I met this guy at a social happy hour and I was being nice to him since he was standing next to me. Unexpectedly I ran into him the next night at a club and started talking. He invited me out for dinner and I accepted. After that we started meeting to watch movies and just hanging out. I went on vacation for one week and met him up for a dinner he had to attend. Well, I told him I did not want to go but he insisted so I agreed. After dinner, he sent me a text message saying how he lacked confidence to be able to kiss me. I told him that these things need to happen naturally. But he didn't agree. Then I went away on business for a week and when I returned I was in an accident and had to spend time in bed. To be honest, I really don't have any feelings for him in that way. I am attracted to other guys and I told him from the start that I am dating other guys. He still wants to continue dating me. I don't feel comfortable and feel bad about breaking up and just want to stay friends.
2007-02-27 06:57:37 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I always say that honesty is the best policy. I commend you for being honest but some guys do fall quick emotionally. As long as you remained honest with him you have nothing to feel bad about.
2007-02-27 07:01:55 · answer #1 · answered by uneekqamar2004 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know how you feel about this guy and you have told him how you feel that you don't think that it will work and so being friends with him is not a bad idea, he has to understand you position and what you have set for yourself and it is up to him to accept it or not to but he is his problem and not yours, maybe you need to put your foot down in a respectful manner and let him know that you just want to be friends and nothing more and hope that he understands, and that you are not ready to settle on one guy right now and that playing the field is the best way.
2007-02-27 15:07:44 · answer #2 · answered by gordonflames242003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop with the nice routine now becasue it can be potryed as you leading him on. To be honest not to down you or anything but you should have never gone out with him on more than one occasion if you were not interested. If you told him that you were dating other men he should have gotten the clue then. But here's waht you do just talk to him and let him know that you will no longer be able to hang out with him and that you are not interested. It's gonna hurt but at least you are sharing your true feelings with him. I've been that man before and it takes time to get over it but when the lady has told me that she was not interested then that's something I had to get over and so will he. Just don't be mean and rude to him. Good luck.
2007-02-27 15:05:58 · answer #3 · answered by ltwatkins77 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is from a guy: This is normal for guys who lack self confindence. They just want to be like everybody else and have a girlfriend. I honestly think that you should give him a stern talking too. Say something like this: "Im not ready to kiss you yet or be in love or anything like that, but lets still be friends and dont try to rush into it."
by the way I honestly think that you should get to know him really well before you judge him so deeply.
P.S. HE IS NOT STALKING YOU UNLESS HE FORCES, NOT INSISTS YOU TO DO SOMETHING YOU DONT WANT TO DO
2007-02-27 15:06:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not in love with you. He has obsessive codependency issues and he is stalking you. With people like this, there is no "staying friends". I realize that you do not want to be mean to him, but do not get involved just because you don't want to hurt his feelings. I tried to "remain friends" with a guy who latched on to me in college and ended up being stuck in an abusive two-year relationship that I literally could not get out of because dude was a needy, spoiled, controlling, codependent psycho. I had to threaten to kill him (actually I was at the point where I was actively plotting to kill him) to get myself free. You cannot sacrifice your freedom for the sake of being "nice". Cut him loose now!
2007-02-27 15:11:39 · answer #5 · answered by badkitty1969 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I missed the memo on where you were actually in a relationship. And if you were "just being nice" why would you even care about staying friends? And, FYI, 90% of guys would only choose to remain friends of hopes of working their way back to you.
I say, simply make yourself scarce (don't accept his calls, etc.) and if he got so quickly attached, he will unattach just as quickly!
2007-02-27 15:02:44 · answer #6 · answered by Grayce 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well why don't you just let him know that he is not the kind of guy that you are looking for and i am sure he will just leave you alone. i know it's kind of root but what can u do you don't like him so just let him know.
2007-02-27 15:03:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
youre right not to string him along since you dont love him
2007-02-27 15:01:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋