical state in your mind right now. Don't try to rebound into something else to quickly either. That'll just bite hard on you and some other undeserving individual. Sit back,...take a deep breath...and relax for just one moment...and then let it all pass you by. Feelings are moments in time my friend. Even bad moments will eventually leave you. Take a time out for yourself my friend. You're probably deserving of some great things in your life. Don't let this moment tear you up unreasonably. It's just a moment....and this too will come to pass.
2007-02-27 08:12:03 · answer #1 · answered by scott s 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Someone told me "Time heals all wounds" when I was going through my own heartbreak and I thought 'What a load of BS'. I was crying almost everyday and there was this unbearable pain in my chest, I couldn't stand it and I just wanted it to be over. It's been 5 mths since that person walked out of my life and now I don't feel that pain or loneliness or sadness anymore. I had to let go, face the fact that it was over and move on with my life. Time heals, it may not be what you want to hear but it's the truth. It'll be rough but you'll get through it. Good luck.
2007-02-27 08:19:45 · answer #2 · answered by icu 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's never easy to know that your ex (being that you may have had extremely strong feelings for her) that he/she is seeing someone else.Some people may handle that entirely different (depending on how much they really cared about the person that they were dating). But do you what advice that I have for you? Suck it up and push on. Don't let your ex's relationship ruin your everyday living..and especially if it causes you not to think straight.You have got to move on...but if you can't come off of it quickly, then come down the ladder of sadness slowly, because nine times out of ten, you're going to fall right back in love with someone else and they may treat you way better than the person that you were with.Don't fall back in love to make her jealous though, do it because it came naturally.If she feels bad about it, so what?She obviously wasn't thinking about how you felt when she told you that she was seeing someone else, so don't feel bad when you fall back in love with another person.
2007-02-27 08:12:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ouch !! That hurts... I know the feeling. We have all been through that.
So, I'm just wondering, did she call you just to tell you that ?? because if she did... then wow... that's harsh.
But think about this... you were together 4 years, she's been dating this guy what 2 minutes. I would wait it out for a while, you never know what will happen....
One day at a time hun.... one day at a time.
2007-02-27 08:31:24 · answer #4 · answered by M.O. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry. Nothing I can say will ease your intense pain -- how else could you react?
I would probably leave work, but I don't think I would go home. I would go someplace new, beautiful and somewhat isolated, with a comfort food or two, and just take in whatever peace and beauty I can find. Then I'd go home. Then I would try to resume my normal activities and schedule.
My thoughts and prayers will be with you today.
2007-02-27 08:12:22 · answer #5 · answered by and_y_knot 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry, but you should realize life goes on for you also. The pain you feel now might seem endless and unbearable, but try and look at things from a different perspective. You now own your freedom, you have a brand new life in front of you.
2007-02-27 08:10:28 · answer #6 · answered by dianabarff 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is awful, I know. You need to grieve this, and just be sad for awhile. Not too long, though. If you need to go home today, go ahead. If you need a few beers, have them. If you need to listen to the blues, do it. Then, starting tomorrow, go to work, make a plan to out with some buddies, and start looking at other women. So sorry.
2007-02-27 08:08:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you were hoping you guys would get back together. And of course that possibility is always there until either of you meets someone new. Then that realization that it’s over for real with that person sets in.
2007-02-27 08:06:12 · answer #8 · answered by prettyblueeyes101010 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there-done that! The pain is there, but you really can't describe what it feels like, you just know that it hurts! It does get easier to deal with, but it takes time.
2007-02-27 08:04:47 · answer #9 · answered by Special K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you. I've had the same experience exactly. I have a new girlfriend now and voila no more pain! Get back on the horse that threw you. Not easy I know but it works.
2007-02-27 08:04:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋