My daughter is in Reception. She doesn't want to go to school tommorow b'cos some elder girls are shouting at her if she doesn't finish her school dinner. Please tell me how can I explain her to overcome this. Are there any stories for this kind of fears. I need the solution now.
2007-02-27 05:19:19 · 16 answers · asked by sunrise 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Ah bless her. Tell her that althought these older girls are bigger than her, they are still required to follow the same rules as your daughter, and they are still children too. The 'little' kids think the 'big' kids are so huge, try to get her to comprehend this idea, and tell your daughter to tell the teacher she is being bullied!! ..........Because she is being bullied! Good luck
2007-02-27 05:25:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some kids can be damn right nasty. (I wonder where they get it from!) This is bullying and cannot be tolerated, where are the adults when this is going on? These older kids have probably been put on her table to help her learn the routine, and to 'look after' the littler ones, they don't seem to be doing this. I agree with the answers above, I would most definatley speak to your daughters teacher ASAP, it may be that a table is awarded some how if everyone clears their plate, It wouldn't surprise me, and if so then it's having the wrong effect. If you get no joy, speak to the headmaster/mistress. I'm sure your school will have a no bullying policy, and I would ask to see it (it should be visible to the children too.)
It is hard to explain to a young child why some people are not nice. I would try telling her that these kids are just mean and it's best just to ignore them, they'll end up with no friends and then they'll be sorry. They wouldn't like it if someone did this to them, and if she's brave enough she should tell them so!!
My daughter (who is also 5) has a set of 'school rules' permanently etched in her brain, they are drummed into them in each assembly.One of them is 'Do be kind to one another'
She also has done a workshop in class about bullying, coming home with rulers and things that she had made with the label 'Don't let the bullies get you down'
It is one of the few things I am pleased with in her school.
Little things like those kids being mean are huge to children of this age and can have a huge effect on them. It needs nipping in the bud straight away before it becomes too much of an issue for her and she won't want to eat her dinner at all. If she's anything like my little girl she may be a slow eater, and should be given the chance by the dinner Aunties to finish her dinner in peace!!
As a last resort, if you have no joy, you could maybe send her with a packed lunch with just enough food in it for her to finish in the time allowed. Although it seems then that the bullies may have won. What a ****!!
I'm sorry I can't think of any stories off hand that deal with bullying, but I'm sure your daughter's teacher will know of one and would probably read it in class tomorrow if you asked her to.
2007-02-27 08:11:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell the teacher the situation so the school can deal with it appropriately and they can watch to see what happens in the hall. If the girls are getting away with shouting at her in the dinner hall without being heard or seen by a adult member of staff, whether it be a teacher or dinner lady, then there must be a lack of supervision.
Assure your wee girl she is doing nothing wrong and that you'll make sure something will be done without the older girls knowing it involves her. There are lots of ways the shool can deal with this without involving the child that feels ill at ease and so preventing her feeling scared that there will be repercussions for her from telling on them.
2007-02-27 08:38:42 · answer #3 · answered by wee stoater 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh bless her little heart, speak to her teacher and nip this in the bud, the same thing happened to my nephew when he was a lot younger and it lead to a lot of tears and tantrums at meal times at home.
As Trixa rightly said the "little kids" really do think the "BIG KIDS" are so much bigger despite them being kids themselves.
Just reassure your little star that she's not doing anything wong if she is not able to finish her meal and if mummy and daddy dont yell then these nasty girls dont have the right to.
This is how playground bullying starts and no child deserves to be to scared to go to school just because some little madam's want to play the big i am.
Hope things go well for your little star, and give her a big hug from me! x x
2007-02-27 10:03:54 · answer #4 · answered by The Original Highbury Gal 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all i would speak to her teachers about this and reassure her that you will sort this out. i would also encourage to make friends ie invite them round your house or take them out,this will give her security in knowing that she has friends at school to be with rather than having to face the bullying by herself. i would also get some books that are written for children to show her that school can be fun and that at the end of the day the parent will still be there. starting school is a nerve racking time for any child as they are being taken out of there comfort zone and put in a situation that they dont know how to deal with. talk thru her fears with her and then see if they are just your daughter disliking/or finding the change difficult to cope with.if you think it is more serious then see her teachers.
2007-02-27 08:51:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There should be a teacher on dinner duty so I would make them aware of the situation, also, the canteen staff may need to be informed so that they can also act on this behaviour. It is good tht your daughter can tell you, she is a strong wee thing. Good luck.
2007-02-27 05:29:28 · answer #6 · answered by Natalie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't the dinner ladies do any thing, I'm a dinner lady and wouldnot tolerate this. If she is scared to say anything tell her to go to the head, or you sort it out. My daughter was being bullied and I was'nt going to stand for it, they sorted it out cos I said she isn't coming to school until it is. Tell her that you will go to school to sort it out, and not to be frightened, you are her mother after all
2007-02-27 05:30:58 · answer #7 · answered by Jeanette 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to a teacher about it and they can tell the girls off. That is patetic that a poor little girl is forced to finish her meal. When I was young the same thing happened to me. I never said anything but it is a good thing your child did. Talk to a teacher immediatley.
2007-02-27 05:23:43 · answer #8 · answered by j5kat13 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Go to youre daughters school tomorrow and speak to the principle and tell them whats going on,its bullying i wouldn't except this sort it o t right away our she will never want to go back to school
2007-02-27 05:48:46 · answer #9 · answered by Jojo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The older ones are just being brats and big brats are scary for little ones. Bring this to the attention of the teacher.
If that don't work...climb that ladder of authority...right up to your state representative.
(The highest you'll probably go is the principal.)
2007-02-27 05:34:06 · answer #10 · answered by Bonnie Lynn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋