MY friend has this boyfriend and yes he use to be gay, but he is in church he goes almost, i said almost everyday of the week and he says god has changed his life around. what should she believe? also they hardly ever talk and when they together he is always texting on his phone. and when someone calls he steps away for a moment, sometimes he never answer the phone.
2007-02-27 07:50:46 · 11 answers · asked by Renea 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What's not to believe? God is awesome and powerful and he's in the business of changing lives. If she really likes this guy, believe him and have faith that he's changed and give him a chance - maybe even try going to church with him.
As for the texting and phone calls. Maybe he's trying to help people and that's why he leaves the room (thier privacy) and as for not answering the phone - maybe that's his way of choosing her over the phone when it's not important. Has she asked him about this? Honesty and communication should be key in a relationship. I'm sure if she'd ask, he'd tell her why.
2007-02-27 07:57:12 · answer #1 · answered by reandsmom77 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Changing a sexual preference is not the same as changing underwear, this is not a good situation for your friend. I have experience with people using church to make up for things which are deemed socially unacceptable. He could use "god" for making him follow a path that is more acceptable in today's society. However, I don't think god will allow him to truely love your friend. This has to be his decision. And if he is saying god changed his life i don't believe it. He needs to feel that he has changed without a church corrupting his thoughts and beliefs.
2007-02-27 07:59:01 · answer #2 · answered by Dan C 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Homosexuality isn't a switch, and church isn't a cure. Your right to trust your intiution. But what scares me is that your friend doesn't feel the samething. Could be she is afraid of being alone and this guys the best she can do or worse she truly loves the bi-sexual and is going to be hurt. Give her some grammer and explain to her that everything else aside, no relationship last long without communcation and that alone is enough to think about making some distance with this guy.
2007-02-27 07:58:59 · answer #3 · answered by Brutal Honesty 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She should let that go because if he is working through his gay issues it's not completely out of his system. Just by your statement alone it seems that he is hiding something so she is better off seeking the straight and honest type.
2007-02-27 07:55:51 · answer #4 · answered by uneekqamar2004 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's time to move on . . .This guy only cares about his guy friends. The church thing is to direct attention away from his secret [text messages] life. Forget this creep . . .
2007-02-27 07:56:40 · answer #5 · answered by Jim W 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
God knows if he change. Maybe he only said like this to regain your respect. Time will tell.
2007-02-27 07:54:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
girlfriend, i am laughing so hard and rolling on the floor!!! what is 'used to be gay'? as in 2 minutes ago!?? ooh, what is that? he is still gay. unless he has opened his life up like a book (like donnie mcclurken did), repented and turned away from that sin - - he is still gay. he just moved to the downlow side of gay. tell girlfriend to RUN and until she gets her running shoes on, please use a condom (or two)!!
2007-02-27 07:55:57 · answer #7 · answered by d 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He seems kind of shady, tell him to prove that god has changed him. See it for yourself.
2007-02-27 08:04:21 · answer #8 · answered by Mike 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i would think that either he needs to have his privacy. or he cheatin on me. but if i were you, i would investigate. dont let his guhfriend do it kuz den he gonna think she dont trust him. so it looks like you got some work to do. remember be sneaky and dont blow ya cover!
2007-02-27 07:56:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she should break up with him and find a real man who likes her
2007-02-27 07:53:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋