I get along with my mother-in-law really good My husband and I are moving and the rent is more a month then the place we are at now, and she thinks we are going to make a mistake But we know what we are doing and we did our figures and we will be doing better it will save my hubby in gas driving to his job. now he drives even farther and with the difference with the rent and the gas it's almost a wash. But she don't think so. plus i have a baby girl too I don't work now but where we are moving it will help out too I might be able to get a part time Job. What i want to know what else should I tell my mother-in-law? she keeps saying little comments and when I say anything about it she
gets quiet so does anyone have any ideas for me what I can tell her and not get her mad at us??
2007-02-27 05:15:29 · 38 answers · asked by marshmellow 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
She's just trying to keep you guys from being un-happy and she thinks she know's what's best. Tell her you appreciate her concern and realize she just trying to help but that you really need her to be supportive of this decision ... and ask her if she will watch the baby while you move.
2007-02-27 05:25:12 · answer #1 · answered by Summer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you moving further from your mother in law? If you are maybe she's just upset that you're moving so far away! If not then maybe you just need to tell her that it's for the best! OR instead of telling her how the money is going to work, write it down on paper so she can see you'll be saving money. She shouldn't be getting mad that the two of you are responsible enough to do the figures. She should be happy that you've weighed out all the consequences. I think she might just be upset you're moving away from her. If that's the case, tell her you'll visit her ofter or she can come over for dinner on a night or two out of the week! OR just come out and ask, "What is the big deal with our move!?" That's the best way!
2007-02-27 05:22:02 · answer #2 · answered by demonica66667 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe just make her feel like she is involved. Ask her why she thinks it it a bad idea, maybe there are things you have not thought about. Let her know that you value her opinion, and taker her concerns into consideration. At the same time let her know why you feel it is a good idea. You mentioned it may save money in the long run, you could create a spreed sheet showing you expenses for each option. If that doesn't work be firm, but not disrespectful, tell her this decision was made between you and your husband and you feel it is the best decision for your family.
2007-02-27 05:23:42 · answer #3 · answered by Primdiva 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's worried for you, her son and the baby. That's what mothers do. I'd suggest that you and your husband sit her down one last time, and tell her that you're adults and have made this decision for these reasons. Ask her to either support you in it, or at least stop picking at the subject with her worries.
Yes, you might be making a mistake... but it's yours to make, something that she has to realize too. If you have good relationships, I'm sure the three of you can work though the uncomfortable topic.
2007-02-27 05:19:22 · answer #4 · answered by Jarien 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To be honest with you no matter what you tell her she is going to get mad because you are going against what she wants.
But if you want to be nice just tell her that you value her opinion but we are going to go ahead and go with this plan because we have already factored in all of the pro's and con's.. Now I would say something else if she keeps getting mouthy about it. I would tell her to mind her own business, our umbilical cord was cut along time ago.
Good luck as no married couple seldom wins with the in-laws.
2007-02-27 05:22:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your husband should put his foot down and let her know how it is. Let him sit down and explain the move to her. It will seem less offensive coming from him. She shouldn't be saying anything about it anyway. This is a life you are building for your child and that should come first, after that then the rest of the family. Good luck with things.
2007-02-27 05:20:48 · answer #6 · answered by pq4u72 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It would probably be best just to not say anything and let her see you two made a proper choice. You're a mother yourself-you understand that she's only doing this b/c she feels it's what's right for you two.
Is there any chance that this move will take you further away from her?
2007-02-27 05:29:14 · answer #7 · answered by Happy Wife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a touchy situation. It would be better for your husband to explain to her your family situation. Your husband needs to be firm and voice the opinion for both of you. What you decide to do for your family is your own business, not hers. If she does bring it up to you again after your husband talked to her, gently tell her it is the best solution for your family. Sometimes, old people just want things their way or the high way. It sounds like she still wants to control her son's life.
2007-02-27 05:25:55 · answer #8 · answered by Kimora Miranda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her not to worry, that you and your husband have worked it out and think it will be better in the long run for you.
Will you be moving farther from her? Maybe she's concerned that she won't see you and the baby as much?
2007-02-27 05:19:47 · answer #9 · answered by Sean 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just prove her wrong...you don't have to say anything...As for your part time job...if you go to a local Advertising Business...they will stick some magnets on your car and just for having them on there you can get a check in the mail from them every month! Good Luck!!
2007-02-27 05:19:36 · answer #10 · answered by ~J*me~ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋