2007-02-27 07:44:11 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The question here is more about what your intimate goals are. Some would like to get the sex out of the way so they can get to know the person. They feel it would get the whole "will he/she or won't he/she" distraction out of the way. I'm not gonna lie, it is mostly guys that are going to feel this way, but it is not exclusive to them either.
Most people would fall into the second category and say "No, its never a good idea." merely based on the risk of all of the diseases floating around out there.
More importantly your feelings and your reputation could get severely damaged. If you are "just dating" sex can be a lot of fun, but be aware that your partners will be passing judgement on you and so will their friends. For guys this can be a positive thing, but for girls not so good.
Sex means different things to diiferent people. For some it is just a necessary part of life and biology (like eating). For others it is an automatic commitment (or confirmation) to a relationship and there will be an expectation for you to act accordingly.
Therefore, if you are going to use "sex as an ice breaker" be clear about your intentions up front. This way the other person is also clear and can make a decision based on your intention.
2007-02-27 08:19:11 · answer #1 · answered by SONG 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No. I cannot see it being a good idea at all in this case. It would only lead to confusion when people who don't know each other AT ALL are mixing a very intimate activity into a "get to know you" session. It might work if everyone comes in with the ground rules set and everyone understanding that the sex is only casual. But I think way too many partners confuse sex with other feelings, and that leads to hurt feelings or worse.
Even swingers take time to get to know each other first. And they are usually going in as a couple, so one person at least knows one other person in the crowd.
Don't go there. Ask some embarassing questions about sex, but don't actually do it.
2007-02-27 09:22:18 · answer #2 · answered by kevness 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never. Sex is a touchy area. Yeah it's fun to talk about but eventually you will get into the part where you ask on another about their partners & how many they have had. Personally I don't like to go there. If that does not happen, then, you will enjoy talking about it so much it will bring the subject colser and things will happen sooner then it needs to.
If you want to actually have it...no way! If you're a guy and the girl gives it up that quick, dump her she's a slut. (unless you really like her.) If you're a girl and you give it up...the mystery is gone. He's seen you with your cloths off, what else is there to know?
You should try using goals, sports, a joke, or something simple.
2007-02-27 07:59:19 · answer #3 · answered by kv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO. If you do, sex is just something you try with everyone, so isn't special and doesn't mean anything.
Not to mention you'll appear cheap and not seriously interested in a relationship. All you'll get is a string of one-night stands by doing this.
2007-02-27 07:48:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ummm nooo
2007-02-27 07:49:21 · answer #5 · answered by bebekaychic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might get kind of cold. I suggest either buying it in cubes or using a hammer.
2007-02-27 07:50:49 · answer #6 · answered by charlie_the_carpenter 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like a gamble actually.
2007-02-27 07:47:57 · answer #7 · answered by aphotic nostrum 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no.
2007-02-27 07:49:44 · answer #8 · answered by sexy dread 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋