We're planning on having a very relaxed wedding in the Virgin Islands, and really weren't planning on having a traditional bridal party (many reasons) I am still hopeful we will have a shower, but I don't know who would throw such a thing. Has our decision to forgo having a bridal party also nixed our chances of having a shower?
2007-02-27 06:42:55 · 33 answers · asked by melouofs 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
We are inviting everyone to the wedding away, but also planning a big reception to be held when we come home for everyone so nobody is left out.
2007-02-27 06:48:05 · update #1
Bubbles and Rickybobb...we aren't greedy, we are paying for everyone to come to the wedding away, and it isn't about the money. I've been to tons of showers, and I think it would be nice to have one of my own, too.
2007-02-27 07:48:47 · update #2
A parent, friend, co-worker, sibling - there is no rule on who can throw the shower. I'm sure there are many people who would be more than happy to throw one for you.
2007-02-27 07:19:12 · answer #1 · answered by dani77356 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I felt the same way as you although my situation was a little different. My two attendants both lived out state so I didn't think I'd have a shower either. But to my surprise my co-workers threw a shower for me at work. And when everyone arrived for the wedding, my mom arranged to have a little shower for me in her hotel room with my grandmother, 2 sisters (my attendants), and a very close friend of mine. I ended up having two showers after all. So I wouldn't worry about having a shower. You'd be surprised what your co-workers and family will come up with. But if you would still like to have a get together with all your gal pals, then I would suggest you host a bridal tea or luncheon (different from a shower) so you can chat and have good time prior to leaving for the Virgin Islands.
2007-02-27 07:07:12 · answer #2 · answered by Veronica W 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
usually a soon to be bride can have a variety of bridal showers. Sometimes co-workers throw one, sometimes family member and sometimes friends. You can just pick someone if you really want a shower. Plus, even though you are going to have a very relaxed wedding, it doesnt mean that when you get back you cant throw a picnic or reception to celebrate your marriage with others. You will get gifts at a reception if that is what you are worried about, during the casual reception, show a movie or slide show of the wedding so those who love you can share in your hapiness. On the other side of that, if you are having a small wedding and no brides maids or anything because you are not really close to anyone, you cant likely expect people to go out and spend lots of money on you and your new hubby when you dont have close relationships with them.
2007-02-27 06:53:51 · answer #3 · answered by Tina 2 · 2⤊ 3⤋
Honest I really would say a close female friend or family member should offer I don't think it would be appropriate to ask them to do it even though I guess asking them to be in the wedding party is kind of a round about way of asking them to throw the shower isn't it? I don't know how people you are close to are noone close to me wanted to throw a shower except my maid of honor and my soon to be mother in law so they are kinda working together on it instead of my bridesmaids.
2007-02-27 08:15:33 · answer #4 · answered by grizzliesgurl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-26 19:14:25 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anyone can throw a bridal shower, they do not necesarily have to be in your wedding party. Relatives are the most likely, but if you have a few really good friends, they may just surprise yo with one also. Who knows, you could really get lucky and have more than one!! I know someone that had THREE!
2007-02-27 06:47:54 · answer #6 · answered by Katykins 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Maybe no one. Since you are going non-traditional, I guess everyone else can too - it's "very relaxed" to not have to be bothered by a boring wedding shower - you must think.
You can't have your cake and eat it too. If you are not having a ceremony for everyone to witness and celebrate with you, you can't expect others to want to help you out otherwise. Sorry, girl, but you are making your choices...
2007-02-27 08:16:38 · answer #7 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Most people who force family members and friends to pay to fly to a island and waste vacation time do not get a real shower. I am sure your family will do something small for you but don't be so greedy. You don't want to pay for a wedding but you want all the benfits of a real wedding.
2007-02-27 07:43:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
You and your fiance can throw the wedding shower yourselves! Step out of the traditional, and have a couples wedding "party"- your main goal is to bring both your families together and have fun!
At the end of the day, no one's really asking who threw the shower, right?
2007-02-27 07:04:01 · answer #9 · answered by candy- capped 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Possibly. But if you have any good friends who are going to the party they might do it for you. It just depends on if they are offended by not being asked to be in a bridal party or not. You parents might also help you. Mostly the mothers im assuming.
2007-02-27 06:46:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋