See I'm 13 and my big sister keeps messing things up for me.My sister keeps wasting money and hanging out with people who are not that great.She goes and helps other people,but when we (family) need help she is too busy.She constatly gets into arguments with my mom,and basically it is just a big mess.Also she has bipolar so I guess that maybe part of it. My mom doesn't want me to be like her and now she keeps watching my every move and bothering me more than usual.Plus I know she is hurt by the things my sister is doing.How do I get her to let it go? I talked to her a little and it kind of helped,but it wasn't good enough.
2007-02-27 06:50:28 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I'm a mother of a 13 yr old daughter, soon to be 14 (march 22), so I know what you mean but on the mother side of it all. I have 5 kids in all, my 13 yr old is the middle child. My oldest is almost 20, he joined the Air Force, no longer living with us. Next kid in line, age 16 boy, is NOTHING like his older brother. Of course, they had totally diff dads. My oldest has NO dad in his life, never has. He's done the BEST, so far out of 5. My second son, age 16 is diagnosed with Post Tramatic Stress Syndrome from dealing with his abusive dad til he was 14 when he attempted suicide cause the court was making him see his abusive father. Once I got him away from his dad (been 2 yrs now) I still have emotional & respect issues with him. HOW I deal with him & NOT let it affect my other children is by spending LOTS of time with my 13 yr old daughter as well as my 16 yr old son. (my youngest two 4 & 6 already get most of my attention but they visit their daddy a lot so it gives one on one time with my teens) I would suggest you invite your mom on a lot of "outtings"...see a lot of movies together, shopping trips, eating out, renting movies, etc. Once she realizes (by spending so much time with you) that your NOT like your sister she WILL let go more. She'll gain TRUST for you. So take this time NOW to let her 'get to know you' just like any one else & I promise your relationship will improve! Good luck!
2007-02-27 07:06:40 · answer #1 · answered by luv2bake 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You'll never get a mom to stop worrying. You can only show her through words and actions that you are not like your sister. She will see that soon enough and lighten up some.
2007-02-27 06:56:40 · answer #2 · answered by angelpoet04 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
run away for about 12 hours and leave a note that says all this bad stuff (you're hooked on meth, pregnant by a 27 yr old out of work construction worker, can't call because you just got your tongue pierced, etc), then come back home, tell her you were just kidding...maybe then she'll realize that you're not that bad of a girl
2007-02-27 06:56:05 · answer #3 · answered by kjhang10 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
moms are just like that they worry all the time ,just talk to her some more if she sees u have a good head on your shoulders she will loosen her hold just have to be patient with her
2007-02-27 06:59:13 · answer #4 · answered by raindovewmn41 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋