Early on our first date, we went back to my place, though when we got there she was giving me mixed signals, moving in closer when I moved away, but teasing me a little when I went in for the kiss, but SHE ended up eventually kissing ME. I kinda got the impression that she kinda wanted to/was about to cross that line. I think that she is really attracted to me but at the same time has this conflict with her religion (VERY rel.)
On one hand she was like she doesn't kiss until in a relationship but on the other hand what did she think we where going back to my place for?
In any case she said I am kinda pushy (but she kissed me in the end?), I think that she likes me but that this is coming from her desire to be faithful to God and being worried about the sex before marriage thing. I told her I won't cross that line and if she tries to, I will stop her.
So do I tone it down a little bit and how much? I don't want to be the passive nice guy, but I don't want to be too pushy
2007-02-27 05:53:37 · 9 answers · asked by Jamal J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We have already made out several times, so won't it be weird to not make out all of a sudden when hanging out?
I really think she is just worried that if I am this "pushy" about kissing, how pushy will I be about sex?
Her attraction to me makes her do one thing but her passion for her faith is pulling her another way.
2007-02-27 05:56:10 · update #1
I think your doing fine. I definetly wouldn't speed things up. but your right, don't play Mr nice guy. Let things flow and don't be afraid to hurt her feelings in an argument. you have to speak your mind too.
2007-02-27 05:57:28 · answer #1 · answered by whatever 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LETS admit it... Girls are major teases... They play major games send mixed signals and except the man to figure out what we want... ( yes I am a women but I DONT play these games) I have seen women after women complain about this and I am like tell him what you want... Whats so damn hard....
I would tell her until she makes up her mind about what she wants kissing,sex, relationship etc your laying low and when she is ready she will need to make the first move. Put the ball in her court and make her figure it out..
2007-02-27 06:00:05 · answer #2 · answered by Alexis221 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it doesn't sound like you're being too pushy if she's the one kissing you! if you've told her that you'll respect her boundaries/faith then that should be enough. I assume she's old enough to make her own decisions.
it might help to see each other away from 'your place' then she might not feel so pressured physically.
2007-02-27 06:03:47 · answer #3 · answered by 1912 Hudson 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What does it mean to you when you go back to your place? Not all people think the same way you do ... specially women. You sound like a player and a big time loser ... this girl deserves a heck of a lot better.
2007-02-27 05:59:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Find other things to do besides going to your place to make out. Spend time DOING things and TALKING so that you get to know each other. When you know her a little better, discuss this with her.
2007-02-27 05:59:00 · answer #5 · answered by J F 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I can tell you to do....is just let her show you what she wants. If you push her you will push her away but if you are willing to wait around she sounds almost ready to explore. Just ask her about it. Tell her you need to know so you don't go too far. Be honest.
2007-02-27 05:59:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to sit down with her and talk to her bout it... she seems like she dont kno what she wants...and it seems the same for you to... theres nothing wronge with kissing so dont change that but dont do any thing more then that...
2007-02-27 06:02:15 · answer #7 · answered by Someonetolove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what comes natural and if you care about her you will wait....
2007-02-27 05:57:11 · answer #8 · answered by troble # one? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just sit down and ask her about it? tell her how u are feeling, hopefully she will tell you EXACTLY wat she wants from u
2007-02-27 05:58:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋