Not just men, but women too. Why is it that the chase is so much better than when you finally have someone?
2007-02-27 05:56:30 · 8 answers · asked by GAgirl 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Because we build up a fantasy about who that person is and what it would be like to be with them. We dream it will be perfect and better than anything else. Truth is, if we actually got to KNOW them, we might not even LIKE them.
Better to break that pattern and start spending time actually getting to know someone before diving in.
2007-02-27 06:02:00 · answer #1 · answered by J F 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The chase lends back to our earliest days of hunting and gathering. It is an accomplishment to acquire something you desire. However, if you find that you no longer desire the object you acquired, that is a different problem. If you pursue love for the sake of pursuit, you make want to take a look at your actions and your life situation. Do you want to settle down? If not, that's ok, but be honest with the people you pursue. If you do want to settle down, but always choose the wrong person, ask yourself why that person isn't right? Is it looks, wealth, ambition, skill.....
If you find yourself with an addictive personalty or loosing interest in your mate, look to your own traits. Ask yourself, "what do you bring to the relationship?" Are you an interesting person to be with, or are you always scanning the horizon.
2007-02-27 14:04:38 · answer #2 · answered by Mrs. E 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple answer: we believe in B.S. and we don't try to earn what we want.
We assume, because of that B.S. we believe in, that we inherently DESERVE to have everything handed to us on a platter. Very few people are actually willing to work for and earn what they get. Just look at how many ***** and moan about their jobs when in places like India almost half the population is unemployed and starving, and the average yearly income of the people who do have jobs is around $200.
We assume that people are supposed to love us for who we are just because we want them to. We assume people are supposed to not hurt us and make our lives easy for us. We assume our bosses and customers are supposed to respect us because we think we are doing enough. We assume people are supposed to like us because we're good and nice and sweet.
Makes me wanna retch sometimes.
Truth is, none of us "deserves" happiness or love or an easy life. But we all have the right to WORK for those things and EARN them.
What do most people do when they see something they want? Either give up on it immediately (life's not fair, I couldn't get it anyway) or go for it, and if we fail, piss and moan (see? I tried, that should be good enough! wah wah wah). Very few of us keep trying and keep working until we figure it out and/or find a solution. Very few of us assume that part of life is in the PROCESS, not in the result. So many of us want instant gratification.
We can get what we want, any of us. But only if we act like adults and show that we are willing to do what it takes to get it. This includes love and happiness. I got the girl I wanted, and I wasn't born lucky.
Work hard.
This wasn't totally in reference to your question, so I'll just add one more note:
The chase can be very fulfilling and exciting, if neither person allows themselves to be entirely tamed or caught or had. But most people, again, don't wanna work this hard, thus the let down.
2007-02-27 14:08:25 · answer #3 · answered by JudasHero 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sucks doesn't it?
I'm always wondering what I'm missing out on.
2007-02-27 13:59:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Huh? I don't think so. I am happy with the one I am with.
2007-02-27 14:00:58 · answer #5 · answered by Ellyn 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's the adrenaline rush!!!!!
2007-02-27 14:00:22 · answer #6 · answered by Nibbles 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it SUCKS!! we always what can't have always wondering what is better out there for you!!
2007-02-27 14:00:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Its not when its the right person..........
2007-02-27 14:00:27 · answer #8 · answered by troble # one? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋