She smokes around me, how do I get her not to?

Question

I have been a serious smoker for 10 years and my hubby and I might be expecting soon (since we're trying to concieve). It has only been a few days since I dropped the horrible habit. I am meeting with my cousin in a few to get some lunch and chat (we're best friends). She smokes and I told her I am quitting and she told me she won't smoke around me. However, when I'm around her, I always get the urge to smoke. Her car wreaks of cigarettes and I can't help myself. Can't I just have one?

My mothers twin sister, whom I was close with all my life, passed away from Breast Cancer, 10 years ago. My mother, 2 years later, was diagnosed with Ovarian and Breast Cancer. I am well aware of the cancer history in my family.

Answer 1

Stopping smoking is a very honorable decision on your part! You deserve a pat on the back. You, your husband and your baby will all benefit from it greatly.

As for your cousin, it is great that she is supportive and does not smoke around you. If her car is a concern take yours, or if your relationship is such that you feel comfortable asking see if she would be willing to spray some Fabreeze or deodorizer?

I am asthmatic and cigarette smoke is a big trigger for me. My father smokes and after asking him to spray his car if we're going to be riding in it I've found that I can breathe a lot easier.

Good luck!

Answer 2

NO! You can't have just one because you are/will be having a baby soon! If your cousin's car, etc.. wreaks of smoke tell her (or bring with you) some Febreeze air freshener. It does not make the smell go away completely but it does help a lot! Leave the windows open too. It is enough that she has said that she will not smoke in front of you but you can't realistically expect her to wash her car and all her clothes every time you and she go out. Remember that when you are pregnant, sometimes, your senses are heightened and when you quit smoking you become more sensitive to the smell of cigarettes. It will be very difficult for you but you can do it! Another thing you can try is to buy some perfume oil and put it on your wrists, neck, etc. This is a great cover up for cigarette smells and when you are around her you can sniff your wrist from time to time to get the smell of cigarette out of your nose. Congratulations on your new baby and quitting smoking! I hope this was helpful.Good luck and best wishes.

Answer 3

Open the windows of her car before you get in--to air it out. Let her know that you're not getting in until it airs out.

You probably get the urge to smoke around her since she usually lights up when with you. If she has promised not to do this, you should be less likely to get the urge.

If you are not taking nicotine replacement in any form--you can have a few cigarettes. For that matter, you should have weaned yourself gradually off cigarettes--as quitting cold turkey can give you withdrawal problems (bad ones).

You are not pregnant yet, so start weaning yourself off. Make yourself wait a full hour (or more) before your next cigarette. Every day make it longer between cigarettes, until you feel comfortable not smoking at all. This can be time consuming, but beats the alternative--withdrawal!

Answer 4

1 will lead to 2, so on and so forth.

I've been trying to quit for 6 months. People I work with smoke and I can smell it when they walk by my office. When they actually come in right after a cigarette, they practically knock me on my azz from the smell. Makes it very difficult to quit. Good luck w/your cousin. Stay out of her car, agree to use yours.

Answer 5

I had trouble with stopping smokeless tobacco for awhile, you have to be strong and want to quit. Sometimes realizing the potential danger down the road doesn't calm the urge to start the habit back up. Just think of quitting as something mandatory for the baby and how the poor baby could be affected by your choices. Sometimes people would not care what their consequences are, but they might be more open to staying quit if they realize it's for their child.

Answer 6

Why would you want to put your baby at risk? You are fortunate to be carrying a child why would you want to risk losing your baby or ending up with a child with a birth defect because of a nasty habit? My cousin was a serious smoker too but the day she found out she was pregnant she quit and her son is healthy, another girl I know smoked her whole pregnancy and her baby has severe allergies now. So think about that before you put that cancer stick in your mouth...remember it's not all about you it's about your child as well now.

Answer 7

If you quit might aswell do it for good.No rebounds.
I quit smoking and it took me about a year to drop the habbit.It gets easier every day.
U know what helps? looking at people who smoke.oberving them.
when I see an old grumply old guy smoking it just makes me never want to let that cigarette touch my lips.
break the habbit now and enjoy a calm pregnancy.

good luck with that.and go to a non-smoking cafe.she will survive it.or go somewhere outdoors if the weather plays along where you are

good luck!!

Answer 8

DON'T DO IT!!!! I know it's tough but worse case take your car so she won't be able to smoke - or just tell her not to light up!! if her car wreaks think of how bad that is for you and how you'll stink! you've got to get through the 1st week which is the toughest but YOU CAN DO IT!! Think of your baby ... or the baby to be that is... most studies show you decrease your fertility due to smoking.... it's tough enough to conceive at times why take the risk?!

Answer 9

Lina...no. I was a 3 1/2 pack a day smoker when I quit 22 years ago...I was 6 mo pregnant when I was finally able to stop...My son has this constant little cough...like he has to always clear something...can't run long distances...I have always wondered if it isn't my fault. Don't do it...it is so wonderful to be free of that bondage...

Answer 10

Take it from someone that had quit for a month and then wanted just one-lol. NO you can not have just one. When you have gotten your control power up to the point that you want to quit then please keep it. Just ask your cousin to please respect your choice and not to smoke around you for a little while- and maybe this will work- Who knows and Good Luck!