I've met a Friend, that I really wanna get to know. She seems interested? But her current financial Problems, have her worried too much to think about Dating.
Question: Should I offer her a Loan? To show her that I wanna help? Or would that be slapping her in the face?
2007-02-27 06:37:28 · 11 answers · asked by Goggles 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
NO!!!!! You cannot hope to have a relationship with someone if it is started on money. Either you will be taken advantage of, she will not learn the lessons she needs to learn because of her bad choices, or it will be percieved in the long run as condecending. Offer other types of suport but money will only lead to trouble. He who borrows becomes the servant of the lender and that is no way to have a relationship.
2007-02-27 06:44:51 · answer #1 · answered by wombatwaz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Never mix business and pleasure. If you want to date her don't give her a loan. It will be too messy. At some point you will want the money back...and what if she doesn't have it...or she avoids giving it to you. Bad news...trust me. The best thing you can do for her is be a good friend, and help her find ways to get out of debt on her own (help her look for a better paying job, research companies that consolidate debt, etc.) If you show her that you are willing to be there for her through the hard times, without pushing her into dating you...once she is out of debt...I'm sure she will be happy to accept your request for a date.
2007-03-07 12:04:43 · answer #2 · answered by LoveBats 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Good question !!! Ok, well it's hard to say because us women want to be very independant these days. But we do like when someone cares enough to offer help. FIRST make sure she's not settin you up - you know gold digger or anything like that. (I hate women like that) Maybe you could just say to her "look you know if you need me for anything I am here for you just ask" it leaves it open so she can ask for whatever she needs. See how she responds to that. If she's like "ok", or "thanks that's so nice" then at least she didn't slap you or tell you off and insist that she does not need your help. If her response is ok then just suggest like "anything... anything you need, money I can rob a bank for you" maybe make a joke out of it so it's not so insulting to her but at least she knows it's out there. (let her know after the joke that you're serious so she doesn't have to question it in her mind) Try that way and see what happens. If she doesn't want your help then at least you tried. And it was nice of you to do so.
2007-02-27 14:52:11 · answer #3 · answered by nikkid6910705 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No Money Please!! I know that you mean well but you giving her money is only going to make her feel worse. and of course slapping her in the face wont help either. Just take your time with her and she will come around. calling her or visiting her at her home for a pizza and movie would be nice. (make sure to bring the pizza and movie since she is broke) lol
2007-03-07 12:08:16 · answer #4 · answered by Queen of the Nile 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you want but i wouldn't say that a loan will initiate a relationship. if the main issue is showing her that you care, you only have to be there for her. let her know you're around if she ever wants to talk. just give her time to get sorted and space before you move in on her just yet. what she needs right now is a friend, so bide your time you can hook up later...
2007-03-07 13:57:17 · answer #5 · answered by smethansmee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's worried about money, try telling her that you could just hang out with her at her place and watch T.V. or movies. Hell, even just to talk. Anything that wouldn't cost money. If you really want to date her, you shouldn't have a problem.
2007-02-27 14:44:12 · answer #6 · answered by t1riel 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whatch it!!! are you sure she really needs money, or maybe she is trying to get your money just because she knows you are interested in her. If you offer her your money but of course she will say yes: but...make sure you make an arrangement in how and when she will give your money back.
2007-02-27 14:46:46 · answer #7 · answered by Jersey girl on Florida. 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ehh, dont think that's gonna work for ya bud. probably insulting and maybe a little weird. im sure it comes from a good place but can't end well.
2007-02-27 14:42:05 · answer #8 · answered by LawDude 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm tread lightly there. I did that once for just a friend and they freaked. If you decided to offer it do it casually and see what she says
2007-02-27 14:41:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No
2007-02-27 14:45:28 · answer #10 · answered by bubbba2u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋