My little girl means the world to me. However, I am not sure how to go about dating- not just to "have fun" but to find a real relationship. About once a month I am able to get someone I trust to watch her... but...I feel like if I meet someone I have a lot in common with (and he must like kids of course) it's hard to say "well, I can see you next month" As far as doing something kid friendly together, I am worried about it affecting my daughter if she becomes attached and things don't work out with the guy. Any advice?
2007-02-27 04:50:50 · 11 answers · asked by Mary 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have a friend in a similar situation and it's very difficult for her to juggle dating and caring for her daughter. She has run into situations where she was dating someone, they were introduced her child...then it didn't work out. Her child does occasionally ask about him, but not to the point where it has really affected her. I think you'll just know when the time is right to let that person meet your daughter, after you have established enough trust in that person.
As for not being able to see someone when ever you want, you can fill the gaps via phone calls, IM...things like that, you might even get to know them better that way before you invest more personal time with them. I think it's great that your first consideration is your child...and bottomline, if you meet someone and they are into you...they will wait for you, you'll figure out work arounds and they'll realize what is important to you..and it will become important to them too.
Good luck
2007-02-27 05:07:53 · answer #1 · answered by Shelly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would handle that very delicately. My advice is to not try to "go out" to meet men. One will come along. If you meet a guy you want to see more often, make that extra effort to get a sitter, but don't bring him around your little girl for a while.
If something starts to happen with someone, and he cares about you he'll understand that your daughter is your number one priority and that you can't be going out all of the time.
Just don't worry about dating someone right now. She's only four and the time will fly so fast it will be over before you know it. Also, she will be in school soon and you will have more free time on your hands. Don't stress out over the men. Get a good vibrator.
2007-02-27 12:58:45 · answer #2 · answered by ☺SDgurl☺ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
one thing i have learned to my expense is not to introduce ur kids to a partner , especially a new partner wen things go wrong the kid will be so upset and u cant do anything bout it , i did it and am never going to do it again, go out once a month and stay in touch via phone but i must say i cant see any guy wanting a relationship wen he can only see u once a month , there must be a way to get a sitter u can trust for a more regular outing
2007-02-27 12:56:04 · answer #3 · answered by magrathelaine 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a six year old and I have run into the same problem. I waited until I met someone that I felt would welcome Jason into his life and then I waited until I was sure about him to introduce my son into the mix. We go out together now, all three of us, occasionally. The best thing to do is meet someone who isn't afraid of you having kids. You have to be very upfront because there are guys who say they are okay with dating someone with kids and they turn out not to be. I got lucky, give it time and you will, too.
2007-02-27 12:59:26 · answer #4 · answered by nickyk 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont create a revolving door with lots of men rolling through your little girls life. I wouldnt let anyone meet her for months and months if I were you. Just hold out and screen the men before you even let them know where you live. When you know they are safe and you feel a closeness to the man then introduce him to your pride and joy. Church groups offer great ways to meet others in the same position. Barnes & Nobel is a great place to meet people. Good luck to ya.
2007-02-27 12:57:38 · answer #5 · answered by Devdude 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should spend less time thinking about starting a relationship and more time focusing on your daughter. I have a 5 year old son and I don't date because I don't want him to see different men come and go in his life. Sometimes I get lonely but I have to put my son first.
2007-02-28 15:22:17 · answer #6 · answered by linda p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can take your kid out with a guy then he is worth the chance. I know alot of guys that are single fathers who are having the same problem. You can go to single parent dating groups at churches and stuff.
2007-02-27 12:56:07 · answer #7 · answered by angel2005_2001 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you have family members you can leave her with. How about school is she going to nursey school now. Alot of them has evening hours. When you meet "the guy" things have a way of working itself out. Good Luck!
2007-02-27 13:22:51 · answer #8 · answered by Tia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whomever you are interested in make sure that they know that you are a package deal and under noo circumstances do you want your child toyed with. so only serious people need to apply. Kids are stronger than you think and bounce back really quick.
2007-02-27 13:18:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if he likes you and he likes your daughter then he will be willing to spend time with the both of you. Also maybe you could meet him for lunch if you work?
2007-02-27 12:54:43 · answer #10 · answered by Crystal F 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋