..everytime we hang out at his place we end up doing it. like a couple of times i didnt want to becasue i wasnt in the mood and he was begging me for it and then i ended up doing it. its like he has a sex adiction or something.. help..
2007-02-27 07:33:38 · 15 answers · asked by chanoah_7 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's very simple- you tell him that you don't feel like it. don't do it just because you're pressured into it- in the long run, it will have a negative effect on the way you view your relationship, and you will resent him for it.
If he gets obnoxious, angry, etc. when you say no, then it's time to start thinking about why he's with you. If he cares about you and respects you, he'll understand.
Don't be afraid to say what you mean and speak up. Good luck.
2007-02-27 07:41:04 · answer #1 · answered by chickie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats how men are hun. They are "hard wired" to have higher sex drives and physical needs that differ from ours. Not that we must meet them or anything. I mean, thats what lube is for - him to TKB on his own once in awhile.
I feel ya. My fiance' begs me all the time. I give it up to him almost every day (cause it's easier that denying it to him) but last week I was sick and I kept telling him "Go take the lube, jump on a porn site and take care of it yourself this week....." He totally didn't want to. So, instead - he pouted like a baby and waited till I was willing.
It's hard to explain to a man why we don't "need" it..... I would discuss this over the phone with him to avoid his eyes wandering when you are explaining to him how you want to do it less often.
Let him know in his own language like "Babe, having sex all the time is like me dragging you to the mall for an all day shopping spree. I love you very much and I enjoy the pleasure I get when we are together, but I do not have the energy to be so active all the time......"
Maybe the next time you see him, you can bring him a bottle of astroglide for when he needs to "get it out of his system" - maybe you could even do it for him........... Although your hand may get tired - your (hoo-haa) will not.........
Sorry I don't have a better answer.
I SO feel your pain girl.
Good Luck -
Meg -
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2007-02-27 15:43:25 · answer #2 · answered by VocalistGirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
*LoL* It's not a sex addicition, it's just a male being a pig or in their terms a male. You don't have to do anything unless you want to. Not to sound mean but screw him if he begs, doesn't mean you have to give it up to him. If you're giving it up to him that easily, he'll know in the future all he has to do is beg and you'll give him what he wants. Now if you don't give it to him, be prepared he might end it with you but if you truely don't want to have sex all the time, your better off without him anyways. Good luck !!
2007-02-27 15:40:20 · answer #3 · answered by the_wicked_itch_of_the_west 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is a totally normal guy. That is usually all they want, all the time. BUT, it sounds like he is totally only concerned with himself. He needs to understand that you should be enjoying it as well. Maybe he needs some lessons in how to please a woman. Tell him it is QUALITY not QUANTITY. If you don't want to do it tell him no, if he keeps begging leave, or tell him to go whack off.
2007-02-27 15:47:27 · answer #4 · answered by green eyed lady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please excuse the vulgarity of my response, but the boy's getting all the milk he needs for free. He'll never buy the cow.
Your first mistake was to give it away so quickly. So, now he thinks he can get it whenever he wants it.
It's decision time. You need to confront him to find out what he wants out of this relationship. I fear that you've become an FWB.
2007-02-27 15:43:18 · answer #5 · answered by Joe Bostonian 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to tell him no!! if you give him no boundries now he'll begin to think you dont have any boundries in anything and want to explore new things with you that you may not feel comfrtable with at the time!.. do let him take advanatge .. he may not be but you just really need to feel like when you have sex with him its because you both want it.. not just him..
2007-02-27 15:38:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you aint digging it then you gotta move on or start getting busy..hes not gonna change and to force him too will make him look else where..its why guys cheat..ladies if you want to keep your man then give it too him all the time..real talk..because if you aint feeding him hes gonna go to wendys for a hot and juicy snack..
2007-02-27 15:41:48 · answer #7 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bring a friend next time.
2007-02-27 15:36:23 · answer #8 · answered by Harry Taco 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe you're bored with it already. Do something to spice it up.
2007-02-27 15:37:15 · answer #9 · answered by Jewel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's normal. Especially if he is young. You're normal too.
2007-02-27 15:37:27 · answer #10 · answered by Wolfithius 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋