i am lonely all the time it seems! and i cant get a bf here for some reason. they jus dont like me. what should i do? and online dating sux cuz i dunno if theyre cheatin on me or what not
2007-02-27 04:56:00 · 15 answers · asked by inlovebabe1591 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i have friends but i dont always see them all the time plus theyre busy
2007-02-27 05:00:14 · update #1
i do respect myself. n i do like to do animals n stuff but its not the same with a guy or something. i have 2 cats but theyre boring as hell
2007-02-27 05:02:20 · update #2
if your shy then start to talk more. and be ur self.and im 16 so maybe we can talk and don't worry im as honest as honest gets.
2007-02-27 05:02:32 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Looks like you are seriously looking to other people to make you feel good about yourself. First job, get quiet for a minute, mentally take all the people you want to love you and pay attention to you and care for you and put them in a big box and float them out on some inner ocean.
Next, scribble down fast or make crazy sketches of the things you like to -do- that really make you feel "in the groove." Choose a couple of them and let your fingers do the walking. Find out where people gather to do that stuff. Is it an online community? Is there something in town, at the schools.
Maybe you are naturally a loner. Don't be ashamed of that, but find some original stuff to make or do. If you aren't a loner and need people, ask yourself who you can help. Can you tutor a newcomer in English or Math. Does a hospital or old folks place, or handicapped kids need an aide. Church? Politics? Sport? Put the doing first and the people you get with it second for a bit.
Old open secret: When you get with a group of like-minded people you often discover friends and people to love.
2007-02-27 13:06:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is kind of hard... no info about your self...
My ex roomate had dating problems and met her current bf on one of those match sites. I think they pair you up with people who are in your area and enjoy the same activities as you. I think it is eharmony but I could be wrong.
If you feel lonely, maybe you need a hobby? Take up a class at the gym, join a club, or just go to a cafe with a book daily and start interacting with the regular visitors... I guess it would be hard if you are shy (like me) but I guess I would try if I was super lonely.
2007-02-27 13:02:03 · answer #3 · answered by japzkyootipie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Getting a boyfriend it not the only cure for your loneliness. Maybe you need to develop other interests like reading or writing. You may try writing poetry and deal with not only your loneliness but the issues of your life in general. You may go to your public library and read periodicals and meet new people there with similar interests. I go to the Barnes and Nobles book store and I read, write, and meet a lot of people. And by the way they make the best coffee in the world too.
2007-02-27 13:04:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read books and find things you like to do on your own. Don't worry so much about finding a boyfriend. One will come along just when you least expect it and when you are not looking so hard. Friends aren't everything. Spend more time with your family. Get a good vibrator. Smoke some pot.
Good luck.
2007-02-27 13:01:57 · answer #5 · answered by ☺SDgurl☺ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have mates to go out with them once a week, if you don't then think about what hobbies you have maybe horse riding, book reading i dunno something like that and find a for example book club or a club that gets together and does stuff you like, then just get chatting to the people there, maybe if you have work mates invite them to go out to the pub/club your always bound to meet people that way, and if you ever want a friend online to chat to feel free to IM me xx
2007-02-27 13:02:04 · answer #6 · answered by Charlotte S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Water Violet (Hottonia Palustris) is the Bach Flower Remedy for those talented, capable people whose independence and self-reliance can make them seem to be proud and disdainful of others. True Water Violet people are quiet and dignified and prefer their own company or that of a few close friends, but where their natural reserve has built a barrier between them and others they may actually become lonely and be unable to make contact with others. When this happens the remedy can help to bring them back into balance so that they can be more involved with humanity.
Dr. Bach's Description: For those who in health or illness like to be alone. Very quiet people, who move about without noise, speak little, and then gently. Very independent, capable and self-reliant. Almost free of the opinions of others. They are aloof, leave people alone and go their own way. Often clever and talented. Their peace and calmness is a blessing to those around them."
http://www.herbalremedies.com/watviol10via.html
2. http://www.fesflowers.com/ ("Flower Essence Services")
3. http://www.thesecret.tv/home.html ("The Secret")
4. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Qftvt9IHHUM ("Vision Statement")
5. http://www.amazon.com/Simple-Abundance-Journal-Gratitude-Breathnach/dp/044652106X ("Simple Abundance Journal of Gratitude" by Sarah Ban Breathnach).
"Gratitude is the most passionate transformative force in the cosmos," promises author Sarah Ban Breathnach (Simple Abundance) in her introduction. So that everyone can experience the transformational rewards of being grateful, Ban Breathnach designed a day-by-day journal for counting one's blessing. Years of disciplined gratitude have taught Ban Breathnach that "if you give thanks for five gifts every day, in two months you may not look at your life in the same way as you might now." Ideally, the journal writer will feel less discontent and "complicated need" and instead feel more awareness of simple abundance. The journal itself is highly inviting--bordered with simple country colors of cream, corn yellow, and dried sage. But even more inviting are the inspirational quotes sprinkled throughout, such as Henry Van Dyke's message: "Gratitude is twofold--love coming to visit us and love running out to greet a welcome guest." Gail Hudson.
I hope you feel better soon, sweetie!
2007-02-27 13:06:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
well u can talk to other people at work, or school or whatever. u dont have to have a bf now. u can find one later. i mean there is many fish in the sea. just set ur line :).
i prefect friend or bfriend is out there. dont worry
2007-02-27 13:00:53 · answer #8 · answered by SD18 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
volunteer. like animals? go to a shelter. like kids and helping people? find something that you like to do and volunteer with it... or, if you're overweight, lose weight. It's a WORLD of difference on how people treat you ! Trust me... been there, done that.
2007-02-27 13:00:14 · answer #9 · answered by weimj396 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
get a pet and go out with friends.
2007-02-27 13:00:01 · answer #10 · answered by Marie R 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋