We dated for 6 weeks, but for some reason had a falling out. We used to see each other twice a week, msn and speak on the phone two times a day. Than i got very emotional and difficult with him and i guess I behaved in a wrong way, but he got very offended and for one week I haven't seing him.
He gives me various excuses for not wanting to see me ( tired, watching a movie, need to study, friend is coming over for wkd, etc). He admitted he is very offended ( my apology didn't work) and that he "isn't sure he wants anymore" but he refuses to say whether he is breaking up with me.
I am a good looking girl, i live a fast life, i will move on easily ( or I hope so) but I DO LIKE THIS GUY A LOT, what shall I do.
I feel broken hearted, depressed, loosing focus in my life, i know if I go out with someone else i am going to be fine. Where is the guarantee this isn't what he is doing?
So do I have a moral right to got out dating/having sex with another man?
2007-02-27 05:52:37 · 17 answers · asked by Rita B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if you want to have sex/date another man tell your 'boyfriend' that it is over. as far as youre concerned your jsut assuming he will end up breaking up with you, but so far that hasnt happened. how would u feel if u did sleep with another man and ur boyfriend came back and watned to try things over again.. you would feel terrible (i hope!). make sure you are out of a relationship before getting into a new one otherwise YES it is cheating because its going behind his back and doing things with other guys. just be open and honest with him. tell him how you feel that your not teh type of girl to wait around till he makes up his mind, but that you DO REALLY LIKE HIM and do want to be with him but right now hes not being fair to you in teh way hes treating you. apologise for being emotional and difficult with him in teh past and tell him you do want to try to make it work. if he is still 'unsure' then he obviously doesnt feel mutual about the relationship and isnt willing to give it a go. Heres my advice that all chicks (and most guys) can relate to: if you walk into a shop and see a nice top with a reasonable/high price you might try it on, you might imgagine what other clothes you will wear with it, you might wonder abuot your finances for that weekf if you can afford it, but if you really are UNSURE about it in anyway, 99% you wont buy it - why? because you know that there might be just as nice top somewhere else for cheaper, ro that you dont need it right now. but if you find you love it as soon as you put it on no matter what the price is, you will buy it. relationship is like that, if you are ever unsure about the girl/guy, dont get it, most likely it will fail, go with your gut instinct, your brain, and your heart, usually works out.
2007-02-27 10:46:46 · answer #1 · answered by WomanSoHeartless 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I kinda think that if you are sure you will get over him so easily and quickly by being with someone else then you cant be brokenhearted about separating. I don't think you should be left hanging on a string waiting for him to make his mind up though.
Ask him outright and see what he say's or feels. If you don't get anything positive out of speaking to him then you have to move on.
I have been with my partner for 9 years but when we first started seeing each other we had an argument after the first 4 weeks and nearly called it a day.
I was sad about breaking up with but I never thought 'oh another guy in my life will ease the pain or help me move on'. I knew that I wanted the relationship to progress further.
Once you are a strong enough person that can move on without needing another guy, that's when you really start to feel real feelings & emotions and realise what you want in a relationship.
As for the moral right stuff you should find out where you stand with him and decide if you really like him as much as you think before you just give up on the whole thing and get with another guy.
I mean you could start seeing someone else, he may then start contacting you and try to get the relationship going again, then find out that you already moved on and hey you could loose out in the long run.
So to sum up I would talk to him & really think about what you want from this guy before you make any rash decisions.
2007-02-27 07:41:42 · answer #2 · answered by 2talkornot2talk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you have the right to move on you are a young, free, single girl - you have not made a committment to him of any kind so I would hope that you will move on.
Perhaps with some distance between to the two of you he might reconsider and get back in touch with you.
You never know.
Actually this is quite comforting (sorry!) it shows that the good looking ones don't always have it there own way!
2007-02-27 06:08:11 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO of you are "still with him". You seem to still be young, you have your whole life ahead of you to date/have sex with other people so do not rush your life. You should hang in there with him sometimes men go through a period that they just need some space and they do not mean anything by it. Give him that space and do n ot take it to heart. Live your life but do not rush to where you do not enjoy it. If in a couple of weeks he does not come out of it then reconsider your options. Do not rush things.
2007-02-27 06:00:57 · answer #4 · answered by odd622 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can't say much on this, you sow what you reap! since you're so confident that you can easily move on, then probably you shouldn't be asking this lengthy question in the first place. Coz of some people like you i dont feel like waking up in morning! no offence but you are full of yourself, either buy a good new large mirror or just read what you wrote and think about it... good luck.
2007-02-27 06:00:04 · answer #5 · answered by sha m 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What's this talk about moral right? He's backing off the relationship, so where's the "cheating" come in?
Make the call yourself. Tell him that if things are cooling off, it's time to admit it and cut each other free. Have "the breakup conversation" so that you're done, and can move on.
2007-02-27 05:57:38 · answer #6 · answered by Jarien 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why are you wasting your time on this domineering loser. When you say you are contemplating cheating on him, well he is no longer in the equation , so you are not cheating. You are at liberty to go out with whoever you want to, and if this involves having sex, just enjoy it. However unless you want to be tarnished a slapper, chose your boyfriends carefully.Do not do it on your own doorstep.
2007-02-27 06:08:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you only dated for 6 weeks it was hardly a commited relationship was it? Move on & don't get so caught up so fast in future.
2007-02-27 06:03:19 · answer #8 · answered by munki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how could you ever think you have a moral right to cheat? That's the dumbest thing I've ever heard.
You have the right to do whatever you want, but you're not gonna be in the right by "cheating." If you wanna be moral about it, break it off with him and then do whatever you want.
2007-02-27 06:00:06 · answer #9 · answered by JudasHero 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I really think you should let go and move on. He needs to figure out what he really wants and he just sounds as if he is playing games. Why doesn't he just let you know what's up??
2007-02-27 06:02:19 · answer #10 · answered by Melissa M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋