I have been seeing this great guy for about three months now...and we love spending time together... We are both divorced with kids so kid free time is special...we are both kid free this weekend but Friday my girlfriend wants me to go out to dinner and a sporting event with just her...do I ask or tell my b/f that we are going out...and that she wantsd it to be just us...and I will come over after, and we will spend Saturday together.
2007-02-27 07:10:32 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Best to be honest with him, break it to him gently (e.g. "I'd love to spend friday together, but I promised *insert friend's name* I'd go out on a girls only night with her on Friday, and I'll come over when we're done and tell you about it")........ specifically mention that the friend is female, rather than just a friend, and just to be on the safe side tell him where you're going because
1) No matter how mature they are, guys do tend to get a few suspicions running through their mind as to what you're really up to when you're out without them & don't know who with.
2) Most guys tend to prefer to know where you're going when they care about you, just so they know you're going to be safe.
whether he does or not, it's probably best to play safe and tell him, than it is to go without telling him and end up having a lovers tiff over it afterwards 'cos he'd have prefered if you'd let him know.
You'd expect him to pay you the same courtesy if he was planning on going out with his friends, right?
2007-02-27 07:31:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should always have your own friends outside of your "dating " relationship. This helps keep a relationship healthy, and you do not want to smother each other by only being with each other in every free moment.
You can just nicely tell him that you are going to be meeting your girlfriend for a girls night out and will meet up with him later or the next day. He needs to spend some time with his friends also.
No matter how wonderful our love relationships are, we need our friendships as well. It is especially helpful for our health and well-being as women to have a strong base of women friends. This is how we can deal with all that we have in out busy lives.
2007-02-27 07:23:45 · answer #2 · answered by Sue F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do what u wanna do ...although u love spending ur time together, he has to understand that it will not be like that all the time. be honest with him too ...if start hiding things now it will only bring problems lata. You already made a decision to go out with ur friend so just tell him u will be thinking about him and u will tear that *** up when u see him ...hopefully he isnt an insecure type or want follow u everywhere. good luck
2007-02-27 07:21:43 · answer #3 · answered by nicky 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should never have to ask permission to go out with your friends. Let him know your plans so that he can make plans with his guy friends. Then if you want, you can all meet up later...and like you said, there's always Saturday! Everyone needs a guy's or girl's night out every now and again.
2007-02-27 07:15:25 · answer #4 · answered by NikkiWy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course. You deserve some time for your friends as well as your boyfriend. Suggest that he get together with some of his friends and that the two of you plan something nice for Saturday. Maybe a picnic or giving each other hot oil massages. Good luck and God Bless.
2007-02-27 07:14:25 · answer #5 · answered by tersey562 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him you're going out with a friend. No explanation necessary. Grown adults often do things on their own, you don't need his permission to go out. Have fun on Fri, and enjoy the weekend with him.
2007-02-27 07:15:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him you need a night out with your girlfriend and you can spend another day with him.
2007-02-27 07:13:36 · answer #7 · answered by sanj 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be honest with him and tell him that you want to go out with your girlfriend that day. I think he would understand, and maybe he can hang out with his friends. honesty, trust, is the most important thing in a relationship for it to work, if you have that you have it all. have fun.
2007-02-27 07:14:50 · answer #8 · answered by misty blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any reasonable guy will accept that with no problem. There is nothing at all wrong with a girls day, so he should have no issue.
2007-02-27 07:14:15 · answer #9 · answered by dsi_samw 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds reasonable to me
2007-02-27 07:13:42 · answer #10 · answered by gary_george48 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋