My mum won't let me go to an under 16s night with my friends at a club because:
she "has to give me boundaries" I think she's just coming up with random excuses because she thinks I'm going to jump into bed with the first guy who comes along? Why won't she trust me? What can I do to convince her to let me go? I'm 13.
2007-02-27 05:32:07 · 56 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Its not a random club! Its an UNDER 16S club with security guards, no alcohol and its from 7-10. I really don't see the problem with that. Its harmless.
2007-02-27 05:39:41 · update #1
My mum can't come 2 an under 16s night. It's called under 16s for a reason, meaning old people don't get in. Besides, that's what the security guards are paid for.
2007-02-27 05:46:23 · update #2
She's the boss applesauce! I don't think it has anything to do with her thinking you will jump in bed with someone, and I'm not sure why you think that. But as a mother I would not let my 13 yr old go either. Your young, and she is trying to keep you safe. When you get older, you will appreciate it, even if you don't see it now. Moms make decisions out of love for their children, she is not trying to be mean. It may be for teenagers, but a club is not a good environment for a teenager at all. I'm glad she loves you enough to care about what you are exposed to.
2007-02-27 05:36:26 · answer #1 · answered by Speedy 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your mum has your best interests at heart, it is hard for you knowing that all your friends will be going, but you are only 13 and there are a lot of deceiptful people about. Talk to your mum before the next 16s night comes around and tell her that you are to be trusted with boys and that you do not drink alchohol other than that invite her along with you.
2007-02-27 05:44:58 · answer #2 · answered by Kirks Folley 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your Mum is only thinking of your safety. 13 is a little young to be going to a club. Why not try to compromise with her and ask if you could possibly go just once on your 14th birthday with some of your friends as a special treat just to see what it is like. Hopefully you can get around this without falling out. Just enjoy being 13 and feel glad that your Mum cares about you. You have got years ahead of you to go out and about - don't grow up too soon, you have to be equiped to be an adult.
2007-02-27 09:31:00 · answer #3 · answered by Linds 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Those clubs are generally pretty safe - they only serve soda and juices and there are security guards everywhere watching for unsafe underage activity. Tell her it's probably safer than any of the parties you've ever been to - let her know the concrete facts about safety that go with it. Tell her when the club closes (usually 11 or 12 for those places) and tell her you'll be home within a half an hour after that. If you convince her the first time and take a few more stringent rules along with it, she'll loosen up after that.
2007-02-27 05:35:47 · answer #4 · answered by Beauty Bunny 3 · 3⤊ 2⤋
WHOA WHOA WHOA! When I was 13 I never wanted to go to under 16 clubs ... geeez! Don't 13 year olds have slumber parties, or go to the movies anymore? I think that you're mother doesn't want to let you go because she might feel the same way ... maybe you're too young to go out to a place like that. You made a comment in your question "..she thinks I'm going to jump into bed with the 1st guy.." does she think this because it has happened before? I think you're mother just wants to protect you and if I was you I wouldn't try to "convince" her to let you go out. Be mature about it and one day, you'll see, she will give you the room and the space to go out and do your thing ... JUST WAIT!
2007-02-27 05:37:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you asked your Mum and she said no what did you do?
Go get some info about the event, where is it advertised? then ask your Mum to look at this info and to explain (no shouting, no tantrums, remember this is growing up to be an adult) why she feels this is inappropriate for you.
It may not be the event the venue or the day of the week it might be the company, the others who go there that you don't know that she is concerned for.
Give your Mum credit for her experience of life and her love for you her precious daughter.
If it is not to be now then be sure Mum knows best, ask her to take you to the pictures that night, who knows your friends might want to come too when their parents say no.
Enjoy your youth one day at a time.
2007-03-03 05:13:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have a daughter of the same age and i also am not happy with her going to these so called NAPPY NIGHTS. I find it hard to think that yur mum is worried about u jumping into bed with a chap, i think that her worry is your general safety, as this is the reason i am not happy with my daughter going. I know there is security on the doors, but they dont stop you from leaving the club whenever u want. i trust my daughter completely but i dont trust the other people who could easily influence her. one day i will let her go, but it will b me taking her and it will b me picking her up. sorry i cant tell u what u want to hear.
2007-02-27 20:37:55 · answer #7 · answered by curly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom is awesome. It's rare to see parents with old-fashioned standards these days. I give her credit.
It's not that your mother doesn't trust you, she just doesn't trust these weirdos that are lurking around out there. You are only thirteen. I was at that age once and my mother was the EXACT same way.
Be grateful you have a mother that cares. But if it means that much to you, and if you wanted to go bad enough, ask your mother if she could come with if that makes her feel better. If not, well, that's parenting for you. You don't see it now, but you will be glad when you're older that your mom set boundaries for you.
2007-02-27 05:37:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I really hate to say it but i agree with your mom. I would not let you go either. If you leave her alone then you can show her that you are mature about things. After that maybe she would give you a little more freedom to do things that you want because she can trust you. I would not sneak out like someone had answered earlier because you are betraying her trust and she would never trust you again. Moms know best I know you do not want to here that but they do and you will understand that when you have kids.
2007-02-27 05:50:34 · answer #9 · answered by odd622 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
youve got so much time to go to all the clubs in the world but you only have a little bit of time left when your allowed to be a kid
adulthood lasts a long time and is highly overrated
plus under 16 nights arent all that great as far as i can remember
wait for the real deal
2007-02-27 05:38:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋