I have not seen my son in four months? how can I keep my mind of of him?? I am crying?

Question

I was a single father for six months and never had a problem. My son is my heart and he makes me live. He is my everything. I don't even date or will never been with a person because he is the most important person in my life. I was in the wrong place at the wrong time and I lost him until I go to court to clear my name. WHAT can I do that I can stop crying and feel better I miss him so MUCH. I used to be a kindergarten teacher now I feel lost without him, ;-)

Answer 1

I feel very proud of you for always putting your son first. Very few man are willing to do for their children. Don't feel bad, we all make mistakes. The only thing you can do right now is get closer to God and ask for patience & strength to help you with stand the temporary separation from your son. Pray that you will be able to clear you name completely and soon have your child back in your arms where he belongs. Use this time productively in ways that will improve your relationship with him once he is returned to you. Don't despire, I know God will help you.

Don't get me wrong. I am not a religious fanatic. I distanced myself from God when I was 16 years old and my father got cancer and passed away. I couldn't blame someone so I blamed who I could at the time, GOD. Now, at 35, I am returning to my faith. I know life is hard but don't give up. I will be praying that you will be able to clear your name soon and be reunited with your son.

I sense your a person with a lot of love to offer, the love you feel for your son. Don't hold it all inside and allow you to hurt you. Instead try sharing that love with someone who needs it. Go to a nursing home and offer to be a volunteer and give those elderly people the love and attention they need. Sad to say, parents sometimes neglect their children because they are too busy trying to provide for them, working, that we also forget to care for our elders who provided for us. Once the elderly become a burden most people send them to nursing homes and forget about them.

As the only child, I am still caring for my mother who is going to be 77 this July. Yes, she is more than a handful who at times I wish I could have the heart to send her to a nursing home but I can't because I know that would kill her spirit. The Children and Elderly are always needy of attention and love.

Answer 2

The fact that you were a Kindergarten teacher has nothing at all to do with you're grief.

Whatever you did must have been pretty darn bad if they took you're son away from you.

Learn from this and be more prepared in the future for circumstances that you could possibly control.

You're son deserves better than what he is being dealt right now.

I suppose you wait for the law to take charge and in the meantime live knowing that you are going to make this wrong a right and let it turn you're life around for the betterment of you and the betterment of you're son.

Answer 3

I pity you if this is the only venue you have to air your immaturity and to cry. I don't mean to sound crass but let's get real here! If you are a single father and your son is a ward of the state, or has been placed with a family member until you clear your name of whatever injustice you claim, then just bide your time and that's it! You must miss him dearly but you placed yourself and him in this situation for 'being in the wrong place at the wrong time'. No such thing! Be a man and learn to be more careful next time; if there is a next time!

Answer 4

Do things in your son's honor (visit sick children at the local hospital, volunteer at the local school, volunteer at the nursing home or hospital for old people) anything to keep your mind off your loss and to keep you busy. Hopefully your court date will come up soon. You really need to have appropriate legal help in any such situation, so I hope you have a reputable lawyer, if not contact your local Bar Association or Lawyer's Association to get the name of someone specializing in this type of situation. Good luck and God Bless.

Answer 5

well being in the wrong place at the wrong tiimeis a common excuse ask my daughter she will tellyou.her ex and his family took her kids to a res and got custody of them.He has full rights because they are good friends with the judge. she has only seen then twice since october.All you can do is go thru each day and pray you will make it thru that day at look for the day you get to see him again. She has nightmares every night about losing them.and all you can do is hope for the best and not for the worst of the situation. She goes day by day as im sure you will be able to do it also. good luck.

Answer 6

I'm not sure what I can say that might be of help. I'm sorry about your situation. Handle what you need to take care of now, and when it's all done, focus on the relationship that you have with your son. Just be strong, cause you know you can't fight the court systems.

Answer 7

Well good luck in court hope that works out for yah but as far as the pain just hold onto the good times and be strong he needs you to.

Answer 8

Well most agencies involved in children and family welfare allow visitation or at least you may be allowed to call and talk to him. Other than that you just have to just wait and talk to your lawyer so you can hopefully get through this mess and get your son back.

Answer 9

Work hard at whatever legal tangle you've gotten yourself into. Turn all that energy about missing him and crying over him into something productive and positive. Get yourself clear and do it fast!

Answer 10

I really feel sorry for you, i cant say much because i dont knowmuch of the laws that surrounds your situation but i know that Jesus can fix it, talk to him about the situation am sure he will do something about it.cheers