I have never felt so strong about anything in my life, how can I be so wrong about us? Am I just crazy?

Question

I feel like Im losing my mind.....and I know the majority of answers will be, "move on, forget him, hes moved on, hes a jerk."

Together 2 yrs, he left me, he has a lot of issues, he started dating a girl right after me.

I have never in my life felt so strong about anything, and I cant beleive I was so wrong about him. I keep trying to deny it, but I cant. I love him so much, and Ive been able to get over other men fine, but there is something about my ex. Something that just keeps me from moving on, it's just deep down inside, I cant describe it, I just love him and would love him through thick and thin. He is with someone else who is controlling him, and he is being so stupid. I thnk he cares for me, but he is a very stubborn man.

I cant make him want to be with me, but I just dont get why I feel so strongly about him.

Have you ever believed in something so much, and you turned out to be wrong?

Answer 1

Your not crazy but love is blind and it will make you believe and do crazy things you wouldn't normally do.

Answer 2

Yes. My current situation I am in has been the same for 7 years. No engagement, dating and supposidly committed to each other. I am divorced and dating a man I never loved so much in my entire life. It will never be anything more than what it is, but I feel I am stuck there, putting way more in this relationship. I feel I love him way more than he does me and I should move on, and leave, but I can't. I know in my heart I should but can not seem to do it. You were in your comort spot with your ex and that is a great feeling but look inside, would he really have mad a good life time partner? Only you know that. If he loves you he will come back, but until then, go out, have some fun, sourround yourself with your good friends and family, put your nose in a good book, DVD, what about a little travel to see relatives, something to keep you busy and your mind off him.

Answer 3

there will be people in our lives we just won't be able to get over, it has alot to do with our ego's, and who left who. if he left u and got the best of u, its your ego, and self confidence that is hurt. he doesn't care what u could have given him, or how much u loved him, we often times think that they actually care about us, its called denial of the situation, as with denial we still have that last ray of hope thinking they are going to realiaze how much we loved them and come back. but your not seeing the truth here, your refusing to, thats why u can't get past this. u still feel this way because u haven't hooked up with anyone else yet, the choice is yours how long u stay connected to a lost cause. even if he did come back u might be flattered for awhile until u began to remember how he treated u, and that he chose someone else over u. sometimes it takes therapy to get past something, depending on what we may have gone through in our childhood, chances are if your parents took things away from u that u were not yet ready to let go of, that this may be the reason why u are holding on to him so hard. just admit that yes u were wrong about him your seeing him for what he really wasn't, your seeing him through your own eyes and how much u loved him. it does hurt to loose the object of our desires, hurts real bad, but at some point we have to move on and realiaze that if they loved us they would be with us and not that other person.

Answer 4

Sorry but yeah, you should move on. I know that's not what you want to hear but I think you're kidding yourself when you say that he has feelings for you and is just being stubborn. He's with someone else. It's like you said, you can't make him want you so you might as well try and make yourself happy. You never know, you two might get back together one day in the future but for now there is no point dwelling on it.

Answer 5

Yes. I was living with a person that told me they will care for my house and my 2 children...I went to Iraq as contractor for a year...I got emails only when they needed money, I was giving the person over $5,000 a month and they were making 3,500 a month and my house they were living in is paid for.

I was told, I was missed and loved very much...i came home and they did not even take time off to pick me up from the airport....then I found the house in the worse shape, porch is falling, the ceiling is leaking and all kind of ***** .

I could not believe I trusted them and loved them to care for my kids...I left back to Iraq with the emptiest feeling you can ever imagine...but I moved on....and they no longer with in my home or have a relationship with me....Very cold feeling...

Answer 6

"Issues". Whether its a parents divorce, being abused or neglected as a child , or just having low self esteem, whatever our issues are they leave holes in us. What we seem to do is try to fill those holes with substitutes, from drugs and alcohol to sometimes even a girlfriend or boyfriend. Like painkillers, they temporarily remove the symptoms without fixing the problem. If you guys dated for that long and he moved on that fast, women are just substitutes to him. They fill his holes so he can forget (temporarily) about those wounds instead of finding a way (like counseling, or faith in God) to have them be HEALED. That is not real love. Do not be his pain killer anymore. I know its hard but ask yourself if why you can't move on is because he's also your painkiller? If he is, have the courage to face those wounds you have and get them healed. God will help you if you seek him out. email me if you'd like, [e-mail]. I've been there... dated a girl for two years, wanted to marry her, but it fell apart because we were only each other's pain killers and that's not real love. Jesus Christ took upon him our sins but also our pains and sorrows, so that he could heal us. He has healed me. Only after such a healing are we able to love someone fully and selflessly.

Answer 7

Yes...things do not always (if ever) turn out the way we expect. My suggestion would be to read the book "He's just not that into you." It helped me understand a lot about men and how we make excuses for them, when often they can be such jerks! Hope this helps and remember, you are a beautiful person and deserve the best, no exceptions!!!

Answer 8

maybe you want to get back with him and "stick it out" because you see the good in him underneath all of that "craziness... you said it best he's stubborn.. and working with that takes time.. but question is do you really want to put your self through that.. and if so, does he deserve you considering all that he's done that could possibly hurt you verses what you've done that may hurt him emotionally???... does he respect you the same as you do him... and are you willing to put yourself through all of that stress, time, and patience.. despite whether or not it would be worthwhile.. ask yourself if it's worth it... because true that person or anything can be replaced... honestly it can.. it's all a matter of if you choose to allow it to be replaced... your in control... it's your choice to hold on or let go... so what will you do???

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Answer 9

I feel the same way about someone right now. The best thing for you is to move on and forget about him. He probably likes being controlled.

Answer 10

yeah , 14 yrs of marriage flushed down the toilet. guess I was wrong , mostly for ignoring the oh so obvious signs in the beginning. Hey I wont tell you to move on , but I will tell you to open your eyes. See it for what it really is b/c one day now or much later down the road you will have to accept it.

Answer 11

you shouldn't feel that way... we all make mistake and we though no that true... and later found out we were wrong... there alot people there just like you and so am I...

I am a male and I know I will make sure my kids understand better and hope they don't go though what I been though... sometime hearing from someone don't believe but should step back and see and will tell but some time people dont want to step back. and find out... they hate to be wrong.. but nothing wrong for being wrong.