and yes ill still go to school i have 3 out of state colleges wanting me...and one of them is by his family so if you can help me out at all id love it! buhbye
2007-02-27 05:39:48 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
If you have to ask people on the internet then the answer is no.
Only YOU know the answer to this question.
You could say yes, and get married after you graduate college.
2007-02-27 05:43:29 · answer #1 · answered by Terri 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
That is only something you can answer. However your confused so here's somethings to think about:
1.)If you have dated him for the past three years you haven't had the chance to date all the different types of guys out there. Of course right now he seems eight because its what you are comfortable with but he might not be the best for you.
2.) College changes people completely. Some people go away and come back a totally different person. There's nothing to say this won't happen to you as well.
3.) If you get engaged now wait to have the wedding until you graduate college that way you know that even through thick and thin and the long distance you can still keep it together.
4.) Don't put off going to the college you really want to for him. Whos to say you won't drift apart or he will be faithful and not cheat on you. Then its too late to take back your past.
2007-02-27 05:51:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
you are so young, I am not saying that a true lasting love can not happen between 2 young people, but If you truly love him and think that you will never love another, and wont have any regrets about marrying young, then say yes but just make it an extended engagment, so you can both make it through your schooling. If it is real and going to last, a seperation or long engagement while you are both away at school wont hurt the relationship and you will have time to save for a place of your own. My aunt and uncle only dated eachother since they were in 8th grade and married, had 4 kids and are still married, it is possible to have a lasting relationship, but really just take your time, and do a little saving. Your personalities will change as time goes on and being as we dont know the future... let time test the relationship.
2007-02-27 05:46:54 · answer #3 · answered by Tina 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
At least wait until your last year of college. The reason is what if despite all precautions you end up getting pregnant? If you're in your last year of college then you could still finish up and graduate before the baby would be born instead of having to put your education on hold and possibly never going back. Also who knows what the future will hold. You and he may drift apart and if that happens then it would be better to not be married at the time. Marriage, as wonderful as it is, can wait. Your education can't.
2007-02-27 07:41:30 · answer #4 · answered by Coop's Wife 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would finish my college education first. What you could do is maybe pick the college near his family. But get your education first and then marry your boyfriend after you graduate. Eighteen is a bit too young anyway. Your ideas on what you want in a guy may change dramatically as you mature and you and your BF may have a parting of the ways in the future. Who knows? So don't jump into anything now...Education should be paramount in your mind first. Good luck
2007-02-27 12:08:27 · answer #5 · answered by cardgirl2 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, because I'm a strong believer in education, I say no. But you have to consider why he wants to marry you. I've heard people say "why does it matter we're gonna get married anyway, the sooner we do, the sooner we start our lives." You know what I say to that? I say that is BS. Enjoy your life as it is, and if he really loves you, than he should understand that if you get married now, there is actually less things you can do, because you're so young, financially it would hurt both of you. Imagine college loans, car payments, rent, groceries, and because you are young, you'll be going out a lot too, so don't forget those extra expenses. What about a wedding? that cost money. what about college? what about kids? I got married one month before i turned 21. financially, it was fine, i was still able to go to school, we traveled, used money, and lowe and behold, we have our own house now, expecting to buy a brand new car, it's great. But for anyone who gives yourself a chance. My advice is to remain single. You may commit yourselves to each other, but you don't have to marry him. why not try living together first? Just get what you want. personal goals, and marriage should be if you both want it, not because it's the next step, or because you've been togehter long, you might as well get married, no. I don't think so. just think logically of your wants and needs and how you will do things if you got married. Good luck.
2007-02-27 05:51:47 · answer #6 · answered by annlyvqp 3 · 5⤊ 1⤋
It all depends if you want to! 18 years old is a little too young to get married, but that doesn't mean you CAN'T! Maybe the both of you should get married, but set it for a later date- like when you graduate college. Do your education first, then get a good job- cause weddings are NOT cheap!
Good luck!!
2007-02-27 05:46:03 · answer #7 · answered by candy- capped 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
People change alot from 18 to 25 only marry if you think it's possible that the people that you are going to become are the ones that will still be together. If you go to school how will you support eachother? You can't live off of his family.
2007-02-27 05:44:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Even though I was heartbroken at the time, I am very glad I didn't marry my high school sweetheart. I loved him, but we grew into two very different people. My mom did marry her high school sweetheart (my dad) and it was a disaster, he turned into an alcoholic abuser. I would go to college for a couple of years and find out where you are going in your life.
2007-02-27 05:46:26 · answer #9 · answered by smartypants909 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
do u want to go the rest of your life without ever kissing another person? Do u think that 50 years from now you both will still be together? how about 20 years? the both of u should go to school and if the relationship is that strong it will wait till after u graduate
2007-02-27 05:51:43 · answer #10 · answered by imwatch420 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋