I found birth mother, but she will not call me back. What should I do?

Answer 1

she did give you up for a reason of which you dont know the reasons why. call her again and leave a nice message or write her a letter and tell her about yourself and why you would like to meet her or the list of questions that you have and tell her to get back to you when she is able or at least to tell you that she dont want to be known, and just leave it at that. and wait and see.

Answer 2

I thought about looking for my birth mother many times, but have not for this very reason and because I think she might not be alive.

I would try to reach her three times giving her all of my information. Then I would wait a few months and if she does not reply I would try again.

I would repeat this three times and then let her go. Some of these women cannot face the children that they gave away. Some of them are just scared of the anger that might await them.

After three attempts at three attempts the only thing you could do is to show up at her doorstep. See if she will see you in person. That might just open the door. Otherwise you have done all that you can do.

Take care,
Troy

Answer 3

If you have her address, write her a letter about how you feel. Put a lot of thought into the letter. Do not write it when you are feeling rejected or angry. As you might say things you don't mean and regret it later.
Good Luck! I hope all works out the way you hope! It is possible she has a family who doesn't know about your existence!

Answer 4

what do you mean will not call you back did you talk with someone else or her or machine? maybe she is still in a state of shock that you looked for her , alot of people believe that they dont deserve to be found after they done something like that . and it takes a while to sink in to there heads that it is actually happening and not a dream , if you talked to a machine or someone else i would call back maybe she dident get the message , my kids awnser phone and dont give message i get upset but it dose happen , so try again and dont stop you deserve an explanation as to why she give you away if she dont awnser to to her face to face and get it i would , do you know if you were concived threw wanting sex or rape maybe it is bringing bad memories for her you never know untill you face her and thats what i would do

Answer 5

you must give her time even though you cant wait you have to think how she is feeling she might have a family to thnk about and not said anything about you if there still know responce from her for a while write her a letter saying you understand if you dont want this to go any further but will be there when she dose sometimes we think its all going to be like a fairy tail when its not good luck i hope it turns out for you

Answer 6

she may be in shock, give her a few weeks to get herself together, im sure shes going over everything in her head thinking what she will say, she may be afraid to see you to see her in you. also she may not of told her family or friends so she will have to tell them also. she may also have shame shes dealing with. when u call her again. try to be understanding sympothetic and make sure you tell her u didnt want to hurt her, just that u want to know where u came from. best of luck to you.

Answer 7

she obviously doens't want to be part of your life..

stick with your adoptative parents they may not have given birth to you ..

but they were there for all the important things.. and thats what matters..
i mean they taught you how to read.. ride a bike.. took care of you when you were sick..

Answer 8

LEAVE HER ALONE! She gave you up for adoption for a reason and it's not fair to her to just waltz back into her life. You have adoptive parents and an adoptive family.

Answer 9

Don't give up. She's probably a bit scared at the moment. She will come around.

Answer 10

have some one else call her. Maybe a grandma, or uncle or friend or someone from social service, etc.