theres no going back, i just need to get over her
2007-02-27 05:38:26 · 16 answers · asked by Bruza 17/uk 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Time. That is it. Don't talk to her, email her, etc. If you do your just prolonging the bullshit and suffering.
2007-02-27 05:41:27 · answer #1 · answered by Oswald29 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Bruza,
Getting over someone isn't exactly the easiest thing to do. I had to get over a relationship of 1,5 year and I didn't really do it the right way. But is there a right way?
I was pretty stupid at that time; I didn't want to go back, but I also didn't want to be alone so every guy that came near me was potential new relationship material. So after a few days I would realize that I needed to be alone and had to dump the guy saying it wasn't his fault ... After a while I became a bit more restless but in the end it took me almost two years before I was able to really start over with someone new.
I think the main thing that can help you get over her are good friends. People to hang out with who can cheer you up when you need it. People who will listen to what you have to say about her time and time again when everyone else thinks you should already have forgotten her.
2007-02-27 14:23:27 · answer #2 · answered by anneke 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there a best way? How about a way that isn't destructive or totally stupid? Probably start with a list of what not to do. You can try taking boxing lessons. You'll toughen up and focus your attention to avoid getting punched in the head. (motivation) Join the Army?( maybe now is not a good time). Take up long distance running? Do you have a relative or older friend you can confide in? Sometimes talking or meeting new people helps. It tends to sharpen my conversational skills while not talking about my problems. (Nobody likes a whiner). Bottom line, there is no best way that works for everybody. Just remember that you are not alone or the first to be in this situation. Always remember your responsibility to yourself. ( you know , eat right, brush and floss, etc,). You seem to be going in the right direction. I think that you are on your way. Good Luck!
2007-02-27 14:06:23 · answer #3 · answered by make room for daddy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't get with anybody else straight away, that will not help in the slightest!
Don't get in contact with each other at all, because this will make you feel like crap!
It will take time!
The only thing i can suggest is keep yourself busy! Get involved alot more in your hobbies!...If you have none, here is the perfect opportunity to find one!
Then when you can think about your ex and your ok, then you will be good for dating again!
Good Luck x
2007-02-27 14:05:36 · answer #4 · answered by Danni 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, you poor thing - I do feel for you. Don;t make any contact or respond to any contact from her. Go out with your friends and have fun, try some sport, go to the cinema (but don't watch a sloppy film), go to the pub, stay home with a mate/s and some beers - take away - and a real action packed film - computer games etc.
It will take time but you will get over her and you will meet someone who deserves you.
good luck
cheers Morsel
2007-02-27 13:51:25 · answer #5 · answered by Morsel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its sad when people brake up, but as said by others keep busy and do something new like a new hobby, maybe martial arts or something, or go back to do something you were doing before you were dating? time will heal its just filling in the time gaps that you were spending with your other half that you need to fill, so chin up and you sound like a good guy to come on here and ask this question, good luck
2007-02-27 14:01:58 · answer #6 · answered by barbie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is the hardest thing in life. Stay busy, find things to do to get involved in something else. Date somebody new. Do manual labor. Nothing like getting somebody out of your head, by scrubbing floors and toliets. If that doesn't work, then just read a book.
2007-02-27 13:43:15 · answer #7 · answered by ht_butterfly27 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep busy!
Remember, when breakups happen we tend to forget the bad and only remember the good...try not to fall into that trap.
More importantly...KEEP BUSY...then you will not be sitting around thinking about it and trying to disect it all of the time.
The saying time heals all is true in the case of a break up. Keep busy and the time will pass quickly.
be cool...
2007-02-27 13:42:42 · answer #8 · answered by CC Babydoll 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
isnt it sad when its like that. And by the way you answered your own question and the rest is up to you in the way you spend your time and energy. You sound like a very intelligent person.
2007-02-27 13:42:51 · answer #9 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you can go by every place that you were with her and not think of her then you are over her
every time she comes into your head throw her out - eventually she wont come back -
2007-02-27 17:16:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go out with your mates,get drunk,bawl your eyes out then f**k someone who's the complete opposite of her.Do that enough times & you won't even know her name anymore!!
2007-02-27 13:44:21 · answer #11 · answered by munki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋