I hate my brother in law for the following reasons
1. I beleive he is a closet homosexual. It has already been confirmed that he has had a gay relationship. (Do straight men have gay relationships?)
2. He's a mummies boy
3. He disrespects my niece(not his child) when he really means to be angry with my sister.
4. He doesn't shut the bathroom door when hes's going to the toilet.
5. He drives like crap putting everyone in the car in jeopardy.
6. He quits his job when my sister first finds out she's pregnant.
7. He can't hold a job because he can't handle it when they approach him when he has done something wrong.
8. He's a mamas boy.
and the list goes on.
I love my sister but I hate being around him. I'm sick of being fake nice and hate even if he hugs me. Do I have to be nice to him for her sake. Can I tell her how I feel about him or should I just shut up and suck it up?
2007-02-27 05:12:25 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Sorry, I want to agree with the group but I can't because of one statement in your post. That's statement 1.
IF you have solid evidence that he is a down low guy (closeted gay male) and you can obtain said factual evidence, I think you should make your sister aware of his preferences (he may be bisexual). There are too many STDs/STIs/HIV/AIDS going on out there not to know what your husband is doing (how many married couples USE condoms?? Not many at all!) AGAIN...only if you have evidence and facts can you present them to your sister.
Everytime you see your niece, build her up with kindness. See if your sister will let her hang with you or any other siblings or parents more. You may even want to talk to your sister in a calm manner saying something like, 'Sis, I notice Katie (ur niece) seems a little down. Do you think you ought to speak to Jo Blow (her husband) about being a bit nicer to her?'
As far as anything else, if your sister likes it..you have to love it. If he won't work, is a mama's boy, or if he drives like a maniac your sister is not blind. She knows it and if she's content to be there, you'll have to be content to let her stay.
2007-02-27 05:33:24 · answer #1 · answered by moe497 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell your sister how you feel, if he is that bad, she should know it by now. and if he is treating your niece badly, who knows what he would do to her. and if he has had a gay relationship and continues to do it behind her back, he could give your sister aids. havent you seen the guys on talk shows - talking about keeping it on the "down low"? there are a lot of men out there that live double lives. she needs to get rid of him. if he quits his jobs it doesn't sound like he is contributing to the house hold either.
2007-02-27 05:34:30 · answer #2 · answered by Cornell is Hot! 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's OK to tell her how you feel. If you tell her, she'll understand why you don't want to be around him as much as possible. For her sake don't question her choice, that's for her to do. This is her child and her man, let the decision be hers. She has to know the qualities he possess, or better yet, the lack there of. As much as it pains you, love your sister, love your niece and smile at him. All the while watching the news hoping it's his body they found last night. LOL!! Good Luck.
2007-02-27 05:19:45 · answer #3 · answered by lamonross80 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh my goodness. I totally feel you. I mean, my in-laws really suck. But the way i see it, the more I realize that that's the person I love's family and I have to accept that they are messed up and they are never going to change. I have had to suck it up (although I kick and scream before I have to see them and that doesn't help because it just hurts the person you love) and just put a fake smile on my face. It is better to keep the peace. They are the way they are, ignorant. But we must do it for the one we love. I wish you luck!
2007-02-27 05:18:50 · answer #4 · answered by luvmrtnz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1. No, straight men don't have gay relationships!
2. EW.
3. Jerk.
4. Disgusting.
5. Idiot.
6. Loser
7. Iresponsible
8. Same as 2.
Tell your sister all of the above. What does she see in him??? You're stuck with him in your life as long as he's married to your sis if you're close to her. If you can't stand him and she stays with him, you'll have to avoid them both. He sounds repulsive!
2007-02-27 05:19:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself, don't aknowledge him,don't give him attention when he talks, don't let him hug you, tell your sister in moderation be nice but just be honest, she may get mad but small chance she might feel the same way and need someone to talk to if he's that irratating, one thing i have learned is that people will respect you a little more if your honest, and bold nobody likes hearing the truth they usually cry about it but it sinks in weather or not they admit it.
2007-02-27 05:21:39 · answer #6 · answered by miamigrl23 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forget about him! He is your sister's problem. How on earth could she marry him and then get pregnant by him, is she that desperate? You don't have to be nice, actually stop going there altogether. Hope you have some good friends, you know what they say: You can choose your friends, but not your family.
2007-02-27 05:18:41 · answer #7 · answered by BGreen 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to accept that your sister loves him, and she probably loves you too. So don't go hating him. And also you need to be less angry with him! If you have problems with the things that he does, talk to him about it! Like the neice thing. And why do you disagree with the fact that he is close to his mother? Hardly a reason to dislike anybody
2007-02-27 05:16:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My sister is a pain,... I feel sorry for my brother-in-law and his family. My younger sister and I no longer communicate with her, because it's not healthy to be around her. Even while communicating with her online, she manages to insult us in her tactless and hurtful ways. My sister's mother-in-law must feel the same way like you, but they continue to exist side by side. (their houses are next to each other).... apparently she terrorizes everyone there. I'm so glad I'm oceans away from her. ... and thank God it's him who is annoying- not your sister.
2007-02-27 05:20:44 · answer #9 · answered by justmemimi 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well....it depends on if you want a relationship with your sister and niece...there is no guarantees what the fruit of your rant will be...you might not get the outcome you desire...and what exactly is the outcome you want?
2007-02-27 05:16:26 · answer #10 · answered by ticklemeblue 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋