my mom...?

Question

its kinda hard...she has a really short fuse and althouugh shes lovely sometimes....she gets shouty and angry easily....she calls me a cow a *****....she just told me she hated me.....it makes me cry and because of this im really sensitive at scul like if my friends or beastt friends get really bitchy with me ill feel like iv done something wrong and spend hours getting upset over something thats really nothing...what do i do.??.i suppose it could be some of my fault because i can get sort of superior sometimes but i never shout back and i do try hard not to be....arent most teens like that anyway??..does this happen to many people??

Answer 1

You just need to learn how to get along with difficult people. Go the the Library or Bookstore and get books on how to deal with difficult people ... we all go through this even when we are adults.
Good luck.

Answer 2

I understand what your going thru, but please whatever u do, dont let your mothers antics detur u in ur life. My sister is the same way with her children. My sister and her husband are not small by any means. Their middle daughter is also a big girl, not fat, but just big boned. All thru my neices life, my sister has told her daughter that she is fat and needs to be on a diet, she cussed at all her children, etc... Now my neice is 15 and is dating a total looser in high school. This is because her self-esteem is soooo low. After so many years of this verbal abuse, my neice feels as tho she is a total looser herself. I talked to my sister the other day about my neice and out of the blue, my siter said "what in the world can I do to stop Megan from dating this looser" I told her that the damage has already been done!!!!!

Just keep your head up and know that u are a better person than your mother. And when you have children, remember how u were raised and go the opposite direction. That is what I did with my children. My mother left my father and we were raised by our father, my mother hardley ever came to visit us. I went the total opposite way, my 2 girls know that I will never leave them and will do whatever I have to for them. This may be my downfall because my oldest is 19 and sitll to this day still has to call me and ask me how to do some of the most simplest things. But you know what I wouldnt change a thing. Because they both know Im a phone call away. They feel LOVED!! and that is what is most important.

Keep ur head up gal, your a beautiful person & dont let anyone tell u otherwise!!

Answer 3

This could have been me writing this question a few years ago, it is a difficult situation to be in. You will soon grow up and be able to move out untill then there is not a lot you can do about it. Try talking to your mum tell her that you are finding life hard enough without her being on you back all the while. My mum was very difficult more or less all her life, when you leave home it will be up to you how much you visit her. Good luck to you I do understand what you are going through.

Answer 4

Your mom is venting her anger on you. It is not right but how hard is her life and do you try to make it better?.
I feel for you, and yes most teens do get stroppy, but you are wise enough to know you are doing it, aren't you??
Teens are an emotional time all round, and that could be why you are finding you lack confidence and cry easily.
Try to pick a quite moment when your mother is calm and ask can you talk to her QUIETLY,explain how you are feeling.
Start by telling her you are sorry if you upset her and make her angry, but that you love her and will try to do better.
Ask her to LISTEN to you quietly for 5 minutes and tell her it upsets you VERY MUCH when she shouts and calls you names.
Explain how you are feeling in general, getting upset easily.
Your mother could be completely unaware her actions have such a negative impact on you, when a pattern of behaviour sets in you often begin to treat it as normal.
If you have a quiet talk maybe you will both benefit, I hope so, and don't worry too much your situation is not uncommon but you could make things better, good luck !!!

Answer 5

how old she??could she be going through the menopause?

you say is ok most of the time?? when things are going well, say you need to talk to her. explain to her how you feel, stressing that you are upset and wonder if she has any problems that maybe you could help with?? say you love her and you you know she loves you but its making you unhappy and you are a teen so will probably make her angry at some point, its natural, but can she please find another way to deal with it. perhaps you could both come up with a code word or something, when it is spoken, by either of you, it means that you need to go into different room or something till tempers calm down

Answer 6

I think you need to COMMUNICATE to your mum so she understands you more- try to reach her sympathetic side by telling her you feel down, explain why & try to reach an agreement with her, that she wont shout at you, or call you any more horrible names.
Writing her a little note to remind her how much you love her, will help your mum too, cos sometimes mum's forget... & they do take out their anger on their kids even though they know they shouldn't- it's just you were there when everything got on top of them. It's her way of blowing off steam, but it's a very bad habit.
Point out to her that is VERBAL ABUSE & you are NOT willing to suffer it any more! Stand up for yourself- be strong/er.

Answer 7

You are saying that ur mom is very kind so when she gets angry with u, then simply start count down in ur mind and u will feel little bit relaxed and later when ur mom will come down from high temper then u can clarify with ur mother about ur mistakes which u have did, and first of all u should understand that elders always shout on us for our benefits only they never think of our bad. They always show the correct path for their children for their bright future.

Answer 8

Your Mum should never call you names like that,I don't really think she hates you.Is there something difficult going on in her life at the moment which she's taking out on you? You should sit down & have a talk with her when she's in a better mood & let her know she's really hurt you.

Answer 9

when parents yell at there kids like your mom does, she doesn't really mean it adults sometimes have a really hard time expressing themselves, they think that there kids just understand, they don't realize how much it affects them, sometimes when i argue with someone and say things i don't mean or want them to know how they have hurt me i write all of my feelings down in a letter and I give it to that person and i let them read it and it helps them understand me and my actions better. It's worth a shot.

Answer 10

Try and choose a moment when she is in a good mood and tell her that when she says horrible things it realy hurts you, hopefully, when the time comes again it will be in her mind and she might be able to stop her self going too far.