I lost my grandmother in Nov of 2005, my dog which i had for over 13 yrs in Jan of 2006 & my father in Sept 2006 after his long 2 yr struggle with brain cancer/tumors. 3 deaths within 1 yr in 1 household! It hurts a lot & I miss them all! When does that emptiness or pain in your heart go away? Well it get any easier?
2007-02-27 06:45:42 · 23 answers · asked by lilblueone 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
YES, it will get easier. I know. Still, it does take time. Grief is a terrible thing to go though and you just have to slog though it. Don't chase the painful feelings away. When you feel like crying, just cry. It took me a very long time to get over the death of my grandmother. She was a very important part of my life.
2007-02-27 06:49:40 · answer #1 · answered by Mary O 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have lost 5 family memebers in a house fire and lost a set of baby twins, the emptiness and the pain i felt was very strong i didn't think i could go on with life, now it has been over ten yrs for me the pain an emptiness i feel in my heart hasn't gone away but yes it has gotten easier i now feel my life is worth living.
2007-02-28 01:28:37 · answer #2 · answered by raven s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-29 23:49:00 · answer #3 · answered by heusel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband passed away 2 years ago, and the pain never goes away. It does get easier, because eventually it gets pushed down by happier things and dulls a bit. It's still there, but it's not the first think I think of every morning, nor the last thing I think of every night. I lost my Grandfather, my husband, my Grandmother, and my old dog, all in 9 months-I remember them all, and always will.
2007-02-27 06:58:42 · answer #4 · answered by But Inside I'm Screaming 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Things should get a little easier every day. Time is the best healer of the pain of loss. Hopefully, your feelings will slowly change from the sadness of grieving to the warmth of the good memories you have of those now gone from here phsically but living in your heart. If things don't get easier, seek out a counselor. Good luck and God bless.
2007-02-27 06:55:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I lost my dad 10 years ago and I still love and miss him everyday. I use to think about him and cry everyday for a while, now I think about him almost everyday and only cry sometimes. Grandparents are alittle easier their usually old and you never want them to life with pain. Parents, your kids, etc are harder. Try to remember the good times when thinking about them. It does get easier but it takes a while. Maybe try to deal with 1 at a time, my dad had cancer I loved my dad with all my heart but I asked GOD to take him I didnt want my dad to live in pain. Also I didnt use to believe in "ghosts" or that they would always be with me, but one night i woke up and seen my dad standing over my daughter at first I thought I was dreaming. The next day my 3 year old said "poppa come seen me last night" and I knew that I really did see him. Now I believe that my dad is always with me!
2007-02-27 06:54:25 · answer #6 · answered by letthepartybeginnow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OH if words can only express how much I feel for you I lost my husband 10yrs ago and our second daughter whom i was pregnant with at the time she was born 6 mos and i lost her 3 mos after he died then i lost my second husband 5 yrs ago so I can not express how sorry I am for your losses the pain will never go away there are times when i still cry over my husband that passed away 10 years ago you will never forget it but you will accept it and move on in your own way and deal with your feelings in your own way i am sorry for your loss god bless you everyday
2007-02-27 07:03:21 · answer #7 · answered by poohbear27 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am very sorry for all of the loss that you have endured in your life lately. However, there is not definite answer to your question. It is different for everyone. If you are having a great deal of trouble dealing with the losses, you may want to consider going to a bereavement counselor for one on one counseling. It is very helpful. Or you could also look into a group counseling session for those individuals also dealing with the loss of loved ones. They are both very beneficial. The group aspect is discussion of individuals also dealing with grief and loss. And sharing their feelings and the things they do to deal with the loss. Good luck to you. You could check your local yellow pages for hospice agencies in your area, they usually offer these services for very low fee or many times free to the public. I can understand the pain your feeling. I lost my granddaughter in 2005, my mother in 2006 and my husband in 1989. I miss them everyday. However, as time passes I replace the feelings of loss with memories of the good times we have had the opportunity to share. Even the shortest of moments are a blessing. I wish you the best in your healing process. Surround yourself with supportive friends and family. God bless****
2007-02-27 06:53:01 · answer #8 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The pain never goes away. We have the memories to keep them alive in our hearts. When the memories of their last days enter your thoughs, go back in time to when they were happy and healthy. Remembering the good times is easier than the just before they past.
Any memory you have that brings a smile to your face or forces you to laugh inside is a great memory.
2007-02-27 06:54:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how much you loved them.
If you loved them very much then the pain lasts forever, it just fades a bit through time.
The saying Time heals all wounds is Not true in all cases.
It can scar over though
Research steps for the grieving process on websites
It won't help pain, but at least you can understand it.
jc
2007-02-27 06:51:26 · answer #10 · answered by jonas c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋