my daughter will be 2 in Nov and I recently told my husband that I wanted another. He started saying that if I really wanted 1 that we could start trying then he basically said he didn't. Then he said that if I still wanted another one in Nov after she turns 2 he'll consider it. I was a little confused. How can I convince him to change his mind?
2007-02-27 06:35:13 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
This is something you and your husband need to talk about. You have to find a compromise. If he said after your daughter turns 2 then give him that time to come around to the idea. You and your husband need to talk about this--that is the only way you will get a happy solution. Never trick or lie to a man to get pregnant. Children are supposed to be products of love and respect not deception and lies. Good Luck!
2007-02-27 06:41:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
Just be patient. My husband said he didn't want another one any time soon b/c he was getting out of the military and hasn't found a job yet. (My point was.. you already have one child... you WILL have a job either way... so why wait?) Anyhow, our son just turned two and I brought it up again. I pulled out the calendar and showed him the conception dates each month and then when the due date would be. It seems he forgot it takes 9 months (lol) b/c he said, "wow, that would put them almost 3 years apart if we got pregnant now... we better start now". I don't know, you could try the calendar thing, maybe it will give him a better picture, it's worth a try. Good luck!
2007-02-27 15:50:57 · answer #2 · answered by Nina Lee 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It could be that he feels as though it is too early to consider having another baby. If you had another baby in the next year then you would have two babies in diapers. It does make it harder but I don't know of any way that you can convince him to have another baby. YOu could sit down with him and tell him how you are feeling and see if that changes him mind any. Hang in there and everything will work out for the best
2007-02-27 14:42:58 · answer #3 · answered by tweety 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Show him your perspective let him know that sooner is better than later. Your daughter is at a good age to where she can understand and help you with the baby she also needs a playmate so that she can learn how to share with other kids before she starts school. Tell him that you could end up with the boy that he can play sports with and not have to dress up in another princess costume again lol!! good luck!
2007-02-27 14:43:17 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't. But whatever you do, don't try to "accidentally" get pregnant. That would be seriously detrimental to your relationship.
I'm having a similar problem. I've been wanting another child since my first was born. DH has finally said we could start trying this summer (DS will be 4). The wait is killing me! But I know that if I pushed him, he'd likely change his mind. Just be honest. Tell him that you really want a child, but you're willing to wait for a while until he's totally ready. If he doesn't feel pressured, he may change his mind.
2007-02-27 14:41:27 · answer #5 · answered by Amanda M 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You need to BOTH be in agreement before you do anything! Make sure that he's "on board" with the decision and feels good about it - otherwise, I think that you are asking for trouble: hurt feelings, possible resentment, etc. Having a child is such an important decision - you should BOTH be of the same mind! Your child is going to need the TWO of you to care for him/her - and the decision should be made by BOTH of you. Try to be happy, no matter what happens!
2007-02-27 15:01:31 · answer #6 · answered by Jack Rabbit 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why not just wait until after she turns 2? Three years apart is a perfect gap and that would be a good compromise. You shouldnt push him into it if he doesnt want one right now. Guys think about the financial situation when it comes to having more kids and it stresses them out so give him time to adjust to it.
2007-02-27 14:41:33 · answer #7 · answered by mom of twins 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Men have there ways to tell you when they are ready. I wanted a baby before my husband, and I am glad we waited. My two kids are 7 and 3 and they are the best of friends. I am glad we waited be patience he will come around and then you will be glad you waited. You are probably feeling like I did "My baby is getting big and I miss that." Do not rush it, you will be glad.
2007-02-27 14:44:14 · answer #8 · answered by odd622 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you do know you can have sex without needing to have kids, right?
Just saying.
Second, kids are a couple thing, its not and should NEVER be a one sided decision.
Third, don't talk to him with the intent of convincing him, talk to him with the intent of comming to an agreement. There is a huge difference between the two.
2007-02-27 14:44:51 · answer #9 · answered by ryushinigami 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You cant. Just be patient, and see what happens after he said. You should have discussed this before you got married. If you did, and you both agreed on two kids, then bring that up to him. Otherwise, its a lose/lose situation.
2007-02-27 14:40:34 · answer #10 · answered by Soon2BMommy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋