I have only been dating my boyfriend going on the 4th week now. We are both adults (mid 20s). I really care about this guy, he's everything i'm looking for in a guy, and he treats me great. We didn't meet till our first date (we were hooked up by a mutual friend). So we've technically only "known" eachother for 4 weeks as well. But I have such strong feelings for him the past few days when we see eachother I have a strong urge to say "I Love You". But I don't because I'm afraid of what he'll say. I know he cares for alot as well. The other night in bed I was thinking about if I should say it or not and he of course says "What ya thinking?". I told him that I was thinking about how much I liked him and cared for him. And since then almost everytime i want to say "I Love You" he asks me "what ya thinking?" I guess I get some goofy look on my face or something. Do you think since he keeps asking me what i'm thinking that maybe he is wanting me to say it first?
2007-02-27 05:27:17 · 15 answers · asked by ? 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hey I was with my now fiance for 4weeks when I told him that I loved him and we now have been together for 5 years and getting married in october..So if u feel that it is that time to say it then let him know how you really feel for him..
2007-02-27 05:35:01 · answer #1 · answered by kmllovesdal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No…NO…NO…O’ my god Alison you’re about to ruin everything.
I know you probably really; really like this guy and to make it all the more difficult he’s probably cute as hell and damn fine beneath the sheets.
But think about this first…it’s been four weeks, only four weeks. In my opinion and from my experience in dating it usually takes any where from 2-3 months before the (true man) hiding behind our dreamy boyfriend jumps out and goes
BOO!....Booga Booga..Booga
In the first months things are a bliss. Just kissing him tells every nerve in your lips and soul…Dear sweet Mary I think I found him…
By the second month things get a little deeper. The sex is like candy and he even calls you in the morning or late afternoon right on time. He wants to see you again soon, makes plans for lunch, dinner, movies, club dates….La la la la la love…..
THE THIRD MONTH…A few of his little dark secrets begin to surface. like maybe he dips tobacco and Oops! forgot to tell you, and he will begin looking up his buddies again…
”Man” he thinks “I ain't seen ma boys in weeks.”
Why? Because he been all caught up with you, his new girl…now don’t get me wrong this is all good but….this will happen, and you may not be has understanding all the time like you may think you will be. And then there's that first argument that all couples must go through. which can truly be a severe test.
Men and women are different beings. We think differently when expressing ourselves and as a girl we have to face the music, as sickening as it may be…. >:’T
…we are natural dreamers, natural romantics.
Many times we dream of falling in love with and marrying the awesomely cool, blue, eyed guy on the nightly sitcom…perhaps have the perfect little daughter and a curly poodle as the family pet.
…Guys only think on these grounds…
DAMN SHE’S HOT….LOOK AT HER BOOBS….I LOVE TO BANG HER.
(example: Brittney Spears has shaven her head balder than a plumbers a** ….and how many guys would still give a left nut just to bang her, stubby head and all.
Guys don’t go into a fantasy of her taking counseling sessions together with him or marrying her again for the 12th time. Helping her with her with kids
Have you ever read Dr. John Gray book, Men is from Mars and Women are from Venus. It’s a really good read, I believe that Dr.Gray in some ways is a complete bone head…but he does make really good points in many areas concerning a man’s sense of love and a woman’s sense of love.
Alison, Rather than taking such a leap of faith and telling this guy that you love him why not just say I really love being with you. It falls along the same line but not so direct, It will not make him feel obligated to confess a love he may not feel or be ready to announce…this is like a baby step towards that. There many ways to say how you feel with out the I LOVE YOU thing before the season is right.
Be careful at protecting your heart sweetie, it the only one you have to spare…
2007-02-27 14:40:06 · answer #2 · answered by karmazheart 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep in mind how you will feel if he doesn't say it back. If you're ok with it, then go for it. I'd be worried he might be a bit freaked out. I'm in the same situation as you are, and I still haven't figured out if I should tell him, and we've been together 2 mos.
2007-02-27 13:32:21 · answer #3 · answered by passionatemilf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him tell him.If you want to be in an honest relationship then tell him.Dont hide anything from the one you love.Thats never good.Tell him how you feel.When you tell him you know what to expect,either him to say it back or him to say nothing at all.Be prepared.If he says it then thats always good but then again if he doesnt say it dont freak out.People are different.It may take him a little bit longer to say it.
Good Luck :-)
2007-02-27 13:35:42 · answer #4 · answered by aronesha12 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes there's a think of love at first sight but you don't want to scare him away Just go out have fun fun fun get to know him more Read his body language It's to soon Maybe 6mo or so
2007-02-27 13:37:44 · answer #5 · answered by kitty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he asks what your thinking just use the revese pshyc thing on him and say, I am wondering what your thinking. Or you can say something like " I was thinking that I Love (pause and look at his reaction) if its a hopeful reaction finish your sentence, if it is a look of don't say it, finish with "being with you like this" or depending on your humor finish with. I love... fly fishing. LOL read him first, cause there is nothing more painful in saying those words and having nothing said in return.
2007-02-27 13:41:57 · answer #6 · answered by Tina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Saying I love you should happen naturally and they can be said at any time as long as you mean it.. Your boyfriend should not be waiting for you to 'say it first', either one of you can be the first to say how you feel.
2007-02-27 13:34:44 · answer #7 · answered by ann t 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my husband told me the day we meet that we would be married and three days later i had a ring and he told me he loved me within the week. so maybe he is waiting for you to say it.some peoplel have a harder time saying then others. we have been toghether 24 years now and would trade him for the world.
2007-02-27 13:35:49 · answer #8 · answered by furby_lost 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I always wait for the guy to say it first . . . some guys get freaked out about the L word. How about you start asking him what he's thinking???
2007-02-27 13:31:51 · answer #9 · answered by lunasage 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend told me he loved me after the first night together and we will have been together 18months on friday
2007-02-27 13:38:20 · answer #10 · answered by welshpinkbaby 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋