I have been dating a guy for 9months who i was very good friends with before we even got into a relationship.He was wonderful, always there for me when i needed him,we talked about everything,Then when we got together everything was great for the fisrt few months.Then he started verbaly abusing me very bad i would get called names all the time,for no reason. we would be getting along fine and out of no where he would be like ***** go make me dinner.Stuff like that. And he would say things like i will do what i want when i want and be very disrespectful.Then he hit me and i let it go the first time, but the second time i called the cops and when i told him he was going to have to go to court he left me and said i cant be with a female who calls the cops. I stayed with this man after he hit me,and now hes telling me i cant be with a female who calls the police. Wait what happened here? my question so why the turnaround? after everything he did to me why am i the bad one
2007-02-27 06:55:03 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am just really hurt because i was such a good woman to him and never gave up on him, even when he hit me, And he ended up leaving me over that without even trying to resolve it he just said stay the hell out of my life i never want to see you again. It hurts that hes the one giving up on me after all this.
2007-02-27 08:43:09 · update #1
He's a maniac. You are not the bad one. who cares why the turnaround get going!!
2007-03-07 06:45:16 · answer #1 · answered by Stitch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Get over him. Be glad he did not hurt you too bad
2. No need for you to feel rejected, men like him will hit women no matter what they look like. There is nothing you could have done.
3. Cut off all ties with him. The guy is going to keep hurting you and verbally abusing you.
4. The reason you feel rejected is because part of you already believes what he tells you. When he verbally abuses you, you need to believe that you are better than that. Your a human being who deserves respect and love. If he can't see that screw him and move on. Plenty of guys out there who will want to be with you and not treat you like crap.
2007-02-27 07:01:45 · answer #2 · answered by sinkablehail1978 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he feels powerful when treating u this way. I'm sorry but u were a target b/c he knew u wouldn't leave him. You called the cops and well he knows he's in the wrong but feels better by saying u called the cops than saying i hit u honestly it could be gods way of making the DEVIL leave sorry i don't like hearing about men hitting weman. It has always gotten to me. Don't let this guy treat u like ur in the wrong and don't let another man talk to you this way they can't love u if they r hitting u n disrespecting u
one question does he do drugs or is he an alcoholis if so get away b/c my dad killed my mom 2 yrs ago b/c my mom thot he would change and he jus kept getting worse and scared that ppl knew he was beating her idk jus don't let it happen to you
God could be playing his part
2007-03-06 15:51:42 · answer #3 · answered by Happily Taken 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"I'm not going to be with a woman who calls the cops" translated into English sounds like "I want to be able to hit a woman for the rest of my life and not get in trouble for it. If you're going to call the cops, that won't work." Not only is he an abuser, but he doesn't sound really smart either. Dumb, abusive, probably poor.... He must be REALLY good looking for you to even still be thinking about him. Really, what is he offering YOU?
2007-03-05 11:23:05 · answer #4 · answered by happyfeat w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg girl... my ex did the same things to me. And believe it or not he said the exact same thing. He was a complete a$$hole. Even so u might care about him and love him please dont drop the charges against him. Dont be with him. Because he will never stop. It will only get worse. My ex caused me to have a miscarriage he beat me so bad. Like a dummy I dropped the charges the first time he hit me but when he caused me to lose my baby... oh no... I am going to tell you what the attorney told me... he is not your friend, he does not care about you. So take control of the situation. Only you have the power to do so. If you drop this who will be next and will she let it go unrecognized too? Please dont let him get away with it. And as far as u being the bad one... you are not! YOU are A great person. You are strong and can be independent. So lose him and dont let him pin his guilty concience on you.
2007-02-27 07:09:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're not the bad one. He obviously has some major problems and calling the cops was a good idea. I hear too many stories where they don't call. you need someone new that will treat you good always. Not just at first.
2007-02-27 07:00:05 · answer #6 · answered by whatever 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are not the bad one. he needs help and you can not help him. let it go, he hit you and you did the right thing by calling the cops. he is scared of going to jail, that is why he can not be with you, because he was going to hit you again and again, and you was going to call the cops again and again. let him be and be him someone that will appreciates a good woman, he didn't and that is his lost.
2007-03-07 03:06:58 · answer #7 · answered by soto_a81 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not the bad one. Real men dont hit women or verbaly abuse them. It was right of you to call the cops and you deserve better. He has to make you feel bad to make himself look right. Its better that you are not with him and to set it straight, YOU left him because HE is scum.
2007-02-27 07:03:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's playing mind games with you. Don't put up with his s hit. Go find somebody that will beat the crap out of him, and consider going to counseling through DVIS or with somebody you trust. It may take awhile to say to yourself that you don't deserve to be treated like this, and find somebody who will treat you better (like a princess). So take your time, get out of this relationship, and break the cycle.
2007-02-27 07:05:22 · answer #9 · answered by ht_butterfly27 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ditch this loser
No woman should be treated like that. Oh an get a restraining order if he is that violent.
2007-02-27 07:01:40 · answer #10 · answered by 333(i'm only 1/2 evil) 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋