I am unable to pray or ask for help. Maybe this is a start. I don't know how it happened, but I lost my faith. I love my husband very much, but he has run our little family right into the ground. We are being evicted on April 1 and have not found an apartment. The home we live in was sold and the new owner wants our apartment for her brother. My husband has ran up so much debt and he lies all the time and is completely irresponsible and addicted to lottery. If I try to talk to him, he screams at me that I am trying to give him a heart attack. I have a one year old baby boy and all I do is worry. Can't eat or sleep. Can't leave the house, have severe panic attacks. Feel very suicidal but can't leave the baby. Can't go to parents as there is drug use in the house. My in-laws called and wanted to take my dining room set as they said we will probably become homeless. How could they be so hurtful? I am very nervous. I adore my baby, want him to have two parents.
2007-02-27 04:27:09 · 9 answers · asked by barbara 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
This is going to sound harsh...
I can not imagine how horrible this must be. You need to take care of your baby, not your husband. If you are so stuck on him having two parents, he will end up that way -- when Child Welfare takes him because you are homeless.
Leave your husband! He does not care about you or your son!
If possible, check into a women's shelter and start fresh without him. It might be difficult but at least you can make a life for your baby. Don't let him back in!
Prayer is to get God's assistance, it is not a way for you to shirk your responsibilities to your children by not taking any action.
2007-02-27 04:44:12 · answer #1 · answered by Tanya Pants 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
That is terrible! I don't know your situation or you so I can't offer an opinion other than that you spend some time reflecting on Psalm 37:4 and Proverbs 3:5-6, these two verses have helped me during seemingly impossible situations. They help me realign myself and to trust God.
Another good one is Psalm 13.
Hope this helps.
According to the Bible here are some options for you:
1. If he is having an affair, you can divorce him.
2. If he is being abusive, you can leave him until he has gotten help & is restored. Find a friend, or a ministry (there are many for such cases-Lydia's Home, I think is one). A Crisis Pregnancy Center will probably have some good contacts for you.
3. You set an example for him in your conduct and faith.
4. If he wants to leave, let him.
2007-02-27 04:37:13 · answer #2 · answered by Jeff- <3 God <3 people 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
God still has faith in you. Before your prayers can be answered, it wouldn't hurt to do a little soul searching for yourself. Think about the life you want to have for your baby. You have to put your needs ahead of his. God can only show you the door, but you have to walk through it. His help can come in any form so make sure you keep a watchful eye and an open heart about the things that are going on around you.
In times of hardship is when God will test your faith the most. Now, more than ever, is the time to have faith. Put it all on God as He wants you to do and ask Him to help you find your way. Obviously, you already know getting out of that situatio is the best thing to do for you and your son, and possibly your husband. Maybe God is already talking to you. Listen to Him. The little "gut instinct" that tells you the difference between right and wrong is the Holy Ghost communicating with your soul. Try to listen.
2007-02-27 04:51:34 · answer #3 · answered by Theresa B 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
God is probably trying to talk to you but I'm not sure your ready for his answer. Sounds like your husband is the problem. If what you say is true maybe God is telling you to end the relationship, in other words it is your will to have your child raised by two parents, but God's will may not involve your husband doing the raising. Perhaps, you would meet someone else. Either way I'm not sure if that is what God is telling you, I'll surely pray for as well, I just think He is trying to communicate but you don't want to hear the answers. God bless!
2007-02-27 04:35:17 · answer #4 · answered by Scott B 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Please accept my most sincere sympathy. My advice and answer to your question are not intended to be harsh--you are simply in an extremely harsh situation.
There's a time for everything, and it may not be the time to pray--or it may not be the time to pray for what you're praying for. You naturally want your child to have two parents, but it has gone beyond what you want. Now, it is about what your child needs. He needs a home, stability and an environment he can depend on. That is your priority.
Use the internet to obtain information about shelters. Find whatever you need to provide your child with what he needs. Pray for the strength and clarity to save you and your son from destitution and whatever else your husband can contribute to your household. That might help.
2007-02-27 04:37:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Pray all you want. God will not pay your rent, find you a home, change your husband's abusive behavior and addictions or change the attitude of your obviously spiteful in-laws.
I dont wish to be mean, but Ive got news for you. Your husband doesnt love you. At least, you dont treat someone you love (or your child) by gambling away your income, losing your home, lying to you, or projecting guilt onto your wife by blaming her for HIS failures.
Be honest with yourself - will your child be better off with two parents that constantly fight, yell at each other and lie to each other? Or, will your child be better off being cared for by one very loving mother on her own? You need to leave this pig who cannot take responsibility for his own actions, sue him for child support and in the meantime, get on public assistance. Find a job and a home, and then get yourself off public assistance. I know the idea is hard and difficult - perhaps you dont WANT to go on PA..but it is there for people like yoursself who NEED it, rather than those who abuse the system.
Best of luck.
2007-02-27 04:39:23 · answer #6 · answered by YDoncha_Blowme 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
In the name of Allah, the Gracious, the Merciful.
And when My servants ask thee about Me, say 'I am near. I answer the prayer of the supplicant when he prays to Me. So they should hearken to Me and believe in Me, that they may follow the right way.'
And seek help with patience and prayer, and this indeed is hard except for the humble in spirit,
2007-02-27 04:37:15 · answer #7 · answered by MUHAMMAD 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋
If you truly want God's help you just need to ask. He will listen to you. Pray in the name of His son Jesus because it is only through him that we can reach the father.
2007-02-27 04:36:52 · answer #8 · answered by mufasa 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
"help" is notably found at the throne of "grace".
At throne of grace only "mercy" is obtain-able.
http://www.godshew.org/Hebrews5.htm
The law is "not of faith": Galatains 3:12
In-Laws are usually as Law Law as it gets.
Law is the most deadly high of all such highs.
http://www.godshew.org/TwainShew4.htm#Laws
Worry attracts trouble, like a magnet.
Perhaps you've attracted your trouble.
Try "grace is sufficient" (no law req'd).
His Grace "is", always is: "sufficient".
There's no fear nor panic in "sufficient".
http://www.godshew.org/GraceUntoYou.htm
Whatever you need, it is always there, waiting.
Grace: "I will never leave thee nor forsake thee".
http://www.godshew.org/TwoGods.htm
The GRACE of our Lord Jesus Christ with you all. Amen.
2007-02-27 04:57:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋