Am I wrong for feeling this way?

Question

Ok... my and my fiancee only see each other about once a month due to a long distance relationship. When we see each other I like to have intimate time with him (to but it simply I enjoy sex). But he is always hesitant to do it because he says he doesn't want that to be all that our relationship is about. But the way I feel about it is since we see each other only once a month then it isn't all that our relationship is about. Am I wrong for feeling this way? It this too much? Please give me your opinion.

Answer 1

well why do you only see eaither once a month why don't you guys change it.. no you are not wrong.. i think a women has needs and you want to have sex with him.. but don;t you guys talk on the phone.. if you guys talk about other things besides sex than than its not based on sex than you should enjoy sex with him

Answer 2

Heck NO! Since you only see each other only once a month, it is the right thing to feel. Granted, you two aren't at it the WHOLE time you are together, right? But it is very natural to feel the intimacy for someone you care for and miss dearly. If I only see my significant other only once a month, she better feel the same thing for me when I am all over her body when I see her!

He should miss you just as much if not more. It's not based on merely sex since you two are far apart. If you were living in the same city and meet up everynight for a quickie and then leave, then that is based on sexuality. A relationship requires just as much intimacy as anything else. More so since you two are far apart. I hope you two at least communicate on a daily basis. I have had an LTR for almost 2yrs in the past and we had our fair share of hot and heavy intimacy once we met up. But also too, we had our fun and relaxed times as well. Not every encounter was about sex. We did the couples thing along with it all. Mix it in. Have sex every other time if he is willing. Compromise. Have a mutual understanding of what he expects and what you expect from this long distance relationship. As long everytime you meet up, there is an adequate amount of quality time together. That's what's important. LTR's takes a lot of work and it takes both party members to accomplish it. Good luck =)

Answer 3

Well i assume you talk/email/IM the rest of the month, so you do have a real relationship, it's just that you aren't physically together that often. So it makes sense that when you are, you'd want to have sex!

He must have some sort of hangup that probably goes beyond your ability to change. Definitely try relationship counseling before you get married to resolve this.

Did you ever live near each other, or has it always been long distance? If you used to live close, did you have sex often? If not then he either has some intimacy issues or might not be attracted to you (or women in general).

Answer 4

Sounds like your fiancé simply has reservations about your relationship being long-distance. Perhaps he feels he's not sure which part of your eagerness comes from the fact that you truly enjoy his company, and which from simply being apart for weeks at a time. Best way to resolve it is to make this a non-long-distance relationship; the very fact that you spend more time apart than together is bound to create issues. Things will sort themselves out once you start seeing each other full-time. Good luck.

Answer 5

Of course it's not too much! If I would only see my fiancee once a month that would be all we'd be doing! And no, you're not wrong for feeling this way! Your boyfriend should be thankful for a girlfriend that enjoys sex! I think there are enough men with complaints about that - ever heard of headaches? ;o)

Answer 6

Its normal for dating or a married couple to have sex more then once a month. I'd be asking where hes getting it from. I dont know a man one that doesnt want sex once a month! I vote theres a problem somewhere. Maybe he cant if thats not the problem and hes not sleeping with someone else I'd ask what the deal was.

Answer 7

I cannot believe you! Women everyday pray for a man who cares about THEM and not just having sex and here you have a man who values you and wants to have more depth to your relationship and you are complaining? What does the amount of time you are together have to do with you determining that it is all it is about? And if THAT's how you feel you certainly don't need to be ENGAGED to be married until you grow up!

And judging from the comments posted here most of you young women could care less about a quality relationship - just sex...no wonder the world is so messed up and aimless!

Answer 8

No you are not wrong for feeling this way. I would actually feel the same way. Have you tried talking to him about it? You should explain to him how you have needs and part of his job as a fiancee is to fulfill them. Actually, since you and him are engaged you guys are past the whole "what the relationship is based on". I would also be wondering how his needs are being fulfilled, since you are not the one fulfilling them.

Answer 9

the thing to do is let him go and get an excort service;a jilgo;have sex;find a club or place with a glory hole;have all the sexyou want;break up with fiancee or marry him;perhaps thats why hes hesitant;always have with you a box of rubbers so you dont get big;have a nice day.

Answer 10

Well what it is is your horny flat out and he isn't probably focused right now it seems like? Maybe you should think of something else around him other than that like whats going on with you or are you a cheating butthead when we aren't together you got me thinking now. If not from me then from who? I've proven its more by waiting for you the entire 30 days : ) C'mon tell him stop being silly.