I lie. All the time. Even when I don't need to. I lie about what I have for dinner. I lie to my own husband, and then I slap myself, and tell him the truth. He tells me I'm a pathological liar, fine.. whatever, but I don't want to lie anymore. I lied through my entire life, literally. I used to make up the stupidest stories through all of my childhood years. I never had any close friends because Id' lie. What do I do? What can I do?
2007-02-27 05:31:08 · 27 answers · asked by Soldier'sWife 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Lina, the problem with lying is that you become a person people don't trust. When someone doesn't trust you they don't want to have anything to do with you. Liars are basically SELFISH people that sometimes have low self esteem for some reason or another. When telling a lie, a person can build themselves up in order to have others think you're special. The problem is that even though you're fooling others, you know that you're not telling the truth and even though it may make you feel good for the moment. You have to remember the lies you've told in order to be consistent with what you've told someone. Not an easy way to live your life.
I coach youth sports and I'm constantly trying to encourage these young people to be honest.
I have a cousin who is 50 years old and he is constantly lying to everyone. At this age you'd think he'd stop but he doesn't.
I hope that you can put an end to this. You'll feel much better about your self. It can be a transition into a better you. Don't find yourself at the end of your life regretting that your life was spent as a person people couldn't trust.
2007-02-27 05:51:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your lying comes from your not believing that what you have to say in the first place, is good enough.
The one thing you will never do, is lie to yourself, although you may talk yourself into believing things.
But, you lie to other's because you think you don't have their attention, or approval in a big way.
Understanding the reasons why you lie in the first place is a start. But, putting to the test, the practice of telling the truth, is what will end it for you, is when you see that those you tell it to actually are listening to you and it is good enough what you have to say.
You need to realize that you can't be perfect, as you think everyone else is, and no one is perfect.
You have to realize that you have to find a way to be satisfied with what you say. And to start telling yourself, that what you say is good enough. And some will accept it and other's won't. But, you need to realize too, that it is the same as when you lie. The only difference is, that other's will accept you in a much better light then they have in the past.
2007-02-27 06:00:12 · answer #2 · answered by sweetcitywoman2002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe if you feel that you're going to lie, take some deep breaths and think about what you are going to say. Think about why you are lying about that thing. is it because the truth is really boring?
Is it that the person you think is better than you?
whatever it is ask yourself why you are doing this and remind yourself that people wont judge you for telling the truth.
I think its good to have friends, especially close ones. go to different places and do different activities with them. Try your very hardest not to lie.
I think you can talk to your husband about what you together can do to stop you lying.
If you are really stuck you can go and talk to someone (e.g a shrink) and maybe this will work, maybe they can get to the bottom of your lying.
Its brilliant that you've admitted this!!!! now you can finally break your pattern!!!
2007-02-27 05:40:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lina It's difficult to change a character, but you could find the positive side of it.
You are creative, with a lot of imagination. You could write books, and that could be a real carrier for you!!!
I sometimes wished to be able to lie, as our life is a theatre.
I noticed my husband respected me more, the days I decided to simply lie. The days I expressed myself sincerely, he felt bored, and behaved rudely.
I always remember the day in my childhood when my aunt was telling her husband about me:
When this child will learn to be able to lie?
I learnt it very late, and I suffered to always tell the truth.
2007-02-27 09:33:16 · answer #4 · answered by Suzan K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I lie too! It's so weird. I will tell the most elaborate stories... which are all so convincing. I also lie about the most odd ball things. If I cancel a plan with someone, I will make up the craziest story about why I cant make is.. when really all I need to say is "Sorry but I can't make it"...
2007-02-27 07:23:47 · answer #5 · answered by Damian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might need a 12 Step program of some kind
(Liars 12 step?). I am not sure or counseling for obsessive compulsive behaviour may be the real thing to help you..
Do a Google search and see what you come up with.
Good luck,
2007-02-27 07:00:06 · answer #6 · answered by Doreen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-02 02:02:49 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try typing, "compulsive lying" and "compulsive lying disorder" into yahoo! search and a number of links will come up with info on what causes it and what to do about this condition. That is more than I can give here.
What cured me of lying was the fact that it never works and the belief that God was privy to all my thoughts. One has to have such a good memory of what they have said pretending it is truth to keep from getting caught. When you realize that what you say may have an adverse effect on others and may actually even harm them you will quit. It always harms you in the end.
2007-02-27 08:13:14 · answer #8 · answered by Mad Mac 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the first step is that you're admitting you have a problem with telling the truth .. the next is you should seek professional counceling - if this is affecting your marriage it will only get worse as the time goes on and it's totally not worth it.... trust is a major factor in a good stable marriage and if your husband is calling you a pathological liar that's not good... you and he should both go together... he needs to support you through this... good luck!
2007-02-27 05:40:52 · answer #9 · answered by thenakats 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No judgments here but like the others are saying... therapy may be the answer you're looking for.
Don't go into it expecting to change over night but therapy can REALLY help you get to the root of things that have troubled you or stayed with you since childhood. Once you know why you can fix it.
Therapy is also a good, safe, non-judgmental place.
Good luck to you! :)
2007-02-27 05:42:20 · answer #10 · answered by Winette 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋