is it ok for my bf 2 be mates wiv his ex?

Question

i feel like hes always talkin2 his ex & im paranoid. i hate it! dont knw what to do. I really dont want to be jealous. what should i do? im just not comfortable with the situation

young gun, i know how to spell, you idiot! i use shortened words to save time, unlike u i dont want to spend my whole life on the computer.

sorry but becoming friends with her isnt an option!

sorry but becoming friends with her isnt an option!

Answer 1

it's very hard not to be jealous in that circumstances. i am not a jealous person by nature but i have just recently had to end a relationship as my partner's ex girlfriend disliked me with no reason, was always contacting him, was in his close circle of friends & they met up with each other regularly for cinema visits etc etc, he knew she'd been nasty about me behind my back & that i was unsure of the relationship they had together - i made sure i communicated my worries to him, yet he not once put my mind at ease.
The final straw for me was when he was working away from home - he was in daily contact with her but not with me, i found this too much as it's not as though they were together long or had any kids together or anything.
but i suppose it all depends on how close a relationship they have & if too close i'd be very wary about getting to involved with him, certainly if he does nothing to reassure you about the relationship they have together. Also her reaction towards you - ie is she friendly, or otherwise.

Answer 2

You should express these feelings with your partner - have you not already done so?

If you do it might make him realise what is going on in your mind. Or another route would be become good friends with his ex see what she is like and ensure that she is not a threat.

This all depends though on whether there is some for you to worry about...

Answer 3

its a horrible thing to feel the way you are feeling, and i had the same problem years ago, i tried to think oh well he is with me now, but if this girl is phoning him constantly and calling around you are going to have to put your foot down, in the end i told her, would you like it if the shoe was on the other foot and i was phoning your boyfriend all the time, don't be afraid of nothing flower say how you feel

Answer 4

I hate people who use words like "wiv" or "dis", it's "with" and "this". Who do you think you are changing the english language in an attempt to sound cooler, hmmm. Go back to school, or learn a new language......geeze.

Answer 5

Be cool, your bf will think you are even greater than you already are. The only person jealousy hurts is you. Get to know her, you might like her, and if you don't, they say you should keep your friends close and your enemies closer.

Answer 6

it's human nature to be jealous but you can't let it cloud your judgement. Remind yourself and him that they are ex's for a reason. If you can't feel you can trust him and you don't want to be walked on end it if not do your best.

Answer 7

don't trust it don't put 100% into him but don't go on spying on him but it may turn out to be nothing...be prepared if he cheats on you with her....you have the right to feel that way what woman would want her boyfriend to be room mates with his ex

Answer 8

let him know gently how you feel,perhaps you could invite her round for dinner,ask her to bring a friend(boy?) to make up a foursome.when you know her better,perhaps the jelousy will stop

Answer 9

Do they have kids? If so there is really nothing you can do. If not tell him that it bothers you and ask him to stop or limit it. If he loves you...he will.

Answer 10

You need to talk to him about how you feel.