Problems with girls?

Question

I've been having a hard time getting over someone and its really getting to me. I'm not what you would call a "ladys man" or am I real good with girls so its not like I can loose someone and boom I automatically will be able to get a new girlfriend. For me, everytime Im interested in a girl, she has no interest in me at all, some other guy dates her or she likes someone else. Second it seems that all the girls that are interested in me I want nothing to do wih because Im simply not interested. I really don't know what to do as it is very discouraging and depressing to have no interest in all the girls coming after me and I get nowhere with the girls I am interested in. Either way, this leaves me with no one and no where to go.

Answer 1

You've already solved your own problem.
You've realized that based on your ATTITUDE towards them, women react differently to you.
The attitude you have towards women you're uninterested in conversely causes them to have interest in you.
The attitude you have towards women you're interested in conversely causes them to become uninterested in you.
So, all you gotta do is start taking notes. How exactly do I behave around women I'm uninterested in? How is that different than the way I behave around women I am interested in? Start adopting the first attitude when dealing with women you are interested in, and you are in the money.

Answer 2

Lemme guess...the girls that are into you also have five extra layers of skin, a hairstyle from the hippie years, and a dick. Just like you're interested in girls that look good, girls are interested in guys that have AWESOME Kick ARS Personalities.
Stop being depressed and take action now! Sitting around and thinking about this won't do anything but will get you to the local psychological help center.

Here, I'll give you some things to spice up your personality. I should be charging you a zillion dollars but hey...I'm a nice guy.
1. Get some hobbies or something. If you go home and stare at a screen all day WHO would be interested.
2. When talking to the ladies, be yourself. None of this: "You're really beautiful" "i like you" (never ever say that until you're actually deep in a relationship) "what do you want to do" (take charge and say what you're going to do togethr) "i'm bored..tired...blah" (complaining is for those of low character)
2. Compliments are for those that are manipulative mostly. If you give a compliment, make sure it's unpredictable and rare...adds more effect.
3. Be a man...don't let her control you, and pass the girl tests ie "If I died what would you do" "You like me don't you"...To pass these tests, respond with something absolutely off and crazy.
4. Be funny...tell stories that are funny....but stay away from self deprication.
5. There's a lot more stuff but I'm getting finger-itis and am going to take a break and play the piano.

Answer 3

It's frustrating when the person you like or have interest in doesn't show the same thing back to you.
Don't get discouraged though, it takes time to find the right person, so patience patience, there are many many girls out there, maybe you just haven't meant the 'right one' yet.
Keep your options open, you might be surprised to find that the least expecting person is the one that'll fulfill all your dreams and desires. Make friends with girls, you don't neccessarily have to be interested in pursuing a relationship with them but that's certainly a gate way to meeting new people. It'll take you some time to really get over the other person and that's totally and completely natural. Girls can be a frustrating bunch, we have a hard time figuring out what it is we want, just be understanding and positive and you'll be pleasantly surprised!
Besides that, don't get too bent up about absolutely having to be with someone, enjoy the time you have to discover who you are, focus on the things you love doing, make the best of it. Good luck!!

Answer 4

I know how you feel. i have the same problem i have no problem getting someone to want to date me, I'm just not simply into the ones who want to. And the ones i do end up with, i end up falling really hard for because they are always exactly what i want in the beginning and say exactly the right things then i end up getting attached giving my all just to find out that isn't even the person i met it was all an act then they get comfortable and change. You might just have to give someone a try that your not that interested in. Maybe you wont be in the beginning but once you get to know them they could be the one you have been looking for. Best advice dont be to picky and keep your guard up with the ones you really do like. someone will come along that was meant for you! hang in there

Answer 5

Think about what it is that is not interesting about the girls that are coming after you. Maybe some of the things that do not interest you about them are what doesn't interest the girls you are going after about you? What is it that you think these girls do and don't see in you? You say you're not a ladies man... are you barking up the wrong tree? Maybe you're setting too high of standards for yourself, or expecting too much out of someone. When you set yourself up for something great and you get let down, it hurts that much more. Try hanging out with one of the girls going after you, no one is saying you guys have to date, but find out what it is they like about you, this will give you a whole new type of girl to go for, because you'll learn about yourself. Don't sell yourself short because the girls you want don't want you. Maybe those girls just aren't for you.

Answer 6

What are the reasons why you don't like the girls that like you? Not attractive enough, smart enough, same interests enough, or what? Is it something you can get over? Have you ever thought that if you just take a glimpse at what is offered, then you might find something you never knew existed? Sometimes I know it sucks, all the girls you like don't like you and then all the girls that like you, you don't like (if you can follow that). I think you have two options: (1) Hold out until you find that girl that likes you and you like or (2) Try one of these girls that already like you and see what happens. Personally, I think option 2 is a good option for now (especially since you don't have anything else going right now), but its your life. Good Luck

P.S. It sometimes seems that when your with someone, your opportunities expand, and when your not, they shrink.....think about it!

Answer 7

The girls that are attracted to you are a mirror match of who you are... like attracts like... Work on yourself and allow the girls to come to you. Stop chasing, take it back to kindergarden, a girl would hit you then you'd run after her. You'll find a good one when the time is right, also you are LOOKING for a girl friend when you just need to make as many friends as possible. If you two grow old together she'd be your best friend not just a girlfriend.. Be friendly be a shoulder to cry on be the got o guy for advice. STOP looking for a girlfriend and start being a friend.

Answer 8

I suggest hanging out with on of your admirers and getting to them. You are probably attracted to the popular girls who think of you as dirt as with many guys who I go to school with. You should start thinking about the other girls who are also very pretty, but are not in the cool crowd. One that has respect for her and others and is nice. Maybe even one of your followers. You never know. Maybe you will like her after a bit of getting to know her.

Answer 9

You sound like my daughter. She has trouble with the guys. Anyway, it just isn't your time yet. Everyone has to get over someone at some point in their life. You just haven't met the right girl yet. Be patient. There are some good ones out there.

Answer 10

Almost everyone has problems with the opposite sex. From your writing you don't sound very confident and women love confidence in men. Try to seem super confident and not desperate for the girl you like, thats the best advice I have.