The girl I'm seeing is wealthy, no doubt about that. Her mother is a prestigious surgeon and her father is a successful businessman. So she's not a stranger to luxury.
Last weekend her older sister told me I could never satisfy her because I'm "of lower middle class"
I tried to brush it off, but it's kind of getting to me. My girlfriend tells me she doesn't care, but in all honesty, I can't picture her living without the comforts she grew up with...something I can't provide (yet). Btw, we met at class, both being pre-med majors.
I thought this type of stereotyping died out in the Pride & Prejudice days.
2007-02-27 05:05:54 · 16 answers · asked by Eustace 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Btw, I'm the son of a janitor.
I'm still proud of him, though.
2007-02-27 05:11:56 · update #1
This question is obviously bothering you because it seems as if you love her, a lot! Her older sister just seems like the snob that she most likely is. But just because that's the way Snob Knob feels, doesn't mean that is the way your girl feels. She sees something special in you, that's why she's with you. You seem like a really good guy. A lot of character, something her sister and money can't buy. Keep on trucking, Doctor, with your girlfriend. By the way, you should be proud of your dad. He obviously did a great job. This coming from a pre-law student and a Wal-Mart cashier's daughter. Good luck!
2007-02-27 05:27:02 · answer #1 · answered by Pretty_Girl 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
heres the problem. Your GF loves you. Her family may not. If there is a future here, her family will always dictate what is best for you and your GF/later wife. When kids come around, they will become more controlling. If your family doesn't mind not having much say, and you have patience, and are forgiving and understanding, it'll work, but you also might begin to resent things after a while and regret the ways you treated your family....but by then it'll be too late. I married "up" and I constantly get the "Well you never had nice things" or the "you weren't raised right" speeches whenver I'd rather use paper plates than china or whenever I question the importance of "show towels" or why there are twenty pillows on the bed.
2007-02-27 05:13:36 · answer #2 · answered by Mike 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you want truth, right? It's really difficult. When you grow up a certain way, you just get used to things that ppl who were brought up differently didn't have access to. In the beginning when all is sweet and nice, those things don't seem to matter, but as time goes you start realizing that it's tougher than you thought. If the level of commitment is really high it might withstand those differences, but it does take a lot of effort from both partners.
What calls my attention is your use of the word yet. Yes, you can provide her, maybe with not exactly everything she's used to, but if she sees you are trying and you are working to provide her with the best YOU can provide, i'm quite sure you might be able to make it work.
2007-02-27 05:18:24 · answer #3 · answered by miss_shredder 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Being snooty to your sister's boyfriend never goes out of style, it's part of sibling rivalry.
Just talk things over with your girlfriend, very seriously and honestly. Medical school and interning is extremely hard on students/new doctors, and can break people as well as relationships. Both of you going through it? Trauma multiplied! Focus on how the two of you will get through school and internships first, and then worry about creature comforts if you make it though the fire.
2007-02-27 05:11:14 · answer #4 · answered by Jarien 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is going to depend on the people and what they value as being important in life. Their are many people of wealth that have no "luxury lifestyle" and there are also those who are "poor" but live a life so full & rich, they are the envy. Both of you should be able to decide what your wants are for the future, just amke sure your honest with one another about what your expectations are. If her's are much more then yours, then be okay with it and let her move on, for if you try to constantly achieve for her benefit thinking that would make you happy, your doomed to end up living with regret.
2007-02-27 05:15:27 · answer #5 · answered by martiek7 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What I know for sure is if you are an ambitious person you can both make it. It's not about the quantity of the things in life......it all about the quality!!! If you don't have much and you're happy that's all that matters. Let some of the richest people tell you how miserable they are. If it's ok with your girl, I don't see why not.
Also life is not about where you are from but where you are going..............
2007-02-27 05:12:35 · answer #6 · answered by Lady Mandeville 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Interesting question. I don't know, because I've always dated middle class girls myself (with a couple lower class in there to boot, actually), being middle class myself. I'd imagine, just like any other difference (age, culture, etc), it would have an enormous impact, but if there really are substantial and substainable reasons for you to be together (personality or value matches, for instance) it could be overcome. But don't expect to not deal with it at all.
2007-02-27 05:11:03 · answer #7 · answered by JudasHero 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-16 21:37:39 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like her sister is a pretty shallow person. Don't let it get to you or else it will eat you alive. Remember....just because her parents are weathly doesn't mean SHE is. And she will love you for you, not what you can give her. If that was the case then why would you want to be with her anyway? Relax and enjoy your new love..seriously.
2007-02-27 05:11:12 · answer #9 · answered by Sharlala 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I wished it died then, but it hasn't. However, let me tell you something babe.....
Let no man put asunder what God has put together.......
If it's meant for you and this little miss, then its meant. No amount of money, wealth or stuck-up ignorant family members will be able to get in the way of that. If she says she doesn't care, then let the comment made by her obviously jealous sister, die......
2007-02-27 05:11:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋