boyfriend blues (boys would be more helpful)?

Question

my boyfriend and i have been going out for almost a year and a half. there's a sock hop coming up in a few days and my boyfriend refuses to go with me saying that he has to go to science olympiad which i am also in. i don't know what to do becuase i love him to death but he says he is never going to go to any dances this year. the only dates i can repeatedly get him to go on are up to the square (my cities center) or to go see a movie. problem is the square isn't very romantic and i only go to the movie on special occasions. if you could give me some tips on how to make walking around more romantic or how to convinve him to go to the dance it would be greatly appreciated.

Answer 1

Withhold sex.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

This is a tough one.


Part of dating is to figure out what it is you are looking for, what you will and won't put up with.

A relationship is built on friendship, commitment, communication, cooperation, compromise, truth, honesty and respect.

The key to your issue is the compromise. Two people will not always agree on everything. Sometimes you have to do things that you don't necessarily want to do and sometimes he'll have to do things he doesn't want to do.

If he isn't willing to compromise about going to a dance or a date other than the town square, what's going to happen when it's time to change a diaper or wash the dishes?

Now, you need to have a little backbone. There are other fishes in the sea... You need to communicate...

Tell him you really want to go to the dance. Once High School is over, the chance to make that memory is over.

Now, if he's like me, he hates dancing. Thinks he'll look like a fool.

Does it matter to you if he gets on the floor and shakes it?

What if you tell him he only has to dance the slow dances with you?

If he still says no, tell him you're going to go alone then.

And then, so that he knows you're upset, tell him he better take you somewhere romantic or else...

My Aunt married a guy like this. They had a kid. 20 years later she got a divorce and wished she'd done it 20 years earlier.

You may love him, but does he love you? He's pretty young to be this stubborn and if you let him get his way, he'll never change. You've got to force the issue. If he won't budge, keep looking. Someone who really loves you won't let their fear of dancing get in the way (At least once in their lives)...

Good luck.

A~

Answer 4

Where in the world are you that you have a sock hop? I'm not making fun, I'm just curious. :) It's tough when you're young, and I'll assume you are. I used to walk around with my high school boyfriend and we'd go to the mall. It's just a matter of making the most of your time together. Can't you compromise? Go to the olympiad for a while and then go to the dance afterwards? End up at some restaurant for something to eat and go home?

Answer 5

well, first of all, it sounds like you're in high school. to be in high school, you sound waaaaaay tooooo serious! girl, lighten up - - it ain't that serious! if you're in the science olympiad, you must be pretty smart, innovative or at least intelligent enough to fool somebody into thinking you should be there - with that said, spend some of that time and energy you're putting into him, thinking about what you plan to do with the rest of your school year. he's just a guy....they'll come a dime a dozen until you meet your lifetime mate (and trust me, he's not it). he's just your rehearsal. think about yourself and your family more. you'll be leaving your family in a few years and you won't be able to get those years back. stop asking him to go with you. let him find himself - which is what it seems like he's doing...you look for yourself too. when you guys have an intersection (cities center and movies), then have fun there with him. he is not your be all and do all. he might just be your boy for the rec and movies. get you one to go dancing with (it can be a platonic male), get you one to go fishing with. girl, you have got to find the power you have within. you're in control - - not him. so, go and meet your needs, however you need to. don't let him control you!

Answer 6

Well, it's something he's not very interested in. It's normal. He has to learn that in a relationship you do certain things you don't particularly care for because the other person does. Why don't you find a dance, or an activity you like around your birthday. And say that's what you want to do to celebrate it. He should be willing to do it for you.

Answer 7

Just tell him that it would mean a LOT to you if he went. But you have to be incredibly sincere. Most likely he just doesn't want to dance, so if that's the case - just tell him he only has to dance on slow songs. That might work?

Answer 8

you don't really have a BF you need to let go of the guy that you think is the love of your life and find the one that really is someone who wants to go at things 50/50 not my way or the high way because if a man really loves you he will do somethings you like to do just like when we Ladies do a lot of things they love to do it's call a partnership and it can't be one sided

Answer 9

either he's mortified of PDA, or he's secretly going out with another girl and he can't go out to any dances in public without risking the other one finding out. For your sake, i hope it's the first choice.

Answer 10

hmm when are these dudes gonna learn that women love to dance and you cant fight it. Join the dark side

Answer 11

talk to him about how your feeling,giving in to him all the time will eventually lead to a very one sided relationship and this i feel is not good.If he is not willing to meet you halfway,find some one that will.good luck.