We always seem to have disagreements when a situation arises about his baby mom asking for money additional to the child support and he has partial custody so he plays his part. She recently asked him could she come to the house we live at to see where the child would be staying. At first he said no, then He gave in. We had a n argument about it because he says that he will not bring her to the house when I am home becasue she is crazy and he doesnt want anything to happen. Mind you I never met this women. The child has already spent the night at the house numerous amounts of times so whats the big deal. She makes a conscious effrt to call my BF everyday about 2-3xs a day about nothing. Even when the child is with us she calls almost every hour on the hour just to say, "what yall doing, is everything ok?" My bf also walks out the room to tal to her on the phone when she calls because he says I always ask him about thier conversations? Am I over-reacting, what should I do?
2007-02-27 05:49:53 · 6 answers · asked by sdenee 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds a little disrespectful to me. I think you should tell him how you really feel. Privacy is one thing, but he shouldn't have anything to hide from you. If the child's mother doesn't have enough self control to come in YOUR house with you there, then she doesn't need to come. If your man has a problem with that, that's a respect issue.
2007-02-27 05:55:17 · answer #1 · answered by dre & ani 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are unfortunately in a very difficult situation, your the other woman not only to your boyfriends ex, but also for her child. She has been replaced doubly so by you in the lives of people she cared/cares about and she is not mature enough to be able to handle that. The child that your boyfriend and his ex share will be a constant "hook" for this woman to place herself firmly in your life for many many years to come. If your boyfriend is worth years of intrusion and struggle, then you should stay in the relationship. If you think that you'd flourish in a relationship with someone who does not have children, then you have a heavy decision ahead of you. If you decide to stay with your boyfriend, the two of you should sit down and discuss the problem. You should tell your boyfriend that you love him and trust him. If he feels the need to leave the room when his ex calls, you should be understanding and tell him that you respect his need to keep those conversations private. If his ex demands to see where her child will sleep when she is with you, I would arrange a day and a time for that to happen, give them 30 minutes for her to review the property, then she leaves and is not invited back again. You cannot stop her from calling your boyfriend, but I would expect that he will grow very tired of this and it probably irritates him to no extent. Let him deal with that issue, he will decide what he can take and will make his own decisions at that time.
2007-02-27 13:59:19 · answer #2 · answered by Mrs. E 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, you are not getting what you want. Your boyfriend will always have a relationship with this woman because of his child. She may be too involved, controlling, and all this, but you have to sit back and play 2nd string. Be strong in your relationship with your boyfriend. Don't be in contact with this woman, so steer clear of the house when she is over or on the phone. Your boyfriend is with you, not her, so don't worry.
2007-02-27 13:58:38 · answer #3 · answered by ht_butterfly27 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i guess this "crazy" woman still has feelings 4 ur bf but you can't blame her, she has a baby from him and she wants the best 4 it.if you love ur bf,you need to learn to live with this, he has made a mistake and there's no turning back so try to get on well with her otherwise u may have to be the one to leave the others alone. in this situation, you don't have to be jelaous,don't forget,he could have chosen to be with her but he chose to be with you.
2007-02-27 14:00:58 · answer #4 · answered by kwlcmmm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He feels that you're overreacting. If you can't trust him, the relationship won't work. She is obviously nuts, maybe he just wants to protect you from that. They will always have a relationship because of the child, can you handle that?
2007-02-27 13:55:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
something tells me that they are trying to get back together, so either deal with it or find someone new.
2007-02-27 13:56:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋