im 18 and my boyfriend is 39 we plan on getting married. he has 2 kids from an ex wife. and wants another one but why do i feel so ready at 18 to have a baby. how can i talk to him abotu this now that he doesnt want a baby?
2007-02-27 05:54:06 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He said he would like to have another one but maybe not now. He just wants to enjoy the two of you and some freedom. This is why men usually leave their first wives with the kids. They start hitting midlife and want to play. He just wants to play now, and enjoy you. I wouldn't have a baby now, enjoy being young and able to have fun.
There is plenty of time for kids later. I know take it from experience. HAVE FUN!!
2007-02-27 06:01:54 · answer #1 · answered by lizzybit64 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that is a big age gap. 21 years older than you is old enough to be your father. But age gap aside, I don't understand why any 18 year old would want to have a baby. Most teenagers just have babies by accident. He's 39 with two kids already. Maybe he's just done reproducing. Parenting is a daunting task that's he's went through twice already. If you really are set on having a baby, then all you can really do is talk to him. Tell him your reasons why and try to convince him. But don't try to pressure him, that can be really bad for the relationship.
2007-02-27 06:02:03 · answer #2 · answered by Subconsciousless 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why on earth would you, at 18, want to be with a man that is 21 years older than you (old enough to be your father) and who has two children? Both of you sound very immature to me. Certainly, if you are making these kinds of poor choices at this point in your life, it would be horribly selfish to bring a baby into the scenerio. Find someone your own age, enjoy your youth, get an education, and forget about "grandpa"...
2007-02-27 06:00:07 · answer #3 · answered by Vicky L 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i comprehend what you're speaking about; notwithstanding having a touch one with a guy that doesnt pick one isn't a thanks to pass. imagine of your baby - shall we are saying he does grant you with youngster help, if he doesnt pick yet another youngster, he wont be there on your baby emotionally or bodily. it really is not any longer honest. Secondly, I comprehend the life-form and it makes you sense like its the right element ever, yet youre in simple terms stuck up interior the money, trust me. you could now both get a reliable career going and your self make the 350K a year - why can not you?? OR trust that you're a reliable female and also you'll meet a reliable guy and characteristic a tremendous life with someone that desires an similar issues as you. you could stay very comforrtably on below 350K. you're settling with the guy only for money - youthful ones pick love more suitable than money.
2016-12-05 00:52:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in a situation with a totally grown up guy. being in that situation makes you feel like you are totally grown up and able to handle anything, when in reality you cant even legally buy a beer.
Find a guy more your age.Get rid of him and go experience the things your supposed to be experiencing right now. Even if you thin you love him now, you dont. There are so many more guys out there that will allow you to get the most out of your life. Don't get tied down with a family and have many regrets by the time your 25.
2007-02-27 05:57:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since your boyfriend has children from previous relationships then he might not feel that right now is the time to bring another one in world since things are not in order as he would want them to be. Tell your boyfriend what you feel about having a baby at your age and get his input, but you and him together have to decide if it is right or not the right time to want to bring children int world, and you are planning to get married which would not be a bad idea to wait until after you are married to think about adding to the family. think things over and then make a decision.
2007-02-27 06:11:12 · answer #6 · answered by gordonflames242003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st of all he is a perv cause you are tooo young 4 him..he probably doesnt want anythin attaching him to you 4ever like a baby so he can bounce when he is done with you..What in the hell does a normal 39 yr old want an 18 yr old for?..dont have a baby with this man you are too young and you will ruin your own life..
ps: Find a man your age..
2007-02-27 06:03:38 · answer #7 · answered by bebekaychic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're crazy. Having 2 kids from his ex wife should make you want to wait to have a baby if anything. You're young. Have you finished high school? Do you plan on going to college to better yourself. Your boyfriend is a little older than you (not a problem- I mean, if you were my kid it would be, but whatever...) are you two even on the same page in life? Maybe that's why you want to have more kids and he doesn't.
2007-02-27 05:58:32 · answer #8 · answered by dre & ani 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
hi , you seem ready cz u're bf iz to old for you so you're acting like a women but you shouldin't you are a adult but no 39 you still have time to find your prince so i see you without him and if you really like baby's adopt one and continue your life searching on your true love
being a mother at 18 is so comlicated anyway that what i see so anyway don't give up
2007-02-27 06:08:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because he has already experianced that point in his life and he has had his "fill" of it. You on the other hand are young and are ready to experiance that stage of your life. My advice is seek someone that doesn't have kids thats around 18-25.
2007-02-27 06:12:48 · answer #10 · answered by Wes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋