he is local
he is very mean i met him once
i dont want to get married
my step sister is forcing me to
my parents now got involved
HELP!!
i know im a lawyer but only in finance category not relationships.
2007-02-27 05:27:09 · 17 answers · asked by mimmi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Since you are an adult, and a professional ... there should NOT be a problem here ... move out of your parents' home, get a place of your own, and say "NO!"
NO -- I do NOT want to marry this jerk ... NO -- I will NOT give in to your pressure ... NO -- YOU will NOT profit from the 'bride price' of this scam of a marriage (that I do NOT WANT) ... NO!
It seems to me that this may be a cultural thing for you ... which is why there is confusion.
BE the independent woman you want to be and stand up for YOUR right to choose what you want in your life. ESPECIALLY if the male that has been 'chosen' is abusive in any way.
There is NO REASON to have a 'husband' forced on anyone anymore .. in any society.
2007-02-27 06:24:36 · answer #1 · answered by sglmom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you live in the U.S. and you are 'old enough' to be an attorney, then you are 'old enough' to make your own decisions about who you can marry or not marry. No one can 'force you' to get married to anyone. You may need to 'tell your step-sister' to leave this 'alone' and not to 'push this man' at you, or you will simply 'stop seeing her' and won't ever 'listen to her' again ... and do the same thing with your parents. If nothing else, you can't be 'forced' because the 'two of you' must go buy a 'wedding license' together, and if you 'don't want to marry him' you don't have to 'swear' that you do to get the license.
2007-02-27 14:33:20 · answer #2 · answered by Kris L 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may be a finance lawyer but you are lacking in common sense. No one can force you to marry anyone.
Question: Do you take this man to be your wedded husband?
Answer: NO !
You don't say the words, you won't be married to him.
You're an adult; get out on your own. Be your own boss. Be your own counselor!
2007-02-27 14:12:46 · answer #3 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first thing I suggest you get a back bone...How does someone force you to get married? If you dont like the man and you dont want to marry him tell them all to mind there own business, and kiss your a--, that when you are ready to marry you will find the man yourself, If you are smart enough to become a lawyer why do you sound so dumb?
2007-02-27 18:30:02 · answer #4 · answered by kathy h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what country you're in, but in U.S. both parties have to agree. If a date is set, don't show up. If they ask you a question, something like, "Do you take this man...." say NO! Don't sign a marriage liscense. Before it comes to this...why not have a restraining order on these people?
I can only assume you are from a culture that believes in arranged marriages and it's sad to say, but you might have to start a new life without your family and hope that someday they want a relationship with you on your terms (no pre-arranged marriage).
Stay strong and brave! You can do it!
2007-02-27 13:45:57 · answer #5 · answered by Jennifer B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was going to say but ur a lawyer..lol... anyways.. your a very smart woman, you need to tell your family that they cant run your life.. your ur own woman and can make great choices in life... you for one dont want to marry a mean man, and when you choose to be married he will be a loving honest trustworthy person that will love you for you, and you him... these arrange marriage are of the stone ages. I know how hard it is to tell your parents how u feel without disrespecting them...so u got to respectfully tell them to please allow you to live your life the way you always dreamed of...not to live their dream for you...hope all goes well... good luck
2007-02-27 13:43:06 · answer #6 · answered by gina B 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Pardon !!!!! What year is this 2007 I think . Nobody can force you to get married, tell your step sister to butt out of your life and get her own maybe she should marry him if she likes him so much.Get a back bone girl Say NO
2007-03-02 22:06:33 · answer #7 · answered by jumps62 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have no self esteem. How can anyone make you marry somebody? You are an adult tell everyone else to back off. You need to stand up for yourself. What does your step sister got on you that she can control you like that?
2007-02-27 13:47:51 · answer #8 · answered by littledragonfly 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your step sister can not make you marry anyone. Your an adult, start standing up for yourself. As far as your parents, tell them that you want to marry someone who loves you, and you love them. It's not up to them to decide who you should marry.
2007-02-27 13:55:34 · answer #9 · answered by Jaime A 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen move away from you family for awhile. You don't have to put up with this mess. You can direct your own life. You have a Job that can afford you the good life. Take your problems to Jesus in prayer.
2007-02-27 14:09:22 · answer #10 · answered by sharon j 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋