My current boyfriend has a problem with me talking to my ex..which is understandable. Jealousy is a primary emotion that we all feel, but how do you know when it is controlling behavior? He looks at my pictures and interrogates every male he sees..he even got jealous when he saw a pic of my bro reading to me, I was 4! I'm in the hospital and I didn't want to tell him the details behind it..well he got mad and grabbed my file from the door, I tried to take it from him and he elbowed me really hard and started reading it. I just don't know about this guy..
2007-02-27 05:40:28 · 17 answers · asked by goldengirl 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You don't KNOW if he's controlling?? Yes. He is. Jealousy may be a primal emotion, but jealousy of brother reading to you when 4 is NOT a normal reaction. Yes, he is controlling. If he gets mad at you while you are in the hospital and ELBOWS YOU REAL HARD, that is NOT a good sign. It sounds like more than controlling behavior, it sounds like he is escalating to abusive. One of the signs of abusers is that they start to isolate you from your family and friends.
2007-02-27 05:45:49 · answer #1 · answered by CaptDare 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
duh...jealous of brother when you were 4
elbowed you really "hard" and took something from you...
these are not the actions of a "normal" relationship...so yes, sounds very controlling to me. The longer you are in the relationship the more controlling he will be. It is good that you caught some early signs!!
I would end the relationship unless you want to put yourself through some serious pain.
be cool...
2007-02-27 05:45:39 · answer #2 · answered by CC Babydoll 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GIRL YOU NEED TO LET THIS GUY GO! I have witnessed abusive, controlling relationships up front, and it is NEVER cool. go now before that moment comes when you are hiding the bruises, and making excuses and saying that he didnt mean it and it will never happen again, go now before he gets a chance to hurt you cause that dude is wrong.
if he is jealous of the little things, its going to escalate and dont let it!
2007-02-27 05:51:08 · answer #3 · answered by moon_chyld03 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's WAY too controlling. If you have it in you...don't let this go any farther, it will only get worse. You will be one of those abused women that can't even look out the window without getting hit.
Run while you can.
2007-02-27 05:44:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He got physical with you, while you were in the hospital... Big warning flag. If he's not a control freak now, he's at least borderline, and potentially abusive to boot.
Either work it out with him in counseling ASAP, or start searching for a new relationship before this one gets any harder to leave.
2007-02-27 05:44:34 · answer #5 · answered by Jarien 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
First of all the (boy) is not your FRIEND . He physically struck you, this could be the start of a new violent relationship. Two words , Get help, you need to understand its not okey to be hit or emotionally twisted. Please find a strong female relative and trust them, and open your heart.
2007-02-27 05:56:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are going to have some problems with this guy. If he gets jealous for stupid little things like that, you are headed for trouble.
2007-02-27 05:47:31 · answer #7 · answered by Stac 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's an old saying "If in doubt, do without!"
Also, Ann Landers always said, "If it is easier to live without him than with him, you need to cut bait" or something like that!
2007-02-27 05:45:14 · answer #8 · answered by Nibbles 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a screwball. Leave him. Life's too short to be with people whose problems don't concern you but interfere with your own happiness.
2007-02-27 05:46:05 · answer #9 · answered by JudasHero 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah he sounds controlling, and from what i have seen in life, it will only get worse. you will need to realize that he isn't healthy for you and make the decision to leave. from what i witnessed in life, you will be physically hurt by staying with him. and don't believe him when he says he will change, he won't.
2007-02-27 05:45:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋