Some people think it's wrong I know. I was just wondering what everyone point of view is on this. How long should you wait till you move in etc....
Thanks!
I think that when the time is right you will now it's ok to move in with them. I don't think it's wrong to move in with someone you love.
2007-02-27 04:59:48 · 21 answers · asked by angel2005_2001 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Brown skin, I did ask thanks for your honest opion! :)
2007-02-27 05:04:42 · update #1
when you say "people think it's wrong" i wonder if you mean narrow minded people thinking you're "living in sin". that's a ridiculously outmoded concept and there's nothing wrong with it in this day and age, living together gives you a chance to see if it'll work, and saves you making the costly mistake of committing to a marriage that would never have worked - and having to get a divorce.
i agree with you, if you feel it's right to move in with someone then it's right. you'll know yourself what the best thing to do is. if you have any misgivings then you shouldn't do it.
people often prefer to maintain their independence, as you certainly sacrifice some of that when living with another person - due to having to respect them, etc.
living with someone is a wonderful experience, but you need to set out the framework at the start and agree your expectations, especially if you've never done it before ... often people move in together and realise they didn't know "how" to live with someone, or weren't prepared for what it entailed. little things, for example, like calling if you're going to be late home from work, etc., can be important ... letting each other know if you've made plans with friends, so the other isn't sitting home alone unexpectedly.
ensure you agree how the bills will be split, and how you'll handle things like household chores. sounds silly, but one person can get seriously hacked off if they're always cooking, cleaning, taking out the trash, etc.
it's just about respect and consideration.
anyway, above all have fun ... hope everything works out for you.
:)
2007-02-27 05:22:17 · answer #1 · answered by brightspark 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My bf and I are moving in together for the following reasons:
(1) tired of living in two houses
(2) save money
(3) because we love each other
(4) can't get married because I will lose my pension & insurance
I don't think it's wrong if you really love each other. We are not teenagers and have been together a long time.
2007-02-27 05:07:57 · answer #2 · answered by blondee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally think moving in with a lover before marriage is better than after... Getting married then moving in and finding out their lifestyle doesn't meet yours is a bit too late dont you think? Basically it will be having a roomate who you are in love with... but it will be harder because of conflict, no personal space, and the splitting of bills/food/chores. I think if there is an understanding of whats going to happen, like he pays for everything and you do the chores and cooking, it would be easier. You wouldnt know until you try and if you can... why not?
2007-02-27 05:04:47 · answer #3 · answered by japzkyootipie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you about moving in with someone you love but just realize what could happen if the relationship might fall apart. I would say if you have been in a strong relationship for a year, that seems about right to move in together. I am hoping to move in with my boyfriend around our 1 year mark. We have already started looking for a place.
2007-02-27 05:04:51 · answer #4 · answered by Just a girl... 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems like everyone may have an opinion on this, but if you really do care for someone, and you want to be together (and do not want to get married) - moving in together I think is great. My only requirements is that each one be faithful to each other, share the bills, cleaning, etc., and not take advantage of the other.
2007-02-27 05:03:40 · answer #5 · answered by Hammer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long you should wait is always up to the two of you. Living together brings the relationship into a new level of trust. Establish the boundaries that the two of you feel comfortable with at the start. Make and agreement to disagree.
2007-02-27 05:05:14 · answer #6 · answered by whitehairblueeyes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with some people - it's wrong! It's not showing morals and values of a christian, and therefore I thinks it's not a good move to make.
You should wait until you are married to move in with them.
That's my personal opinion you asked for!♥
2007-02-27 05:03:33 · answer #7 · answered by ♥LadyC♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who cares about the divorce rate being affected? We moved in after 9 months. Our parents aren't too thrilled, but we feel it is a good lithmus test to see how well we'd live together long-term. There are definitely ups and downs, but overall we're still happy. Good luck.
2007-02-27 05:07:12 · answer #8 · answered by pokecheckme 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the situation. My boyfriend and I said we wouldn't live together until we got married, but now that we each signed our own 1 year lease we are realizing how much money we would save if we only had one rent payment and one set of utilities & stuff.
If you plan on being together long term, I don't see why you shouldn't live together.
2007-02-27 05:04:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I moved in with my man because we had to - If we wanted to stay together. It was after about 3 years. I had just graduated from college, and if I didn't move in w/ him, it was gonna be w/ my parents four hours away. It's worked out well for us.
2007-02-27 05:05:15 · answer #10 · answered by Dee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋